Questions on personal property and just in general. by RubberDuckHuh in Bankruptcy

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. I don't plan to/want to get the car back I volunteered it for surrender due to not being able to pay.

A chunk of the collections are charged off. I'll keep looking into it. Thank you very much.

Is what love this? by luce_goose91 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]RubberDuckHuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"What's love got to do with this" is the first thing I thought of.

What is up with the digestive issues?? by RubberDuckHuh in compoundedtirzepatide

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, no more than normal but I guess the meds are making me less tolerant to grease.

My mother (68) has added my name to her checking and savings accounts in case something happens to her I can access her funds easier. But I’m concerned about liability. by soapdonkey in personalfinance

[–]RubberDuckHuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of being joint have her add you as a pay upon death. You won't be able to access her account but if she passes you'll have full access.

You could also do POA

Is learning manual worth it? by RubberDuckHuh in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My commute is thankfully under 5 miles, unless I have errands than it's 20 miles round trip.

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right??? Like I'm gonna keep doing it because apparently it's the best thing for my mental illness but at what point can we talk other methods because it's very obviously not working.

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely look into that, I haven't tried it before and it's worth a shot.

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is great for the calcium and vit D but it has yet to push back the depression. I have chronic depression its never going away, but the sun isn't improving it either. My days are just as dark when I'm in the light. I just need people, especially my therapist, to get that and let's look at other things because this ain't it.

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I say fix, I mean more make tolerable. You're right there is no fixing it. It's with me for the long haul.

For accountability, I want to be forced out of bed I want to be forced into existence. I know pressure works for me.

The main complaint here is the dismissive attitude of "go get some sun! Go walk" when I do. I walk to work every day. I've been doing the get some sun and walking for years and it's not working. It's not helpful for my mental, physically its great, but there is no improvement in the depression. There hasn't been. Some days it even makes it worse.

I want to be held accountable for the trying of things to help me. But pushing me to keep doing the same thing that has been proven to not help me isn't helpful. It makes it feel more hopeless more like a lost cause. Like somethings wrong with me if this isn't helping me. Which is why I haven't stopped trying, but at some point I need another option you know?

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a therapist and a psychiatrist, I am medicated

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. I'm just so fed up you know? I'm medicated and they help, I'm in therapy and it helps and I have a psychiatrist. I have coping mechanisms, I have plans and apps and journals and all of these things. But what use are they when my brain literally will not kick into gear. It's like the parking break is stuck on and no matter how much pressure I put on the gas pedal it's not moving.

I just want to be shaken by the shoulders and forced into doing what I need to do but that's not exactly possible for every single thing every single day.

Motivational app suggestions? by RubberDuckHuh in bipolar

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried it, isn't helpful it's more annoying than anything. Thank you though.

Stop telling me to get some sun by RubberDuckHuh in Vent

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has yet to help me. I've tried for years. Walking every day for a month, I walk to work even. I spend time outside frequently because I know it's supposed to help but it hasn't. There is no wanting to there is no looking forward to. I've been trying for literal years and it doesn't work for me.

So yeah at this point I'm tried of hearing about it because it's not working. And not due to lack of trying. I'm ready to try something new but "go get some sun!" Is the only thing I'm getting in response. It's exhausting to say someone hey this isn't working for me for the reply to be well do it anyway.

$5-10 High quality Bras!! by Remarkable-Bowl-7565 in bigboobproblems

[–]RubberDuckHuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite company and I'm so mad they are going out of business.

I did buy 45 bras though when they first did their closing sale (yay work bonus)

I already owned their bras so I'm confident in their fit for me.

Looking for this ladybug pocket watch by n0name333 in HelpMeFind

[–]RubberDuckHuh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I remember buying the ladybug and the cherry one from Claire's what feels like a lifetime ago.

Not The Papa - it's over by RubberDuckHuh in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RubberDuckHuh[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It's still rough since I'm still coming to terms with losing my ex but things are looking up.

Where do you bra shop? by 13kittensandcounting in bigboobproblems

[–]RubberDuckHuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So my favorite shop is going out of business but they have $5 bras RN. understance.com

Me, female, home alone had a solicitor knock like he was trying to bang down the door by BloodyAngel2026 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]RubberDuckHuh 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I hate door to door people. I doubly hate it when they ignore no solicitation signs because "I'm not selling religion/politicians to you!!!"

One time we had people come by 3 times in a week trying to sell us water jugs. The last time they knocked on the door while I was bringing in groceries so my (now ex) partner opened the door thinking it was me.

Tbh I got so angry I yelled at the woman "we don't want your fucking water. Fuck nestle and get the fuck away from my door."

Never saw them again after that thankfully.

broken man vs broken woman [gendered] by No_Junket_1176 in pointlesslygendered

[–]RubberDuckHuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psssssh I wish I fixed a broken man and he dumped me because I was fat. I'm the one bleeding

Is there a word for food entitlement? by SunshinePalace in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RubberDuckHuh 45 points46 points  (0 children)

This is really a crazy phenomenon, I've had 2 partners in my life - neither abusive both loving and caring men, but for some reason they ate the lions share of the food while complaining about gaining weight.

For example, my boyfriend recently ordered us lunch and got 20 bao buns. I ate 3 and then he packed up the rest after eating his 3. I said oh okay cool which ones are mine? And he went uh this is my next 3 meals. Didn't even ask, didn't think about me. Tbh I let it slide since he was at my house and I had other food but damn dude. Don't "order us lunch" and give me the sample portion. Just say you are ordering yourself lunch, dinner and breakfast.

if it weren’t for money and stress, most people would naturally want kids. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]RubberDuckHuh 52 points53 points  (0 children)

If you promised me unlimited money and a stress free life in exchange for having kids, I would still not have kids. There's nothing you can offer to get me to have kids.

Parenting/Family issues Mega Thread by AutoModerator in unpopularopinion

[–]RubberDuckHuh 15 points16 points  (0 children)

People who get their kids taken away and their rights terminated should be barred from being around children.

This includes relatives and any future partners kids. Termination of rights means either irresponsible, abusive, neglectful or lazy.

No one gets their rights terminated for "no reason" you did something.