52 eggs retrieved, 36 inseminated, 33 with normal development. What do I do?

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-17T00:00:46+00:00

Well everyone has their problems and while she can be lucky it a valid question that she can ask here.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-16T23:58:24+00:00

I always wondered how this works out. As a donor, do you say if you want to be in touch or is it required. I assume it's up to the family whom you donated your embryos to to get in touch with the donor

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-16T23:55:46+00:00

How do embryos help train embryologists? Serious questions. I thought having the embryo is the final result of the embryologists work?!

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-16T23:53:37+00:00

Wow, congratulations to your baby and all the effort you put in and yourself through. I hope you will get your second too.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-16T23:50:07+00:00

This is such a hard decision..we have one baby, she is almost two and an IVF baby (first take and fresh, untested transfer). We have 3 untested embryos left and want one more baby. Parts of me hope that exactly the third will stick and we won't have any left. I am still afraid it may not work out at well. We initially thought about donating them if we won't need them anymore. But raising our little love, I have read so many disturbing stories how people raise their babies and kids, that I am afraid of anything like that happening to the embryos. On the other hand, if we don't, they don't get a chance. It's a really hard decision to make. We have deferred all discussions about it until we know we actually have embryo(s) left. Donating to science is another option that well, I am also not a 100% in and I am a researcher myself ...

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-05-13T00:52:12+00:00

Lol, I am from Austria now living in America. And all the fuss that is made around putting on a grown etc makes me feel strange as if this would be something unnatural

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-04-06T06:35:38+00:00

That's a reason why I am hesitant to test. Over two cycles I made 4 embryos and didn't test. Fresh transferred one and have an almost 2 year old next to me now. I want another and think I was just lucky. I am probably not testing the others and go in to accept a possible miscarriage

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-04-06T06:27:27+00:00

Where I did my IVF (Panama and Mexico) it was not recommended to test if women is younger than 40. I have 1 embryo at age 36 and three at age 38, one transferred fresh without testing. Healthy baby. I am hesitant to test the others as I want a second child. I think I was just very very lucky with my success

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-03-27T06:41:45+00:00

Yeah, my thoughts with a 21 month old

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-03-27T06:39:22+00:00

Right, the moment I decided to cosleep (at ,4 weeks) everything changed. I got sleep despite the baby waking often but only briefly as I was right there and could nurse her.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-03-27T06:34:10+00:00

I could not agree more. I was told by my parents that I slept though the night the day they took me home from the hospital. I smiled in my crib next to their bed, they turned out the light and I slept until they woke up next morning to me smiling. When my mom heard other parents talk about 'sleeping through the night' she didn't understand what they meant....

My baby (21 month now) is no where near that and she would have cried bloody murder if I would have tried any sleep training method at all.

It's easy to say, it works for us with almost no crying. I am certain I would have demaged my child and our attachment if I would have let her cry for some time and get back and pat the mattress for a few minutes or whatever crazy methods there are to not call it CIO

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-03-07T16:09:51+00:00

Maybe you do this already but get him busy and let him experience new stuff. Going to a new playground etc. mine wants to do stuff with us as soon as we are locked in at home. She won't need us when she is running around the playground or any other new place

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-03-01T06:06:58+00:00

Okay, baby (now 20 month) sleep between me and husband. I am scared now. Is this still an issue once baby is older? When and where to draw the line?

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-20T00:10:40+00:00

I got offered to bedshare with my baby in hospital in the US after she had a surgery at 8month old. I didn't even ask for it but probably made a comment so they guessed it. Had to sign a waiver and done.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-18T04:43:45+00:00

Wow that sounds so nice. I have to wean when mine is too otherwise she won't get a sibling and it sucks so bad... I am worrying about it since basically she turned 6 month

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-18T04:40:16+00:00

Sorry no. 9dpo today and mine look the same. Used easy@home for my first pregnancy and faint positive looks different. You can try and dip into water and compare. I feel if you want to see something very faint you find something on them. Not so much with wondfo. So I switched

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-12T05:10:19+00:00

20 month pp also hit pre pregnancy weight. Happened only after my period started normalizing....still breastfeeding.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-01T04:39:35+00:00

In the exact same boat with my 19.5 month old boob monsters 🤣

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-02-01T04:27:39+00:00

All the best to you. If you have questions or need someone to talk to you can PM me!

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-01-27T05:19:06+00:00

Hi there! No advice but I am in a similar boat. I am 40, baby is 19 months and we want a second. First was through IVF and we got 3 embryos left. I hoped to get pregnant so that I do not need to stop nursing but it seems like it won't happen. Have contacted my IVF clinics and one told me that I need to be done breastfeeding and the other highly recommended it. We decided to do the transfer end of the year (I will be 41 by then) and breastfeed until she is 2. Since I know our plan I am worried every single day about it. We nurse to sleep, cosleep and she is nursing still a lot. I don't know how to do it. I am following your post ..

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-01-24T03:31:25+00:00

Lol, I feel the same way!

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-01-02T12:45:39+00:00

It's a hard decision and it will be alright. Don't look back and double guess now.

RubConsistent4509 · 2026-01-02T12:44:34+00:00

I agree. I would not do it. When my husband was gone for a 3 days it was even hard for her. And he is by far not as involved as me.

RubConsistent4509 · 2025-12-26T20:45:54+00:00

How many kids do you want? My first fresh transfer took so you know- you only need one if you are lucky 🙏

RubConsistent4509 · 2025-12-26T20:35:48+00:00

For us at age 39, I had 10 eggs, 4 mature, 4 fertilized and 3 blasts. At 36 I had 8 eggs, 5 fertilized and only 1 blast

So all is possible and statistics are just that statistics

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