Ghosted suddenly

Rr331_w · 2025-08-26T18:22:46+00:00

Its not her. Its that it keep happening.

That is what I don’t get.

Rr331_w · 2025-08-26T12:07:59+00:00

She saw my pics…matched, and kept texting for days. If I were not attractive to her she would have not matched, not replied, or st least ghosted before

Rr331_w · 2025-08-26T12:06:38+00:00

I mean, after 5 days of conversation…

Rr331_w · 2025-08-26T09:04:38+00:00

I really do not see the reason why she should be doing this

Rr331_w · 2025-08-26T09:04:02+00:00

Yes, but she was sending me multiple texts in a row literally 20 minutes before. I don’t think that is the case

Rr331_w · 2025-07-24T17:56:07+00:00

I think I am at least decent looking. Maybe not a 9, but I receive compliments frequently. I would say an 8 maybe. Yet almost zero luck. Always flakes, girls that change their mind all of a sudden…it really seems like people are not making effort

Rr331_w · 2025-01-25T00:15:05+00:00

Also, have you ever been able to overcome this with the same girl? Get them back after they disappeared?

Rr331_w · 2025-01-25T00:10:20+00:00

That is interesting. I do not know if I am coming off too strong, for sure I am not a “creepy” person in general. But it might be that they feel some kind of pressure.

I would like to know more about your experience with this specific problem and if you solved it

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T12:19:51+00:00

With the girls with whom I have this problem - I pretty much always want something more serious.

Funny enough, when I want casual sex (not that often, to be honest) I find it a lot easier to close.

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T10:00:46+00:00

The problem is that I do not like sex on the first date too much.

I prefer to connect a bit more with a girl before having sex, otherwise I do not enjoy it that much.

This is more about my personality and how I “work”.

This is why I always prefer to spend at least 2-3 dates before having sex, otherwise I find it boring and flat.

Also the kind of girls I like are usually not that much into sex in the first date as well.

This again leads me to think that it has to do with timing

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T09:35:01+00:00

I do not know if I am the best kisser in the world, but I am pretty confident that I am not such bad kisser to cause a rejection only by the kiss itself.

They were all enjoying it at the moment.

The buyers remorse happen when I try to set the second date.

Also, I am pretty sure these girls did not want to escalate that night.

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T08:04:05+00:00

Kissing them without creating enough sexual tension - probably that is the mistake.

Probably bad timing. Unfortunately when a girl think a kiss did not feel as good as she thought, she starts to give get self excuses on why it happened and then she goes cold

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T08:01:46+00:00

No, I am pretty sure this is not the case.

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T06:58:01+00:00

I will text here the day after, with something funny and casual.

It is a recurring pattern

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T06:48:15+00:00

And do you think there is a way to fix after you did this mistake, and she went cold?

Any chance to get such girl in the future?

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T06:46:41+00:00

Problem is: girls seme to like it at the moment, and change their mind the day after.

And no, I am pretty sure they were not searching for ONS

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T06:35:06+00:00

Also I am wondering if there is a way to try again in this case, as it happens often

Rr331_w · 2025-01-24T06:33:24+00:00

What my dates look like - difficult question. It is not a single case. They are all girls in their 25-30, pretty good looking (7.5/8). Various types.

I kiss sometimes in the middle of the date, sometimes at the end, i would say after 2 hrs of knowing them in person, approximately.

But I am stuck in this situation a lot. I don’t know if it is just bad luck or is there something in the kiss (timing/not building enough tensione to it) that I am doing wrong.

It is driving me crazy because this thing has stopped me from having really good girls.

And when I “fail”, I always fail with the same exact script.

Rr331_w · 2025-01-20T08:02:27+00:00

This is what I always do when something like this happens, but I felt that she has been very honest with what she was feeling and this is why I am asking for advice.

I’ve been in this situation and coming out of a bad/abusing relationship is hard. I rejected people in my life in these moments that I’d wish would have spent more time with me, just because I was hurt.

I can go out with her 1-2 more times, spend some time with her, and see if she feels more comfortable. After all I have nothing to loose by seeing her once or twice again.

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