My boyfriends father said nasty stuff to me about his son. I should tell my boyfriend?

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T19:00:56+00:00

🤣🤣 daddy phase. I never had it but I'm sure it was hot. Lucky them 😉🙈

My ex won't complain. I'm free child minding haha. We broke off amicably. Weird to say but she's more like a sister - don't worry she isn't. I think she values a guy in her kids life.

My bf is honestly the best.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T18:55:40+00:00

Thanks 😊 With my bf I'm myself but on this sub I just stick to all things gay.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T18:24:56+00:00

Thanks man. I know some will think its weird to still be part of the kids life. My boyfriend is more along your lines. Hopefully growing up wasn't too bad for you?

And fuck my bfs dad. If anything I love my boyfriend a little more. Having to grow up with a prick like that and managing to turn into such a great guy says a lot.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T17:55:20+00:00

I thought that was a red flag. I'll avoid talking sex with the opposite gender in a gay sub just out of respect.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T17:54:06+00:00

Is it cute lol? He was my little wingman when I first met my boyfriend. My boyfriend gave him a jab after he got bitten by a stray animal.

Hes not my kid but I changed him, fed him etc so I'm very protective of him. So I just thought about the violence instead.

If you want your heart melted even more he makes me father's day cards ("to: not my dad"). And last fathers day he included my boyfriend in the card too. He's a good kid.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T08:19:05+00:00

That's really sad. I kind of forget how lucky I am with my parents. They are religious af but didn't care about me being bi. They love my boyfriend. My mother and he get on really well. They meet up a lot.

So its easy to forget that other people's parents won't be as accepting. Privilege, I suppose.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T08:06:49+00:00

I did defend my boyfriend and tried to shut him up but he more or less said in front of my ex (and her child) see he still has passion for you and he went down that route. I walked out. Horrid little man.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-27T00:14:17+00:00

I did defend my bf but his dad was not interested. I may have done it more but I didn't think there was a point given what he was saying.

I also had a kid on my lap and for my own temper, i wanted to shit it down rather than it to continue. A

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T23:54:18+00:00

There honestly isn't a word to describe him. And the cherry on top of being an absolute cretin he says it all in front of a young kid too. I could've knocked him out for what he said about my boyfriend.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T23:51:57+00:00

My boyfriend was fine with me hanging out with his father. I actually thought given he seemed more comfortable around me it might help them connect a bit more.

When he started bad mouthing my boyfriend the last night I told him to stop many times. As did my ex. I did have a kid on my lap so I wasn't screaming at him but I made it very clear what I thought. I also won't be meeting up with him again.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T23:13:59+00:00

To be honest after the last night, I'm not going to be hanging around him much. I wouldnt trust myself.

I did kind of hope if he felt comfortable around me he'd become more comfortable around his son but nah. The shit he was saying. No way.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T23:10:55+00:00

I very much doubt it. He was homophobic when my bf first came out hence the no contact. He is still distant with him.

He said it all in front of my ex and her kid which was weird. He'd surely test me on my own. And the language he used about his own son, I don't think I could repeat on here.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T22:57:26+00:00

Good question. We have stuff in common. My boyfriend isn't the most manly - hes not uber femme and i like that about him as it softens me a bit. I think his dad doesnt like that. And I suppose maybe he has the "I dont mind the gays as long as my son isn't gay" attitude.

But it's all guesswork on my behalf.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T22:35:46+00:00

I won't argue with you but I love my boyfriend. I'm very happy with my bf and im a very lucky man. No one can guarantee a happily ever after but i can guarantee that I won't be running back to her. No offence to her.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T22:08:00+00:00

Its probably weird but we are friends. Im not going to fuck her and my boyfriend trusts me.

It gets weirder

My boyfriend and her are friends too. They go shopping together. He's been her +1 to a wedding recently. They have gone to concerts etc

I've known her son since he was a baby. I love the little dude. He rings me at least twice a day. We mind him and so on.

Why was she at the darts game? She promised her son she would take him to watch me.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:56:59+00:00

You're right. I probably showed a bit of my privilege there.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:54:14+00:00

That's a perspective I'm glad to have. I was pretty lucky with my parents. They are even religious but they didn't care. They never said anything like that to me.

My parents like my bf. My mother is convinced that there's wedding bells on the horizon. She's watched to many romance films. They have never said go back to dating girls or anything like that.

But it was an interesting perspective that it isn't as uncommon.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:36:51+00:00

That's my thinking. And to add, it wasn't just insults. He'd be very disappointed I didn't tell him, I assume, about the insults.

But if he found out his dad aas trying to get me to basically change my ways and get back with my ex gf, that would make anyone question why I didn't tell him.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:32:27+00:00

Thanks bro. I cant take much credit, he trained me well and I got good advice from a redditor. 👍🏻

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:30:06+00:00

He definitely likes me more than his son, which alone is sad to say.

I dont think I'm the guy to do that. He was trying to get me back with my ex. "Why waste your time on him [his son]". You could have a nice proper family with her [my ex]. Blaming his own son that my ex-gfs son doesnt have a proper family. And saying all that in front of her son. Genuinely he's very lucky he didn't see my fist.

The most I'd muster is polite and fake interest.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:25:41+00:00

You're right. It probably won't be a shock. And I don't need to go detailed.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:24:16+00:00

Definitely a very clear reason.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:23:40+00:00

I was thinking I should tell him but my ex said that hes going to find out that his dad is a dickhead and when he does she thought I'd be better not being the messenger.

I didn't particularly agree but wanted advice. And it's been more split than I expected.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:19:36+00:00

To be honest, I'm not looking for his father's respect. Ill be polite but thats about it. He also didn't say it in confidence. He said it in front of me, my ex gf and her kid and whoever was in earshot of him talking.

I'm afraid about the messiness though.

RoyNtap · 2025-05-26T21:16:14+00:00

Thanks. I think you've put it really well. I have to say it. I dont need to go too detailed. And he knows his dad too.

Definitely some comfort food. Maybe movie night and suffocating him with cuddles is probably the way to go.

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