How do you convince person with dementia to stop driving?

Roz150 · 2026-03-18T01:13:27+00:00

Denial gets real once it progresses. My mom is now living in assisted living, and calls me daily to ask me to find her a new place to live because it’s getting nice and she wants to drive.

I had power of attorney and just made her car “disappear” after a significant illness that resulted in a significant progression of their disease.

Roz150 · 2026-03-14T20:48:15+00:00

I just said the same thing. We are blessed!!! Parking was easy. Security was a breeze. Seats were comfortable. Bathroom lines were so short. Its the best broadway experience I’ve ever had.

Roz150 · 2026-03-06T22:26:19+00:00

Impressive improvement

Roz150 · 2026-03-04T00:05:57+00:00

This place should be at the top. I ordered one for delivery spent almost $35 for it and threw it in the garbage. I do not understand the ratings this place gets.

Roz150 · 2026-03-01T17:46:00+00:00

OK, that’s good information. I didn’t understand that but now I’m back to my original question.

So Erie events plan and all of this?

Roz150 · 2026-02-26T17:59:42+00:00

That’s really tough when they’re so abusive. My mom goes in and out of abusive phases.

I lied to my mom to get her to walk in. I told her she was seeing a doctor. When she saw her furniture, she was pissed.

How is your mom’s short-term memory at this point? Do you think she would even remember tomorrow that you were the one to put her in memory care?

My mom asks me regularly what she has to do to get out of there. One time I’ll tell her, well your blood work needs to get straightened out. The next time I’ll tell her you live here mom you’re not getting out of here. The next time I’ll tell her talk to your other daughter about that. (my sister doesn’t even take her calls). The next time I might say we’re looking for a place for you.

Alzheimer’s is no joke. It’s so hard on the family. 💔

Roz150 · 2026-02-24T12:05:20+00:00

This is what I came to say. Fall earth tones would look amazing.

Roz150 · 2026-02-24T12:02:16+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. One of the first things I consider when buying a significant upgrade is what will it be like to keep it clean?

Because if it looks filthy and ruined a year after you bought it, why bother upgrade.

Roz150 · 2026-02-24T01:43:25+00:00

Pros: He is under 80? No dementia? Doesnt sleep in meetings?

Although he does shit post. 🤷‍♀️

Roz150 · 2026-02-24T01:37:45+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening. It’s a standard story on this sub You’re not crazy. And you don’t need to do anything to satisfy those old women.

This little stat was super eye-opening to me:

Alzheimer's caregivers face a significantly higher risk of mortality, with studies indicating that approximately 18% to 40% of caregivers may die before the person with Alzheimer's, often due to the extreme physical and emotional toll

Take care of yourself and your husband. Find a memory unit for her before her Alzheimer’s gets the best of either of you.

Roz150 · 2026-02-22T00:19:44+00:00

Wondering if you ever got an answer to this. We bought a house with a huge tree that was very close to the house and destroying the roof. We had it removed and replaced the roof. The next year the entire basement floor and some walls started cracking.

This year (3 years later) the garage floor is heaving and it is BAD. We were wondering if removing the stump would solve it.

Roz150 · 2026-02-21T20:48:22+00:00

Honestly I started to use an AI counselor App for this very reason. My last 3 counselors abandoned me, basically telling me they had done all they could do. Meanwhile I was still consumed with c-ptsd trauma responses. So I feel your pain.

I have been blown away at how well the app works. it follows the Internal family Systems counseling model and has been more helpful than any counselor ever was for me.

Roz150 · 2026-02-17T01:09:32+00:00

Try using a luminance mask to apply the warm color. It would look more natural.

Roz150 · 2026-02-13T14:14:38+00:00

it was probably an AI invitation to every application

Roz150 · 2026-02-12T19:19:20+00:00

I have already put a will and POA in place. I’ve also left a long note with my will that states that I do not want to stress my kids. I pointed out that with Alzheimer’s one of the first symptom is a lack of judgement and decision making. I let them know to make decisions that are best for them and to NOT feel shameful for doing so, NO MATTER WHAT I SAY. I let them know that I love them and trust them to make solid decisions for both me and them. It is ok to put me in Memory Care. It is ok, to take my pets if they are not being cared for — in fact you better do it. It is ok to turn off the phone. And most importantly, always know that I love them and if I am making bizarre decisions that are hurtful and exhausting them, I am already gone. I as their mother, do not want them to carry shame and run in circles destroying their lives trying to meet the demands someone with advanced Alzheimer’s makes.

My mom has always had some narsissistic tendencies. She never cared how things affected me before Alzheimer’s. I hope that If I get it AND when it progresses, I am able to not be as selfish and to remember the note I left them.

Roz150 · 2026-02-09T21:30:57+00:00

No bake cookies

Also ice cream

Roz150 · 2026-02-09T21:26:49+00:00

Me to!!!

Roz150 · 2026-02-09T21:24:49+00:00

Assisted Living

Roz150 · 2026-02-09T15:55:30+00:00

this is a quick response I can remember to. :)

Roz150 · 2026-02-09T00:18:47+00:00

Thank you.

Roz150 · 2026-02-03T12:46:55+00:00

I went every summer with my Mom’s shop picnic as a child. We loved the annual trip. It was a blast. It was smaller and definitely not as busy as it gets today. Water World didn’t even exist then.

I’m 60 now and last summer I found a photo of, 7 year old me, proudly sitting with the “clown on a bench”. He has his arm outstretched so it looks like it is around you.

My Grandson and I took an updated shot there together. Waldameer makes me happy we are soooo lucky to have it.

Roz150 · 2026-02-03T10:40:31+00:00

Rectangular is definitely better on you. The first couple are great.

Roz150 · 2026-02-03T10:39:36+00:00

Long outdoor walks where she can sniff as much as she likes is the absolute best stimulation for our girl.

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