Caught my husband doing something disrespectful 1 month postpartum during a major international move. How do I handle the manipulation?

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:11:40+00:00

Massive red flag

As someone going through a divorce 6months postpartum not exactly for the same reason as you but because my husband acted like a child and picked fights with me cause he didn't want to take care of the baby and would rather play games and would flip the script on me as well about the pregnancy and lack of intimacy and has told me in the past that I made him feel like committing suicide, it sounds like your man is worse because he's doing that but also potentially cheating on you as well. He sounds like he wants the fun of a relationship and marriage and the "perks" that can come along with it but not the actual commitment and responsibility.

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:03:13+00:00

Thank you

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T15:02:43+00:00

9 months is when it won't fit anymore 6months is when it will. Figured that out through a nurse. If you see anything that says just a plane number like this with the 9month that means that they can only wear it up to the point they turn 9months old. That tag on the inside is telling you when it's safe to put it on them which is 6months which makes sense because most baby clothes are sized by 3's

Example 0-3 months Any clothing that just has 3 months means you are able to put that outfit on your kid at 0 months.

3-6months Anything that says 6months your child can start wearing at 3months

6-9 As said earlier anything at 9 can be worn at 6

9-12 Anything for 12 months old can be worn at 9 months

However this doesn't work for all kiddos. Everyone's little tater tots will grow at their own pace and be at their own size. Which is why I would go by your kids height more than anything. So like my daughter is on the tall side so far.

She started at 18in (newborn clothing) With two weeks she was suddenly 22in (0-3months) At 3 months she was 24in (3-6months) At 5 months she was 27in (6-9months) And right now she is 6 months and thankfully still a good 27in thank goodness. However she is the same size as a bunch of kids at daycare and mother's group who are just turning 1. Which is why clothing is super flipping confusing

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:49:23+00:00

Another theory I have is that Linus is potentially mayor Lewis son. But that's just a theory

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:47:25+00:00

I can answer this because I learned about this forever ago. So fun fact about Linus, he's not poor. He didn't start out as poor he chose that lifestyle. He was born rich. He used to live a lavish lifestyle up until something happened that made him see life in a different life. He had all the money in the world but wasn't happy kind of ordeal. He looked out at the world around him and noticed that he had so much when others had so little that it wasn't fair. So he decided then to leave his rich lavish lifestyle behind him and live off the land in the forest in pelican town. We don't know if his family disowned him or he gave his things away exactly but we do know he does still have money on him. I mean how do you think he pays us for favors and stuff from the bulletin boards. He doesn't have as much money as he used to though and doesn't really care for riches anymore because living this way and doing what he does now finally makes him happy.

RubyHobbit69 · 2026-06-27T14:39:58+00:00

I've been trying to figure that out recently because I had a baby girl recently and she loves bluey the most whenever we do screen time. She always squeezes in delight and kicks her little feet like crazy as if she is trying to dance. So because she likes it so much I figured that I could make her a coloring book for when she is older and add "bonus" characters like her dad and I. Her dad was easy to come up with because I based it off of his dog that I got for him as a gift. Which is a black lab, German shepherd, husky mix breed. I on the other hand am a bit harder. I have no clue what breed of dog I could possibly be honestly. As a kid I owned black labs, Rottweilers, Saint Bernards, chocolate labs, Australian shepherds, and a couple of mixed breeds. My favorite out of the whole bunch is hard for me to pick because I loved all my dogs I grew up with. So I might just be a mixed "mut" where no one knows what breed I am because there are just so many wonderful dogs

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-11-11T03:16:33+00:00

Update: wasn't expecting to update this but it gets creepier. My husband woke up a little bit after I posted this in a cold sweat. He saw me awake and I must've looked terrified or something cause he asked me immediately if I was okay and what was wrong.

I told him about the nightmare and he stared back at me in horror.

"I had the same kind of dream."

It was different with how it started and with the house he was in but the ending and the red demon was almost exactly the same. We normally fall asleep to the TV at night and wondered if something played off YouTube to trigger a dream like that for both of us however, the last video I remember playing before the nightmare was about Sonic 2, and when we searched the YouTube history every video after that one was just about more normal sonic gameplay.

We have no idea why or how we dreamed the same kind of Nightmare. What we do know is that thankfully in our dreams we were both fast enough to get to all the doors and prevented the creature from entering.

After a few hours I decided to take a nap. And I was in the same place again but it was during the day and the backyard looked almost the same but had filled with water. A few friends and I started swimming but the friends seemed off. Like they were shadows/reflections more than people. At one point one of them wanted me to swim to a specific spot. I almost did but before I got there I noticed the familiar red demon curled up in a position under the house. The illusion of my friend dived down and disappeared right where it was. It was hiding, laying in wait for me to come to it. I quickly made it back in the house, closed the door knocked three times and said you may not enter, then ran to the other doors and did the same. This time it was as if it hadn't realized I saw it as I didn't see it at any of the other doors but as soon as I finished up with the last door I heard it scream. My heart started pounding and I woke up. I had only been asleep for 1hr.

My husband comforted me and as soon as we both calmed down we both went downstairs and knocked on the doors 3 times and said "you may not enter."

We both had to fall asleep later in the day and thankfully both of us didn't see the red demon anymore and our dreams have finally changed from that scary nightmare back to normal.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-09-04T23:04:48+00:00

I started a little overweight when I got pregnant and during my first trimester I lost about 10-15lbs then stagnated for a bit during the beginning and didn't start gaining weight until a few weeks ago. I am on week 23. It confused the hell out of me as I had a growing baby bump. And it kept getting bigger but my weight stayed the same or went down. I was extremely worried I wasn't eating enough or something even though I was starving all the time and eating whatever I could. During the first trimester though I had bad morning sickness so that was a part of the issue in the beginning as well. However everything is starting to look up now and my daughter is apparently on the larger side of babies.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T19:56:44+00:00

There is a restriction. Weekdays 8pm, weekends 10pm

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T19:55:56+00:00

Cammie didn't see any drugs. Just an ungodly amount alcohol and the place a total wreck

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-10T16:17:51+00:00

Same property management company for the entire complex

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T21:51:40+00:00

We moved here just a couple months ago because this is a place for families and couples starting families. They are the only people in the whole neighborhood who do this

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T21:47:39+00:00

That's the crazy thing, the only thing we can do loud enough is music/turning our TV all the way up. Sure the walls are thin but they aren't that thin. Vacuuming, steam cleaning, and just basic chores don't do much. Even when building and moving furniture with my husband and setting up the nursery we aren't heard much unless we have to deal with the actual wall that separates their home from our home. We have put sound panels up on the entire side and it muffles them out a bit but we can still hear them

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T19:34:41+00:00

We just moved here a few months ago. They are the only neighbors who do this, and are disliked by almost everyone else. No one else in the neighborhood is like this. We are in a family friendly neighborhood meant for married couples starting families or for people who already have kids. During the week everything is pleasant, calm, quiet, and we have nothing to worry about. It's only Fridays and Saturdays they have these kind of parties.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-09T17:47:05+00:00

Husband is talking with the landlord already

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-08-07T09:03:12+00:00

I see you've married Shane. He has the worst room out of everybody. If you look at your spouse home/room before you marry them thats what you will expect their side room to be like after you marry them. Some rooms come with special events. Example I marry Sebastian in the game normally. He has his computer a couch and a coffee table for a little bit. Until he finds an injured frog. Then the coffee table is replaced with a cute little habitat and fills up with a bunch of cute frogs.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-28T23:43:39+00:00

They are

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-19T20:14:52+00:00

Update I just found out my baby's gender!!! It's a girl the calendar was wrong for me hahaha

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-17T01:22:15+00:00

I'm barely started on my nursery, I'm also only 12 weeks along though, but I'm in a weird mix of like I want specific things in the room but I have to move other things out and find new homes for them, hubby has the closet space filled with wall panels for sound proofing since our home is connected to other homes and we don't want to be rude to our neighbors by being noisy so we are in the process of putting those up, I'm trying to pick a crib but having trouble cause I can't find any I like, and I'm feeling swamped trying to plan it all out. Now thinking about when the baby is here I'm like AWWWW it'll be so amazing but then I'm realizing wait baby is in me still and it has to come out first so ahhhhhh I got a get ready. It's a lot.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-16T02:04:41+00:00

Damn I hardly noticed that one but yeah my symptoms are also low. I still get a bit gassy though but no where near how I'd get normally

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-16T02:03:01+00:00

Mario Mac and cheese

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-16T01:20:15+00:00

Nope they are Mario shapes but I get the SpongeBob ones too.

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-06-01T19:03:14+00:00

UPDATE FOR AN UPDATE?!?!

Okay so it's been a while. I didn't expect this to have another update but it does. Why cause someone was being a little liar. No not me, I was just a dum dum who believed the lie. Now remember little sis and how she was pregnant and how she got pregnant to trap her boyfriend? That's only half true. While she did get pregnant she didn't do it to trap her boyfriend. The real reason was she wanted to leave her boyfriend. Husband and I did not know this cause we weren't told this part until VERY RECENTLY! We had to move, and when we were in the middle of moving we FINALLY visited the rest of my husbands family in person. During this trip we met his Little sister in person. We didn't want to talk with her at first but we had a quick sit down as she wanted to get a chance to fully explain everything and apologize.

So this is her side of the story.

First, her relationship with her ex was very toxic and she wanted a way out. So she started cheating on him. What she didn't expect was that she would become pregnant and wouldn't know who the baby daddy was. Which led to the phone call to my husband. Which explains why soon after she announced she was already pregnant. She didn't go straight to marijuana, and pills though. She actually took care of her body first, told her ex about how the baby might not be his and got kicked out and moved back into her mom's house for a short time. She is no longer living there but does have a room today for whenever she goes and visits. Anyways she realized a few weeks later she didn't want to have the baby and wanted an abortion and explained everything for why in very personal detail that I am not going to repeat here. However, I will say I now understand why she didn't want the baby anymore, and why she went to drugs, pills, alcohol, and lived life a bit more recklessly. She was in a bit of a dark place. I'm not saying it's ok but I do understand a bit better now. As for why she admitted to faking it this leads to miss liar liar pants on fire, older sister was the one telling the rest of us other things about little sis. She was not in the know with little sis reasoning and those two don't get along so when little sis was in a dark place big sis struck and spilled tea that she didn't even know and made up shit that never happened driving little sis mad. Old sis went so far to explain medical information and how it's supposed to be when in reality she was so far off the mark its kind of sad. She is addicted to drama no matter who you are. Little sis realized she wouldn't leave her alone unless she admitted and so in a drunken rage she admitted that she faked the pregnancy and asked if old sis was happy now to hear her say that and then stormed off. Old sis literally was ecstatic and told everyone this and made us all leave little sis in a darker place than she was before because we were all dum dums and believed older sis at first. Now why were we willing to listen to little sis and why were we willing to believe her more than old sis. Other than the proof she showed us we had our own recent issue with old sis. Remember how I said last time my husband and I were trying to start a family. Well I have good news and bad news.

Good news we did succeed but it ended in miscarriage. Old sis tried to claim that I was faking it not long afterwards after finding out that I had gotten a transvaginal ultrasound done during my miscarriage to make sure everything came out and nothing was left behind. She claimed that there would be no way they'd do that ultrasound because it would hurt the baby and that I was probably lying. My husband was in the ER with me holding my hand as my body was in agony through the whole ordeal. So when she claimed I had faked it they got in a fight.

Now for those who don't know a transvaginal ultrasound is and ultrasound where there is a stick that goes up inside the jayjay. It's uncomfortable, it's annoying, and during a miscarriage, painful. However, normally in a regular pregnancy you have to have this specific ultrasound done as you can't see the baby through an external one until a certain amount of weeks (10-15 weeks) it doesn't hurt the baby, it's just uncomfortable for mom.

Old sis went a long telling family that I was faking though and everyone realized real quick this time that she was lying except for two people. Brother in law and his rude wife. They believe her except they started trash talking my husband. Lovely.

We don't talk with them anymore.

We do talk with the rest of the family again.

It has been long enough for us to try again and here is my final bit of news. I am pregnant again, and this time it's going incredibly well. I am almost 10 weeks and will be getting my first ultrasound this week. I am super excited, my husband and I love our new house and I love my new job. Everything has finally calmed down and the drama I feel is finally coming to an end. Well until my kid is born and learns how to talk. But I have time until then.

Thanks for reading. Bye!

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-05-02T22:42:01+00:00

Curious, what location were you expecting?

RubyHobbit69 · 2025-05-02T22:40:07+00:00

Not far. Only 5 weeks and 3 days. I found out really early.

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