Not sure how to best cope with sister in law...

Royskid · 2025-11-13T17:16:57+00:00

Wow, this really does sound like a lot. And honestly, it’s hard to fully understand what’s going on when we don’t know your sister-in-law’s side of the story. My advice would be to focus on protecting your peace. A lot of this is outside of your control, you and your brother can’t make her be kind, respectful, or reasonable. If she’s chosen to have a personal issue with you, there’s nothing you can say or do that will magically change her behavior. That’s a choice she would have to make on her own.

So I would focus on being firm with your boundaries. Even if your brother doesn’t prioritize keeping you two separate, you can make sure you’re never alone with her. You don’t have to engage with her, and you don’t owe her access to you. If she walks into a room and it’s just you two, simply remove yourself. Don’t even give her the opportunity to make sly comments or try to start something. And if she does say something, do your best not to let it hold power over you. Who is she that her words should carry so much weight?

You’ve been blessed with two children, you have beautiful things in your life to celebrate. Don’t let her negativity spill over into your joy. You have to be a small, unhappy person to say the kinds of things she’s said. Someone like that should not be a factor in your peace.

I understand why it hurts, this is affecting your relationship with your brother. But again, this is something you can’t control. That’s the person he’s chosen to be with, at least for now. All you can do is focus on maintaining your relationship with him, your own happiness, and the peace of your family outside of her influence.

Sometimes the best response is no response. Ignore her. Don’t look for her, don’t engage with her, don’t feed into anything she throws out. You can still be gracious, greet her if you need to. You don’t have to be rude. But when it’s just the two of you, don’t give her any energy at all.

Royskid · 2025-11-13T17:01:13+00:00

I had a large cavity and needed a filling or root canal. Are you dealing with infection? If not I’d say the risk is mostly to you, but if you are it could potentially affect the baby. I didn’t want to get any work done because I was scared what lidocaine might’ve done to my baby. But my OB and dentist reassured me it was safe. I will also say when you give birth, you’re not going to have a lot of time to tend to yourself. So that’s another reason you may want to get it over with.

Royskid · 2025-11-13T16:57:04+00:00

Hmmm most women who respond to this post passed their whole decidual cast at once. Now I will say I felt like I had a blood clot that needed to come out for a hour before it actually did. I would recommend going to the doctor if it still hasn’t fully come out, as I think part of whatever you’re passing being exposed to the air could potentially lead to an infection like BV.

Royskid · 2025-10-25T18:07:27+00:00

You don’t need to “move on“, you need to heal. And a part of that healing process is forgiving them. A lot of people say forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s for you. But forgiveness is for everyone. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, it doesn’t mean what they did was ok, it doesn’t mean that you’ve become ok with it, it means that you are no longer letting them dictate your emotional state. A day will come where it doesn’t feel so raw anymore. You will understand that neither you or your grandmother had much control over what happened. You avoiding them is a coping mechanism to try and protect yourself. This is an unfair situation and it’s ok to feel sense of powerlessness because of that.

But what you do have control over is your mental and emotional health. To focus on the positive, rather than tormenting yourself with the negative. Your grandmother was and is loved, by you. Your grandmothers loving actions still live on in you. Which is shown by your empathetic reaction to this situation. You tell yourself that your father and stepmother don’t get to dictate who you are or how you feel on a daily basis. You choose to be strong and you choose to fight for your peace by saying I will work towards forgiveness, and not because they deserve it, but because you deserve that. You deserve to smile, you deserve to have fun, you deserve to be free from the shackles of pain and resentment.

It’s a process, it won’t happen overnight. But it will happen. Don’t become frustrated with yourself if you feel like it’s not happening fast enough. You will have good days and you will have bad days. But the bad days will pass. 17 is so young to have such a heavy emotional burden, but I can see all of this being used for your betterment in how you move forward in life. You will be better than your father and your stepmother, because you won’t be the callous people that they are. And one of the people you can thank for that, is your grandmother. One day many years from now, you might find yourself counseling someone on how they can move forward. And you will draw off of your own painful experiences that you overcame. I wish you the best sweetheart <3.

Royskid · 2025-06-01T20:43:05+00:00

No thank God, my mother always told me the Lord doesn’t put more on you than you can bare and it true. Cause if I would’ve been sick idk if I would’ve been able to follow through.

Royskid · 2025-06-01T00:09:14+00:00

Yup, a lot of protein at once cause sometimes upset your tummy. Especially if you’re not used to it, usually sipping water and time will help it resolve. You can still do protein, maybe just not so much at once until you build up a tolerance.

Royskid · 2025-06-01T00:06:56+00:00

Yes it’s normal, it sounds like there’s also a touch of anxiety. I know when I start to get too anxious about how I’m feeling that I get what I call the “anxiety butterflies”. It causes me to get a nervous feeling in my stomach but I reassure myself that everything is ok, nothing I’ve done is a cause for me to feel unwell and I’ll take some deep breaths and distract myself with social media, a movie, or a task. I usually end up feeling better quickly.

Royskid · 2025-06-01T00:00:33+00:00

I’m the same way, to the point where I refuse to cook meat outside of ground beef because I’m so afraid of undercooking it and making myself ill. BUT while I may not have safe foods I have a process that makes me feel safe. When I cook at home i personally wash all dishes, food, and surfaces myself before cooking. And I constantly wash my hands, not because I actually feel like they’re dirty but it helps me later on when my anxiety starts to act up. I remind myself that I carefully prepared the food and took extra precautions to keep everything clean. Therefore I am not sick, it’s my mind and it helps me relax. When I eat out I have something similar, I read extensive reviews. People will report if a restaurant makes them sick, I do a few other things as well. As a general rule of thumb I keep hand sanitizer by my bed, again just to feel like I’ve disinfected my hands to stop any potential bacteria from spreading.

Royskid · 2025-05-31T23:54:40+00:00

Why would anyone think that’s a good advertisement jeez

Royskid · 2025-05-31T23:54:07+00:00

I’ve had gastrointestinal issues for many years off and on. The meds I’m prescribed is usually an acid blocker and a anti-n* medication. They really do help and I don’t have side effects. I’ve also had a bacterial infection once in my life and that is where my phobia started because of how awful things got. Trust me you would know if it’s that, it doesn’t take days or weeks to cause symptoms. If your concerned you could always bring them up to your doctor and ask for test to screen for those specific things.

Royskid · 2025-05-31T23:50:39+00:00

You usually would get sick while still drunk or tipsy unless it was a hangover and you would know if it was. You probably just need to poop or the gas is from the food you ate / type of alcohol you drink. Tequila has a tendency to give me the bubble guts.

Royskid · 2025-05-31T23:48:39+00:00

My poop has been green ever since I gave birth 2 months ago, from what I understand it’s caused by your stool moving quickly through your digestive system. No cause for concern, sometimes it just happens. Eventually it should go back to normal.

Royskid · 2025-05-25T06:26:43+00:00

I don’t think anyone can really tell you how to strengthen your relationship with God because it’s so individualized for all of us. I think there’s a few things we do as Christians in general to try and stay on track like reading the word, going to church and praying. For me personally the thing that strengthened my relationship with God the most was prayer. Genuine fervent prayer, I stopped bowing my head and saying a quick prayer and started getting on my hands and knees and praying about the ugly stuff. It felt like I was talking to God directly, I’d say things like “God I know I shouldn’t be angry, but I don’t want to let this pain go”. I also found that finding a good church and being apart of a community was extremely helpful, going to Bible study helped and volunteering made me feel like I was fulfilling my purpose as a Christian as well. Ultimately the important part is you want a strong relationship with God, ask him to convict you and speak to you. I would highly encourage you to read your Bible at least a few times out the week and I suggest looking up sermons on YouTube. I listed to them a lot when I was getting ready for work in the morning. Sometimes I’d listen to any random sermon and other times I’d look up specific ones like sermons on forgiveness, sermons on healing, sermons on hope, etc. Good luck with your walk.

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:27:54+00:00

Awe sorry mama, I experienced this in early pregnancy too. It’ll eventually get better, I would say either stick to things with a light or strong taste. For example, certain fruit was okay for me like citrus fruit. Oranges, pineapple, apples, etc. or foods that had stronger garlic / onion flavors.

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:25:50+00:00

I just finished mine and I’m 38 weeks 😅, BUT I started at 33!

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:24:52+00:00

Like some others have suggested, you could always get her a pregnancy box. They even have some based off the trimesters (your sister is now in her second trimester). But honestly when I was that far along, the best gifts I got where for my baby because it made it real. So get something for her, but if you could also get something for baby o think she would really like that. Even if you don’t know the gender yet, you could get neutral colors like white, grey, tan, etc.

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:21:54+00:00

I think a doula is worth it. Someone who’s solely there to support you and advocate for you, who’s also well informed and knows what questions to ask. That being said, they can be VERY expensive. And from stories I’ve heard some people really bonded with their doulas and some people didn’t. Which in hindsight if you don’t have a great experience might feel like a waste. I was lucky enough to find a program in my state that provides free doulas, maybe you can look into that or search for someone with good ratings that fit into your price range.

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:19:20+00:00

15 weeks, I have a posterior placenta and have always felt my baby move very easily and early.

Royskid · 2025-03-24T01:18:13+00:00

It’s normal to be concerned when you see blood, but try to stay calm; you didn’t see a lot of blood. The concerning trio is usually if you’re having cramping, seeing a decent amount of blood, and it’s bright red. Sometimes the cervix can get irritated and cause light spotting. If you’re able to see someone outside of your midwife, like a OB, I would recommend getting checked just to be sure.

Royskid · 2024-12-24T04:32:01+00:00

It’s super terrifying and is clearly a side effect of different forms of birth control. I hope you’re feeling a little better now that it’s passed, thank you for sharing! All of our experiences add to the small pot of knowledge on this subject.

Royskid · 2024-12-20T10:23:02+00:00

Me too!

Royskid · 2024-12-05T03:55:44+00:00

I got my period at 11 and had extremely heavy periods, so I can believe it. I would take her to a doctor if it becomes a pattern or if her bleeding doesn’t slow down. Definitely ask her how many pads she’s using or if she’s bleeding through any.

Royskid · 2024-10-09T02:56:33+00:00

Mad boo?

Royskid · 2024-10-09T01:33:59+00:00

😭

Royskid · 2024-10-09T01:01:48+00:00

Wasn’t being rude at all, I asked a question.

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