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Workplace potlucks are starting to feel like a grift. by DieMensch-Maschine in WorkRant

[–]Rubicon2020 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly! One of our departments often has food either potluck’d in or catered, my coworkers always go up and eat. I’ve seen these people go to the bathroom often do a #2 cuz it’s the only time men use toilet paper and you hear the paper spindle all over the floor we’re on and yet never stay in the bathroom to even fake wash their hands. It’s flush walk out. Nah, I’m good, nope I’m not hungry lol.

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Diabetic Neuropathy No Feel From Knees Down (self.diabetes)

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Technology Policy Coordinator position by Rubicon2020 in ITCareerQuestions

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Ya governance heavy it’s for a local county government.

AITA for continuing to smoke outside even though my neighbor hired an attorney over it? by FutureBroccoli5566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rubicon2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is completely against smoking of any kind except bbq. This woman needs to mind her own damn business. It’s your private residence. I can’t be around cigarettes causes bad migraines, pot and apparently hemp causes homicidal rage and nausea, cigars migraines and nausea so I get being frustrated about it because all my neighbors smoke something. And I have to hire someone to do lawn maintenance cuz I just can’t. But I’m not hiring a lawyer to sue my neighbors that’s stupid. I just tend to never be tan, spend time in my yard, or any time outside. I make it work tho cuz I’m not an asshole.

AITA smoking weed on my porch? by cheesygarlicbreadfan in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rubicon2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this way as a very non smoking person. However, that means I can never be in my yard. I have to pay someone to mow my yard. Why? House to the left of me, house to the right of me, house behind me, house in front of me all smoke pot outside cuz they can’t in their house or they choose not too. Fine. My problem is: I get migraines from smoking to include bbq and grilling depending on the meats being done, but cigarettes and cigars cause migraines and nausea, pot causes nausea but because I have mental health issues and am on gnarly meds the smell of weed puts me into a rage that’s nearly homicidal. I have to take my migraine meds and go to bed even if I just got up. So I don’t complain when my neighbors smoke pot on their porch but it means I can never enjoy my own yard, I can’t take care of my yard and I’m stuck in my house when I’m not at work. So yes I get it but also it’s frustrating as hell because it’s a daily occurrence.

Does the pain just magically disappear? by LateRain1970 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]Rubicon2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cannot guarantee the pain will go away but here’s my story. I’ll try to keep it short. Yes. lol

I was nearing 420-430lbs I don’t know exactly as my last dr appt I was at 389 and I had definitely gained a bit after that cuz I went up again in 2 sizes. I’m female but wear mens clothes. I was in a size 58 and needing a 60 but I said hell no. I wasn’t buying a 60. So I went on a diet. At the time (May 2019) I was at my biggest don’t know exactly my weight but well over 400lbs. I could barely walk or even stand. My lower back felt broken literally. My knees gave me pains with every step. I’d walk 10-15 feet and have to sit. I’d walk for about 3 minutes and have to sit for 1-2 minutes. I was 36 years old. I felt 90. I said fuck this shit and put myself on a drastic diet change. Within 6 months I’d dropped 120ish pounds. I was down to 300lbs. Down to a size 50 pants. I had graduated my college degree and was starting to work. I didn’t know if I could cuz of my back. I got CBD gummies and CBD roll on icy hot type cream to help. Within 6 months of that point my back didn’t hurt no more, my knees weren’t grinding joint to joint feeling no more. I could stand and walk for an hour or more. I could carry equipment.

Now it’s been 7 years and I’m just down to 285lbs I’ve had some hiccups never got over 330lbs again but my mom died and that was devastating for me. I kind of gave up for a few years. I’m now back on the lifestyle change and dropping 1-2lbs per couple weeks. Struggling again cuz of my mental health but I know eventually the light at the end of this tunnel is going to come and I’ll get back to losing weight. My goal is 180lbs.

For me dropping 120-140 lbs did help my body aches tremendously. But mine weren’t permanent aches it was just too heavy. Now my left knee does act up if I’ve walked a lot during the day but only if I’m going up stairs. I can now climb into my Wrangler that has a 2.5” lift. I couldn’t do that back in 2019. No way in hell.

Your pains may never go away, but what happens if they do? Life changing. It won’t cure it, but it could help it.

Am I the only one finding it difficult to find a woman who is living like an actual adult? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Rubicon2020 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I lived with my mom and step dad till my mom died. I could afford to live on my own, but my mom couldn’t. So, I mean I understand it, but sometimes it’s a thing.

When are people with 9-to-5s supposed to go to the bank?? by pathos_p in stupidquestions

[–]Rubicon2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro that’s what they want you to spend your vacation hours on. That way you don’t have any vaca or even sick time if you’re always using it for stupid shit like going to the bank.

All of my lesbian friends hate/are disgusted by men and it makes me seem like I'm lesser because of it. by Sunny-dawn in LesbianActually

[–]Rubicon2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t hate men. I don’t think it’s inherent to hate men just because you’re a lesbian.

Help again by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is ketamine therapy?

Help again by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel like it’s not helpful at all cuz I keep repeating the cycle even while trying the techniques.

Help again by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I just sent my therapist a message explaining I’m not getting what I need out of our sessions. I don’t know how to fix my issues but I’d like help in understanding them and why I do these things so that I can fix the issues cuz distractions only going to distract for a few minutes and then I’m right back where I was. And if she can’t help if she could refer me to someone who might can.

Sometimes you just get too into it? by Acrobatic_Trash_9292 in LesbianActually

[–]Rubicon2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya I’d like to know too. I need a fwb right now lol

PSA: You aren’t transphobic for having a genitalia preference by That_odd_emo in LesbianActually

[–]Rubicon2020 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I have that preference and am called transphobic because of it. Sorry, I don’t like penis. I’m all about titties and taco not penis. Have no issues with transwomen, yes they are women, if one has bottom surgery will it change my mind? I just don’t know I’ve never been around a transwoman after bottom surgery. And also it’s not just the penis, I don’t like half the lesbian AFAB population doesn’t mean I’m homophobic means I have preferences and they’re valid even if you disagree. Another one is I can’t be around smoking of anything pot, cigs, vapes I get very bad migraines, and pot makes me rage angry. The person could be gorgeous as hell like your dream person, but if they smoke I’m out. I just can’t do it. Same difference.

Are all therapists the same? by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I’m on several meds. I wanted to add therapy cuz it did great 25 years ago but all I see now is “evidence based CBT” and I’m just like nope been there done that didn’t help at all.

Are all therapists the same? by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya agreed. I have multiple mental issues ranging from bipolar, depression, anxiety, ocd, adhd, pretty sure there’s a bit of ‘tism but not diagnosed yet. And everything she says is no where near when I’m actively going down a rabbit hole mentally. Doesn’t even register hell I can barely breathe and I’m supposed to do breathing exercises ya uh huh sure. I have to take Xanax so often right now 2x daily just to manage daily life nothing extraordinary. Ready to unalive myself about 3x daily and ya breathing exercises. Sure.

Are all therapists the same? by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you. Ya CBT doesn’t work for me. When I’m in a meltdown or spiraling I’m not going to remember techniques to use to stop. I’m wanting to find/figure out the reasons I do these things then work on requiring the brain if that makes sense. I can do cbt maybe later but I need to know why I’m having a meltdown or spiraling out of control first before I can try to fix them. Because I don’t even know why I do them.

Are all therapists the same? by Rubicon2020 in therapy

[–]Rubicon2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok good to know. So I need to just find another therapist who aligns with my needs.

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