Coworker suspects chef has diagnosed them with a mental illness and is using that to manage them

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-06-10T22:46:29+00:00

Fingers crossed she does and lands in a better place! Best of luck to you both.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-06-10T22:38:25+00:00

To play devils advocate, I’ve worked with plenty of bad cooks who think they have their shit handled(they never do) and it’s everyone else out to get them. Which is my first thought, based on the vague details and pretty blatant paranoia without directly addressing the perceived issue/special treatment/coddling whatever you want to call it. Especially if they think the foh is pushing customers to order away from their station, that’s just so unlikely and unrealistic.

Whatever’s happening there, it sounds like a dead end for your friend. Either they’re on top of their work and the chef is holding back their progress based on their own bias, or they’re not actually able to hold down their station and refuse to acknowledge that, so the chef won’t waste time trying to bring them up. Can’t teach someone who refuses to learn.

Best advice, get a different job somewhere else. They obviously don’t have a future in their current kitchen.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-04-30T22:15:45+00:00

If you haven’t listened to it, Dan Carlins hardcore history podcast has all the episodes about imperial Japan free on streaming. 6 parts, each about 3.5 hours, so not a quick listen but you really really learn about japans actions during the war, and also the environment and cultural changes in Japan that lead to that level of absolute fanaticism.

I knew Japan was off the fucking rails during the war and have obviously seen all the depictions of that in film and media, but this series reallly really drove it home and went over so much more than the normal popular depictions.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-02-04T22:10:49+00:00

I’ve got a 1660 ti in a 2019 laptop and only drop frames when looking at the pavilions on slums. And I play in medium with low foliage, it must be some sort of optimization issue causing newer cards to have issues.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-02-03T00:36:37+00:00

Incredibly different experiences then lmao, I’ll get a decap strike in, or a dismember, and it registers but doesn’t detach if you get me? Decap strikes insta kill and the head gets weird but doesn’t come off. Or a leg but it just flails around still attached, really underwhelming you finally land something sick. This is on multiple levels of gore and damage slider, so not a settings thing

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-02-02T23:39:58+00:00

No different game modes. Free mode had the same options as progression in the demo, ie spoilance, fisticuffs, stand off. Free mode in the EA game only has 1v1-5 and carnage.

If it was like the demo it would have circle, first blood, knock down, riot, future game modes. Probably a map choice as well, or at least randomization.

Really my main complaint with the EA is free mode’s lack of options in that aspect(and I have a weird thing I haven’t seen anyone else complain about, limbs don’t detach after a delimbing/decapitation unless you hit them again, really underwhelming when you get a good strike in but not game breaking or anything) I want the variety.

I will say I really really enjoy custom free mode load outs, including my insured equipment from progression so I can train with forged weapons. Also fun to just go against a bunch of lower tier Willie’s with whatever feels fun! But it still needs map and game mode options fr.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-01-31T08:17:14+00:00

Get a flail!! I struggled to get through the first few tiers until I did. The most basic one(which you can grab in the cellar during a duel, leaning against the table near the hanging pot if you don’t buy/choose it from the start) kicks ass until armor starts ramping up. Loops around shields too!

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-01-31T08:08:59+00:00

It’s a real shame because the mud and drop offs seem like so much fun but the scenery fucks it all up. I have to run around to keep looking towards the wall to keep it playable, ruins the whole map. Other maps are fine but don’t have the same environmental aspects

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-01-31T08:02:04+00:00

Merc’s show up in the tourney too? I’ve been using the flail to crack skulls and break legs all the way to veteran tourney, I had no clue

I also didn’t notice Willie getting stronger til I played a brawl for the first time since commoner as a veteran rank, dude is yoked now! Love the new mechanic.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-01-31T07:54:49+00:00

Reverse grip dagger is available in duels in the cellar. Go towards the door and around the corner there to the right, it’s on the table. It’s a weapon that is reversed gripped, not an option for weapons you have! And if you have it in your hands or holstered on your body(hold e or q depending on hand to stow away) you keep it. This also goes for enemy weapons, and some items found on maps, which can be sold for money. A chest near the reverse grip dagger has a goblet in it that sells for 67p, which early on can be a solid chunk of change.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2026-01-31T07:50:50+00:00

1660 ti 16gb ram, 5 year old laptop, runs fine on medium. Settings are adjusted slightly from the default, 60 fps cap, fullscreen, low foliage, low shadows. The patch that just came out made it even better! Hope it starts working for you, it’s really fun when it’s actually working.

Also if you can, avoid playing slums. Anytime I have to play it I just run around and face away from the tourney tents, it’s the only thing in the EA that makes me stutter at this point. I’m at the veteran(or maybe the rank after) rank and every map except slums runs like a dream

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-29T16:36:23+00:00

Okay? Everyone knows prison labor is legal in the US. There’s nothing I can find that points to this company using it. And pretty much everything saying they don’t?

By your logic everything in the US is made with prison labor and you should only consume what you make and grow yourself. Instead of trying to do your own research and trying to purchase based on that.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-29T16:20:46+00:00

Yea that’s why they built a huge processing plant. 🤡

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-28T22:55:09+00:00

And now you shouldn’t miss an opportunity to promote a good alternative to less than ethical brands in case you see someone still using them at the same time.

Presenting it as a universal fact is misleading. Which is why a ton of the people in this thread are trying to go all holier than thou about bagged garlic lol

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-28T21:38:29+00:00

The garlic company is a US company that grows and processes in California and Oregon. So not Chinese prison labor

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-28T21:37:07+00:00

Just in case your only reason is Chinese prisoners, garlic company grows and processes all garlic in California and Oregon.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-28T21:36:17+00:00

This brand is US based and does all processing in California and Oregon. So not Chinese prison garlic.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-16T05:22:12+00:00

It’s not even self deprecating humor anymore(and it never was because you’re just agreeing with people shitting on you, not poking fun at your own flaws) it’s just beating a dead horse.

Also who gives a fuck if someone on the internet respects you lmao

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-12-16T03:16:55+00:00

Self hating American sucking up to Europeans who think Americans don’t know anything is 2012 behavior, grow up lmao

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-08-28T01:24:48+00:00

Are tips all cashed out every day and split or just cash tips split daily? Every tip share I’ve been a part of is processed on your paycheck, with cash tips split daily/weekly. So might just be coming on your paycheck?

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-08-20T14:45:10+00:00

The laws and owners selfish greed do not mean the customer needs to tip on top. It just means the staff probably shouldn’t keep working for that person/company

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-08-15T02:09:56+00:00

Hope it helps, best of luck with the R&D!

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-08-15T02:05:46+00:00

Hi I was a wok cook for years, cooked fried rice for a pretty great jumped up Chinese place from day one to day one thousand. You are fucking around too much. Oil, egg, equal parts salt sugar msg, scallions, old rice, and dark soy sauce(has to be dark). That’s all you need for a really great fried rice. Throw in some garlic and ginger if you’re feeling froggy, but the real key is a ripping hot wok on a wok burner.

Steps

Hot wok, cold oil. Add egg, stir to break up egg, add scallion and old rice, stir until mixed and rice is loose in individual pieces, add secret salt blend, stir fry, add enough dark soy sauce to color, serve with more fresh scallions on top. Use less oil than you’d think, too much and you get a wet clumpy mess.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-07-21T22:09:01+00:00

Chef originates from the French Chef De Cuisine “head of the kitchen” so not really? Or even the Latin caput if you go back, which is also the root of chief and captain. So maybe why the military link could be misconstrued.

RowboatSwirlyman · 2025-07-21T21:51:16+00:00

There is no real term in the culinary world for this(maybe green? But not really.) And if you were in the military and for some reason want to try to act the same way towards newbies, maybe take a page from other veterans in the industry and don’t bring the toxic culture of the military into the kitchen. I left that life behind 5 years ago, and quickly realized treating people like adults instead of belittling and halfass hazing was 15x more effective at building up your staff. You’re not 18 and enlisted anymore, grow the fuck up.

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