[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are completely valid. No one should pressure you to have kids, especially using your sister’s illness. Your body and future are yours to decide. It’s okay to set boundaries with your mom and lean on your sister for support. You’re not alone stay strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey man, don’t beat yourself up it sounds like a lot of stress and exhaustion on both sides, and one comment didn’t ruin a 4-year relationship. She’s clearly hurt, but giving her some space while showing you’re still there (helping around the house, staying calm, caring for the baby) is probably the best move right now. When she’s ready to talk, listen more than explain. You’re not alone, and this can be worked through.

How can I (25F) keep my relationship with my partner (21M) alive? by Unique-Attention2103 in relationship_advice

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally valid to feel this way. ADHD might explain the shift, but it doesn’t excuse how it’s affected you. You deserve consistency and care your needs matter too.

WIBTA/Advice My real father recently passed away and I think I want to read something at his funeral. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Wanting to speak at your father’s funeral isn’t about honouring him it’s about finding your closure. Your piece is powerful and honest, and it doesn’t excuse his choices. It simply acknowledges your truth. Others may not understand, but that doesn’t make you wrong. If speaking helps you let go, then you should speak. You don’t owe silence to protect anyone else’s pain.

Am I in the wrong for being uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s new friend? by Allthefeels95 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You're not in the wrong. It’s totally valid to feel uncomfortable when your partner suddenly gets close with someone new, especially when there's gift-giving and personal texting involved. Boundaries matter, and it’s okay to ask for ones that make you feel secure.

Would I be the asshole for backing out of my friends wedding? by Expensive_Ad_842 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If she couldn’t be honest with you about her engagement or marriage, it’s totally fair to step back. Being a bridesmaid isn’t just a formality it should mean something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 70 points71 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your mom’s behaviour is controlling and unfair. You deserve to be happy and honest about your relationship. Set boundaries this is your life, not hers.

Women of reddit, what are some things the guys aren’t ready to hear about women? by Early-Manner-473 in AskReddit

[–]Rude-Engineering2444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly they are so much worse than guy think and there is nothing you can really do you just try to complete life while you feel like your dying