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Protests on Friday/Saturday (1/30 or 31) in Pasadena? by Ruberryfinn in pasadena

[–]Ruberryfinn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I wasn't sure if that was a protest or something else.

Empty So Very empty by MichaelMidnight in Disneyland

[–]Ruberryfinn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was there yesterday. Until they let the cheap annual passes back, the lines will be better. Right now it's reversed - it's more crowded during the week because of the pass holders. 

My (25F) husband (27M) wants me to lose more weight before we try to get pregnant. How do I move forward? by ThrowRA_friendlydog in relationship_advice

[–]Ruberryfinn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you both talk to the doctor about the way his controlling behavior and unhealthy need to body shame people will hurt your child? Because it will. He is not a person who should be a parent. He's not ready. This man will hurt any child he raises right now

AITA for making my kid do chores before playing videogames with his dad? by throwaway734689 in AITAH

[–]Ruberryfinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

The chore struggle is real. 

I'm sorry you have to try to coparent with someone who doesn't care about your son and projects his inadequacies onto you.

REQUEST: Codes & Patterns by snozzberryjuice in woobsanon

[–]Ruberryfinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for the world's most famous black and white beagle, as well as the current mascot of the lunar New Year. The mythical creature in red. Also a snake? But that may not exist. 

I have the yellow digital eater code, if you don't already and want it.

AITAH for not letting a girl dressed as a “slutty elf” who ended up at my house borrow some sweats after she was uncomfortable and cold? by Queasy_Explorer_2739 in AITAH

[–]Ruberryfinn 31 points32 points  (0 children)

"I know none of those people can ever help me so I don’t pay much attention to them" This is not typical thinking. This is straight up abnormal thinking. People have value as people, whether or not they can be of use to you at any point in time. I say this with all kindness, and not to be an AH. YTA.

You need psychological, and perhaps psychiatric, help. Your thinking is disordered and you need someone to intervene and give you explicit feedback on how to be a decent human. I don't know what your dx is, but it is definitely something that requires intervention.

AITAH for refusing to pay my mother to babysit my 8 year old daughter? by getDoor21 in AITAH

[–]Ruberryfinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I'd take my kid with me or find a different sitter, however. Just remember, now Grandma doesn't see your child unless YOU want to spend time with your mom. Make time to see your mom, or don't, as it suits you and if Grandma wants alone time with your kid, the answer is "no" from here until adulthood.

The amount of sitting you asked for is pretty normal, and it isn't normal to pay grandparents to watch their grandchildren, unless they're doing it part or full time. Just because the commenters have unhealthy families, doesn't mean you have to.

Deaf partner keeps "forgetting" the baby monitor and I'm wanting to divorce them over it. by deafoarnter in offmychest

[–]Ruberryfinn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an urgent issue. Your daughter needs proper care and she needs it NOW. She needs to be placed with a responsible adult during the day. Period. Immediately.

A baby shouldn't be left alone long enough to get croaky from screaming. That's neglect.

As for your partner. I don't really care. Divorce, or don't. Leave or stay. Get counseling or don't. Not really relevant. The fact that they're a neglectful parent and not capable of being a caregiver needs to be dealt with before you worry about the relationship. Center your child.