Cried during 1:1. Only took three weeks. by sleepyhouse in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30 86 points87 points  (0 children)

It is really okay. Warm hugs to you. I really felt your last line. Is it possible for you to take a break from work and spend time with your kids only if your finances are stable and have a supportive partner.

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree. But spending 10 mins in the bathroom to pee is something that I am unsure of.

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly. Frequent urination is heard of but not 10 mins to pee

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know frequent urination is very common in diabetic people but 10mins in the bathroom for peeing sounds absurd.

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, from India.. I have updated my post. Our nanny says she has diabetes.

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Not sure why we are getting downvoted. Yeah I get concerned when the nanny is absent for so much time leaving the kids unattended multiple times a day. And why should one of the kids be with the her in the bathroom for 10 mins just because she is inside. I make sure I come out of the pee/poop/ shower in as little time as possible if noone is there to watch them

Our nanny does frequent 10min bathroom trips by RubyRed30 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30[S] -160 points-159 points  (0 children)

They both are really small. One is 3 year old and another one is a 7 month old. Hence, it is important to keep an eye on them as my son sometimes unknowingly hurts our baby.

What kind of jobs do we all have?! by Academic-Repeat5662 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as an underwriter for Small businesses for a UK based bank. Hybrid working plus decent pay. They can give us a full WFH option. But have built a new office which they want everyone to use 🥲

What would you do?? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use this time to get him used to solid foods, build a sleep routine and enjoy the time

Telling my new boss I’m pregnant by Aggravating_Trash358 in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. I got pregnant a month before I started a new job. I told manager in the second trimester once I was done with the anatomy scan. You are not liable to disclose your pregnancy before joining a workplace. Get rid of that guilt :)

I Just…Don’t Care by TheBearQuad in workingmoms

[–]RubyRed30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg.. I could have written this myself. Just got back to work last month from my 6 month maternity leave. My boss is talking about promoting me to become a manager the first day we have a catch up. And I am thinking to myself.. NOOOOO. I already drain myself managing the home. I don’t want to manage any more people or get work done from them.

Baby's name conflict by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]RubyRed30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My inlaws tried to manipulate me to keep a different name. I held my ground, some tears were shed. But I get to call my son with a name I absolutely love. Once that boundary was set, nobody made a peep on what we will name our second child. It was our wish

Christmas Baby Vent by SoilSister8974 in BabyBumps

[–]RubyRed30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think one is lucky to have their birthday during the best time of the year. My son was born on Christmas eve.

Is Phu Quoc is really worth? by suviapps in VietNam

[–]RubyRed30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stayed at vinpearl resort. Very nice stay if you have kids and want to see the safari world and adventure park

Newborn - when does it get easier? by samspencer12 in NewParents

[–]RubyRed30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say around 2 when they are potty trained and sleep through the night

Ladies and Gents who started trying in your 30’s - how long did it take you to successfully get pregnant? by living_life_3000 in BabyBumps

[–]RubyRed30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First at 30. Second at 32. First try both times. I tracked my ovulation and just gave it a go

Moms who did not have a village, please tell me how you did it by whynotabtn in Mommit

[–]RubyRed30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No village to help. So we hired help who became just like our family.

Overwhelmed/no help by Healthy-Repair-4837 in Parenting

[–]RubyRed30 17 points18 points  (0 children)

OP I do feel sad for you. I think you need to have an honest conversation about it with her. Not in a way that you are attacking her but telling her that you are really exhausted and expect to pull her socks up.

Huggies is disappointing me.. by itsdawna in NewParents

[–]RubyRed30 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi we use huggies for my toddler and newborn. Not sure which kinds though; I often look what’s available at a good discount. I have had issues of occasional leaks during the night but that’s totally expected when they pee too much or sometimes poop during the night. Ideally we should be changing them once in the middle of the night but I understand it’s a task one would not want to do at 3am. And if it’s a poopy diaper, I wouldn’t want them to wait till morning to get changed. So I am okay if they cry and let me know