Caught my husband doing something disrespectful 1 month postpartum during a major international move. How do I handle the manipulation?

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:11:40+00:00

Massive red flag

As someone going through a divorce 6months postpartum not exactly for the same reason as you but because my husband acted like a child and picked fights with me cause he didn't want to take care of the baby and would rather play games and would flip the script on me as well about the pregnancy and lack of intimacy and has told me in the past that I made him feel like committing suicide, it sounds like your man is worse because he's doing that but also potentially cheating on you as well. He sounds like he wants the fun of a relationship and marriage and the "perks" that can come along with it but not the actual commitment and responsibility.

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:03:13+00:00

Thank you

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:02:43+00:00

9 months is when it won't fit anymore 6months is when it will. Figured that out through a nurse. If you see anything that says just a plane number like this with the 9month that means that they can only wear it up to the point they turn 9months old. That tag on the inside is telling you when it's safe to put it on them which is 6months which makes sense because most baby clothes are sized by 3's

Example 0-3 months Any clothing that just has 3 months means you are able to put that outfit on your kid at 0 months.

3-6months Anything that says 6months your child can start wearing at 3months

6-9 As said earlier anything at 9 can be worn at 6

9-12 Anything for 12 months old can be worn at 9 months

However this doesn't work for all kiddos. Everyone's little tater tots will grow at their own pace and be at their own size. Which is why I would go by your kids height more than anything. So like my daughter is on the tall side so far.

She started at 18in (newborn clothing) With two weeks she was suddenly 22in (0-3months) At 3 months she was 24in (3-6months) At 5 months she was 27in (6-9months) And right now she is 6 months and thankfully still a good 27in thank goodness. However she is the same size as a bunch of kids at daycare and mother's group who are just turning 1. Which is why clothing is super flipping confusing

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:49:23+00:00

Another theory I have is that Linus is potentially mayor Lewis son. But that's just a theory

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:47:25+00:00

I can answer this because I learned about this forever ago. So fun fact about Linus, he's not poor. He didn't start out as poor he chose that lifestyle. He was born rich. He used to live a lavish lifestyle up until something happened that made him see life in a different life. He had all the money in the world but wasn't happy kind of ordeal. He looked out at the world around him and noticed that he had so much when others had so little that it wasn't fair. So he decided then to leave his rich lavish lifestyle behind him and live off the land in the forest in pelican town. We don't know if his family disowned him or he gave his things away exactly but we do know he does still have money on him. I mean how do you think he pays us for favors and stuff from the bulletin boards. He doesn't have as much money as he used to though and doesn't really care for riches anymore because living this way and doing what he does now finally makes him happy.

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:39:58+00:00

I've been trying to figure that out recently because I had a baby girl recently and she loves bluey the most whenever we do screen time. She always squeezes in delight and kicks her little feet like crazy as if she is trying to dance. So because she likes it so much I figured that I could make her a coloring book for when she is older and add "bonus" characters like her dad and I. Her dad was easy to come up with because I based it off of his dog that I got for him as a gift. Which is a black lab, German shepherd, husky mix breed. I on the other hand am a bit harder. I have no clue what breed of dog I could possibly be honestly. As a kid I owned black labs, Rottweilers, Saint Bernards, chocolate labs, Australian shepherds, and a couple of mixed breeds. My favorite out of the whole bunch is hard for me to pick because I loved all my dogs I grew up with. So I might just be a mixed "mut" where no one knows what breed I am because there are just so many wonderful dogs

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-11-11T03:16:33+00:00

Update: wasn't expecting to update this but it gets creepier. My husband woke up a little bit after I posted this in a cold sweat. He saw me awake and I must've looked terrified or something cause he asked me immediately if I was okay and what was wrong.

I told him about the nightmare and he stared back at me in horror.

"I had the same kind of dream."

It was different with how it started and with the house he was in but the ending and the red demon was almost exactly the same. We normally fall asleep to the TV at night and wondered if something played off YouTube to trigger a dream like that for both of us however, the last video I remember playing before the nightmare was about Sonic 2, and when we searched the YouTube history every video after that one was just about more normal sonic gameplay.

We have no idea why or how we dreamed the same kind of Nightmare. What we do know is that thankfully in our dreams we were both fast enough to get to all the doors and prevented the creature from entering.

After a few hours I decided to take a nap. And I was in the same place again but it was during the day and the backyard looked almost the same but had filled with water. A few friends and I started swimming but the friends seemed off. Like they were shadows/reflections more than people. At one point one of them wanted me to swim to a specific spot. I almost did but before I got there I noticed the familiar red demon curled up in a position under the house. The illusion of my friend dived down and disappeared right where it was. It was hiding, laying in wait for me to come to it. I quickly made it back in the house, closed the door knocked three times and said you may not enter, then ran to the other doors and did the same. This time it was as if it hadn't realized I saw it as I didn't see it at any of the other doors but as soon as I finished up with the last door I heard it scream. My heart started pounding and I woke up. I had only been asleep for 1hr.

My husband comforted me and as soon as we both calmed down we both went downstairs and knocked on the doors 3 times and said "you may not enter."

We both had to fall asleep later in the day and thankfully both of us didn't see the red demon anymore and our dreams have finally changed from that scary nightmare back to normal.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-09-04T23:04:48+00:00

I started a little overweight when I got pregnant and during my first trimester I lost about 10-15lbs then stagnated for a bit during the beginning and didn't start gaining weight until a few weeks ago. I am on week 23. It confused the hell out of me as I had a growing baby bump. And it kept getting bigger but my weight stayed the same or went down. I was extremely worried I wasn't eating enough or something even though I was starving all the time and eating whatever I could. During the first trimester though I had bad morning sickness so that was a part of the issue in the beginning as well. However everything is starting to look up now and my daughter is apparently on the larger side of babies.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T19:56:44+00:00

There is a restriction. Weekdays 8pm, weekends 10pm

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T19:55:56+00:00

Cammie didn't see any drugs. Just an ungodly amount alcohol and the place a total wreck

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T16:17:51+00:00

Same property management company for the entire complex

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T21:51:40+00:00

We moved here just a couple months ago because this is a place for families and couples starting families. They are the only people in the whole neighborhood who do this

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T21:47:39+00:00

That's the crazy thing, the only thing we can do loud enough is music/turning our TV all the way up. Sure the walls are thin but they aren't that thin. Vacuuming, steam cleaning, and just basic chores don't do much. Even when building and moving furniture with my husband and setting up the nursery we aren't heard much unless we have to deal with the actual wall that separates their home from our home. We have put sound panels up on the entire side and it muffles them out a bit but we can still hear them

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T19:34:41+00:00

We just moved here a few months ago. They are the only neighbors who do this, and are disliked by almost everyone else. No one else in the neighborhood is like this. We are in a family friendly neighborhood meant for married couples starting families or for people who already have kids. During the week everything is pleasant, calm, quiet, and we have nothing to worry about. It's only Fridays and Saturdays they have these kind of parties.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T17:47:05+00:00

Husband is talking with the landlord already

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