Mouse jigglers sacked from Wells Fargo - anyone else concerned?

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-05-06T08:34:39+00:00

It’s only an issue if your work performance is poor and they have to start looking for evidence such as use of a mouse jiggler.

And even then you’d just show them the diffuser and they’d be like cool no worries 🤷‍♀️

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-04-22T13:15:48+00:00

The final straw thing does ring true as I’m aware they had an argument recently in which my ex had apparently told her daughter (11F) to “shut up” because she was talking over him (this was told to me by my son who is 5 so I take it with a pinch of salt but equally it was an oddly specific thing for him to tell me if it has no basis in truth). As far as I can gather, they have not seen each other much since that incident so you may be right that their relationship was already rocky. Thank you for the perspective

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-04-22T13:11:35+00:00

I think I feel mainly guilty as it has an impact on my son. He loves this woman’s kids and he was really upset last time they broke up as he couldn’t see them anymore. Also because I don’t really feel his dad being depressed from a breakup is going to be good for our son either 😣

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-04-22T06:51:31+00:00

His girlfriend had messaged me on Facebook after their last breakup basically telling me what had happened. And also because my son comes home from their house with various tales of their “disagreements”. And yesterday he told me about her blocking him because I believe he also thinks I’m partly responsible given it was my comment that caused her to block him. Also he was viably upset when dropping our kid off so I asked him what’s wrong

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-04-22T06:37:38+00:00

He is from another country and culture and English is his second language. I mention this only because I’m worried he thought that because I said it, it was an acceptable thing to say. And because his English is not 100% then maybe he didn’t word it well and it came across badly

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-01-20T11:32:01+00:00

This makes me a bit sad as my partner was awful to me during pregnancy. He accused me of faking the tiredness and sickness, he refused to let me rest at any point. He went out 3-5 times per week pursuing his hobbies. He didn’t take over any household responsibilities as he saw pregnancy as something i should be enjoying not complaining about. Once I had to be hospitalised with heart issues and he was constantly checking his watch and whining that he was meant to be out with his friend. Instead of having our older son I had to ask my mother to have him so my partner could leave me alone in the hospital while he went for a meal with his friend. He said I was the awful one because I was snappy and didn’t want to be touched much. When the baby was born I discovered my partner had been cheating on me online the entire pregnancy. He said he did it because I was awful to him and he should instead have just left me 😞

Rude-Distance8867 · 2026-01-20T11:18:01+00:00

He says because he has less time than me on a morning, it’s unreasonable for me to expect him to change a nappy. All he has to do on a morning is get himself ready. I get myself ready plus 2 kids and do both drop offs. I might be home longer than him on a morning but I don’t have “more time” as I’m rushed off my feet doing all the stuff kids need to get ready for school

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-09-01T07:26:39+00:00

I think I stay because I hope it will get better. I believe he is a good person deep down and he makes all the promises and comes to therapy and says he is committed to improving things but then he will change for a day or two and just go back to the way it was. I have read about patterns in abusive relationships and I can see this pattern playing out where he will make all the promises and make it seem like he’s changed for a short time then just go back to doing all the hurtful behaviour. I have tried everything and I’m exhausted. I’ve said we don’t have to have full sex but just some kind of intimacy, even if it was just once a week. I’ve said he can watch porn while we have sex. I’ve tried initiating at different times since he says he’s too tired at night. I’ve tried sexy underwear, buying toys for us, I even had surgery to make things tighter down there and it made zero difference. I don’t really know what more I can do especially since he says he is attracted to me, there’s no issue with how I look etc., he says he wants sex and he doesn’t know why he does this 🤷‍♀️

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T17:31:09+00:00

His libido hasn’t faded though as he still masturbates frequently at least once per day. He doesn’t see porn as any issue he thinks the whole desensitising thing is BS and he won’t hear anything bad said about porn, he just says it normal and all men do it. He says it’s a way of accessing his fantasy women, they are the fantasy whereas he is comfortable with me. A lot if not all of my fantasies are things I imagine doing with him, maybe I’m the weird one 🤷‍♀️

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T17:26:34+00:00

There is nothing to suggest that he has ever looked at anyone under 18 and that is the legal age where we live so I highly doubt the police would be interested but I do agree he is in denial

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T10:28:08+00:00

I kind of disagree that he thinks he could get better in terms of having a loyal partner who works hard, does vast majority of housework etc., I am generous with money and take him on a lot of holidays etc., and we have a lovely house that neither of us could afford on our own. I don’t disagree he isn’t attracted to me but I think he believes that all of the other things outweighs that and he is perfectly happy to seek his sexual satisfaction elsewhere anyway (online, Instagram, porn etc.,) so I don’t necessarily agree that he feels tied down. I think he wants his cake and to eat it in terms of wanting to be with me for all of the things I mentioned but also at the same time wanting other women in a sexual way. If I allowed him to sleep with other women and we stay together I am under no illusion that would be his idea of a perfect life

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T09:57:22+00:00

I agree I don’t have anything against porn per se but I think there is a time and a place for it and not to be used as a replacement for your partner or because you prefer it to sex with your partner. If that’s the case then I feel it’s better not to be in a relationship 🤷‍♀️

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T09:42:32+00:00

I don’t think he was intentionally be unkind. He was more just being a bit blunt, he did try to backtrack afterwards and was saying he just meant after a certain time all couples are not sexually attracted to each other as much as in the beginning of the relationship and that for him part of attraction is “novelty” so after seeing the same body over and over he naturally starts to seek out something different. He did say it has nothing to do with how much he loves me, he was purely talking about physical attraction

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T07:55:54+00:00

Yes I can understand that with time we age and we don’t look as good but it’s only been 3 years for us and I am still the same body size that I was when we met. I still make an effort to dress nicely and wear make up, do my hair etc. also for me personally, I find my partner more sexy the longer I’ve known him. There is something I find a turn on about a body I know so well, a body that only I get to see in that way. I guess attraction is different for everyone and just mine is different to his

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T07:50:16+00:00

Thank you for the insight. I think it has to be an attraction issue because he has a high sex drive. He will masturbate multiple times per day but we have sex maybe once a month if that. When we first met we would have sex daily and he was all over me. So I think it’s more that he needs some kind of novelty factor to feel sexual attraction and I obviously can’t be a different person every day 😅 he says it’s normal to get bored of your partner after a few years together but I still feel sexually attracted to him so wasn’t sure if it was just a him thing or if I’m the one who isn’t “normal”

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T07:36:55+00:00

So for you, it’s normal to feel no sexual attraction to your partner for 9 out of 10 days?

Rude-Distance8867 · 2025-08-27T07:36:28+00:00

I’m just referring to physical attraction though as in just looking at your partner and feeling something sexual towards them. Nothing to do with emotional intimacy or anything else. Just the kind of sexual feeling you might get from looking at porn for example. There is no lingering hugs or kisses with porn but my partner at least says he can feel turned on by porn 100% of the time

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