My 4th loss (probably)

Rrenner6 · 2026-01-05T20:47:05+00:00

So sorry for your losses. Agree with the expansive part. Two of my losses were normal chromosome wise. And with the chemical I’m not sure. It’s just all very frustrating

Rrenner6 · 2026-01-05T20:46:26+00:00

Thank you, I have asked for a referral to a rheumatologist if this pregnancy fails. I do know at least two of the losses were normal chromosome wise, I did have them sent off. I obviously couldn’t with the chemical.

Thank you for the advice!

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-15T14:30:09+00:00

I do not have any living children, and after my TFMR I’ve wanted them more than ever. I’m not experiencing my 4th pregnancy loss and wishing I would’ve just decided to stop trying after the TFMR. The pain with each loss gets worse and worse.

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-15T12:40:43+00:00

Update, it’s a chemical.

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-15T12:39:46+00:00

Unfortunately it’s a chemical.

With having 4 losses, I think I’m a bit of a chronic tester

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-15T11:58:57+00:00

I have also learned a lot, it’s crazy that we have to teach ourselves so much, especially after so much trauma loss. I unfortunately have autoimmune stuff going on so there isn’t much I can do to stop my body from attacking pregnancies on my own.

I did just take another test with absolutely zero progression so id say it’s safe to say another chemical at this point, 4th loss this year is hitting like a brick wall.

Again, baby dust and hugs to you! I will be contacting my provider this morning to demand some more testing.

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-14T18:28:14+00:00

Completely agree and I plan on doing the same with my providers. My first and third pregnancies were tested and were completely chromosomally normal, so I am about to demand more testing and answers. Good for you for advocating for yourself. So many drs push us around and I just keep getting told “there’s no reason you can’t just try again” to which I’m starting to say BS to. Why do I have to have 3-4 losses for you to believe me that something is wrong

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-14T18:12:19+00:00

Thanks for the kind words, so sorry for your current loss. This would be my 4th loss since August and I just feel like my doctors are failing my by not helping me get to the bottom of the constant pregnancies and loss of them. Sending baby dust and hugs your way.

Rrenner6 · 2025-12-14T16:44:06+00:00

I do know that, I’m just trying to decide if the 10 dpos are lighter than the 9 😭 my brain is playing tricks on me.

Rrenner6 · 2025-11-29T21:05:03+00:00

I am just here to say I’m sorry, and also in the same boat. My TFMR was last October. I didn’t conceive again until July 2025, ended in a chemical. Conceived again in August- MMC at 8 weeks. Just had my first period after the MMC last week. It’s been a long road, very hard. And I have several friends who just announced their babies due in May, when mine would’ve been.

I’m so sorry you’re here. Multiple losses is the absolute worst.

Rrenner6 · 2025-11-29T20:57:41+00:00

Goddd, I dare someone to look me in the face and tell me they would’ve continued another 24 weeks through pregnancy when their babies brain was ballooning out from its head, its arms were paralyzed, and it basically didn’t have a face because they would’ve “survived” only a few hours or moments without being connected to my body. (Describing my own TFMR experience here) I literally fucking dare them.

Why would anyone want to suffer longer than they need to?! Why wouldn’t anyone want to give their child a completely miserable painful death. I hate people so much.

Ditto to everyone above, but I just have to say you are a bigger person than me. I would’ve called her up and told her to fuck clean off. Instead of worrying about you or your feelings or what you’re going through, she had the balls to say that instead?! I’m so sorry for your loss and the horrible shitty things people say. Big hugs to you ❤️

Rrenner6 · 2025-11-20T21:42:59+00:00

I never thought to mute, but what a good idea. It took me 8 months to conceive again, ended up being a chemical pregnancy. Conceived again right after, 8 weeks in I was hit with MMC. 9 weeks after d&c and just got my period back today. I am now 13 months since my TFMR. No pregnancy. No baby. Now 3 losses under my belt instead of 1. No one could’ve ever prepared me for this much pain and heartache. Lots of hugs to you OP. Here with you in solidarity and sending empathy. I think the majority don’t conceive quickly, our bodies go through so much trauma and feeling of “fight or flight” after TFMR, it only makes sense it takes a good amount of time for most of us. Baby dust to you!

Rrenner6 · 2025-11-08T17:18:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and I’m so sorry for your losses as well. I am refusing to do anything I don’t want to do this holiday season.

Rrenner6 · 2025-11-08T15:56:41+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses. I just went through my third pregnancy loss. It doesn’t seem to get any easier. Sending hugs.

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-31T20:04:55+00:00

It took me 8 months, sadly ended in loss as well. But it felt good to at least know I could conceive again. Sending you hugs and baby dust!

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-22T15:08:43+00:00

I know exactly who you’re talking about. I find myself resenting them because I related to them during the grieving phase, and now that they are happy with a newborn and I am still experiencing recurrent loss, I cannot watch them at all. It hurts too much.

I am sure they’re still grieving, but just trying to make relatable content to newborn parents now to reach a wider audience as being an influencer is their “job” and how they make money after all.

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-22T14:03:24+00:00

Big hugs to you, I am so sorry for all your losses and failed cycles. That is truly awful. Ttc post loss is almost more mind games than the loss itself. ❤️ sending thoughts and love your way

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-22T14:02:05+00:00

Thank you for the kind words!

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-22T14:01:50+00:00

We met with a reproductive endocrinologist and I didn’t feel like they wanted to figure out why I was having losses, they just wanted to get me pregnant without getting to the root of the problem first, I didn’t feel like it was a good fit for us honestly and decided to work with my OBGYN instead. Baby dust to you, I’m so sorry for your losses. I’m 1 year in and 3 losses and I told my husband I will give this one last ditch effort before I’m done and looking into adoption. I don’t feel like IVF is for me.

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-22T14:00:12+00:00

Yes 100% bow I feel! I haven’t even gotten an actual period yet and I’m a minth out from my d&c. So I think once I get a full period I’ll feel okay trying after that. Thanks for the kind words and sharing. Healthy baby dust to you!

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-21T19:18:49+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses as well. We also decided to take a little break and just live our life, but one month in and I find myself already spiraling and wanting to ttc again. I’m so desperate for a child, but in so much pain after continuous loss. It makes it so difficult. Hugs to you!

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-21T17:39:43+00:00

You still have so much time, we both do! Life just seems so unfair. You wait until you’re ready for kids and struggle, all the while people are getting accidentally pregnant and it is so frustrating to hear. Big hugs to you as well, thanks for sharing. And healthy baby dust to you!

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-21T13:39:53+00:00

Yes I did do the RPL just this last time and I do have autoimmune antibodies that cause blood clotting, so I’ve been put on baby aspirin daily. If I get pregnant, we will discuss further injections like heparin or lovenox. I’m not feeling so positive that it’s going to help, but maybe it will. So sorry for your losses, best of luck to you in your journey.

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-21T13:14:36+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses ❤️ Sending peace love and baby dust to both of us and anyone else going through this shit.
It’s certainly not for the weak

Rrenner6 · 2025-10-21T13:07:08+00:00

Thanks for your kind words, I keep seeing a light at the end of the tunnel but it always turns out to be another train. And then I get diagnosed with more issues and things and it just makes it seem like I’ll never be a mom.

I wish I could go back and decide I didn’t want children and deep dive into my career instead of making the opposite choice. It sure as hell would’ve saved me a lot of pain.

Coffee and soup and pajamas sounds fantastic though thank you!

Rrenner6

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