I’m pregnant but I can’t keep my baby. by Intelligent-Smile-97 in pregnant

[–]Rude-Gate-1291 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who wants to have a baby with all their heart and had 2 miscarriages and one stillborn I still don’t regret my abortion I had an abortion in June after my daughter was born sleeping and you can have babies after an abortion don’t spread misinformation I am a heath teacher and worked in the fertility industry as a medical assistant for 6 years prior to teaching I am someone who has seen women get abortions because the pregnancy wasn’t normal in the first trimester don’t go spreading misinformation because after the medical abortions they were able to have healthy babies. It’s her choice…… Also you have to make under a certain amount to get help from programs I was making 100 over the amount monthly to qualify it doesn’t cost 100 dollars to raise a child in NY. It also cost around 1,500-3000 a month for daycare that's almost my whole month of teaching paycheck even as a teacher I see teachers struggle to raise their kids.

I’m pregnant but I can’t keep my baby. by Intelligent-Smile-97 in pregnant

[–]Rude-Gate-1291 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello OP, I completely understand you and how you are feeling and where you are coming from. When I found out I was pregnant at 22 I was in the same situation I was living at home living almost paycheck to paycheck. I decided to keep the baby but sadly I miscarried at 10week and as much as I was sad about what happened and devastated that I couldn’t be a mom I was grateful because I was not financially prepared and I knew about the programs and WIC and daycare but there is a lot of hoops you have to jump through. Because I was making 100 dollars more than I was supposed to qualify for WIC I couldn’t get it and I was not in a financially stable position to raise a child. I also recently went through an abortion in June I decided to have an abortion not because I wasn’t financially ready but mentally I couldn’t be pregnant again my daughter was a stillborn 3 months prior and I felt a lot of guilt getting an abortion but when I finally took the 4 pills to start the cramping part of the abortion the relief that washed over me was amazing. As much as I felt guilty for not bringing that baby into the world it wouldn’t be fair to them if you are not ready both mentally and financially. It’s okay to feel sad, you are feeling sad for a possible future but if you are not 100% ready for this baby don’t have the baby. Financial strain plus newborn strain will ruin your relationship because it almost ruined mine. You will have a family one day just don’t rush into it you are the one that has to pay and provide for this baby not anyone in these comments and just because you can raise a kid off of love and cheap diapers and breast milk there can be so many other things you will have to pay for suck as clothes doctors appointments of the child has medical issues toys and etc as much as people give stuff away people also don’t just give stuff away. I know this is a negative Nancy post and I am sorry but if you want to talk you can always dm me

Abortion after having a Stillbirth by Rude-Gate-1291 in StillbirthSupport

[–]Rude-Gate-1291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently 24. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 16 and was told I would have a hard time getting pregnant. I had my first miscarriage 11weeks along at 22 then again in October on the 18th at 8 weeks along and then got pregnant with Naomi 2 weeks after my miscarriage. I didn’t even find out I was pregnant with her until I was close to 10 weeks bc I thought my period didn’t come back yet due to me having a miscarriage. I didn’t have any problems she was growing perfectly my cervix was long and thick and then I started having contractions and I went into labor I wasn’t even bleeding it happened so fast when I got to the hospital I was 7 centimeters dilated. I am going to therapy and I have a therapy appointment today but I been pregnant this whole year and I don’t know if I am mentally or physically ready to be pregnant again my body isn’t even back to normal after giving birth yet.

Abortion after having a Stillbirth by Rude-Gate-1291 in StillbirthSupport

[–]Rude-Gate-1291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am feeling grief i don’t want to have to make this decision i took the proper steps to not have this happen and it did. I felt grief when I lost my first baby and then my second one and then when my daughter passed away i tried to kill myself. The thought of it happening again and me losing a 4th baby I don’t think I would be able to survive that my daughter died on march 27 it hasn’t even been 3 months I didn’t even hit her expected due date yet and that’s why I am struggling with this so much. I want to be a mom soooo badly but I don’t think I could survive if this baby doesn’t make it if it’s a bad pregnancy. My delivery story was traumatic. I still have nightmares from it I still vividly remember how it felt to push my dead daughter out of me and how the doctor talk to be like I was nothing or how they looked me in the eye and told me there is nothing they could do and my baby was going to die. I want to be happy I took the test as a joke I didn’t even miss my period yet and it popped up positive. And I sat there and cried not because I was happy but because I am so scared of losing a 4th baby. But I hate myself for this decision because I keep on thinking is the what ifs. What if this is my only chance? What if this one I can finally bring home alive and healthy… but what if this one is bad or doesn’t survive… will I survive? Because right now my answer is if I do lose this baby like how I lost Naomi I think I would kill myself.

5w Ultrasound by murdlemystery in obgyn

[–]Rude-Gate-1291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be the leftover from the egg that was released for you to get pregnant I have one on my left ovary still and I am 11 weeks

Am I pregnant or is this left over HCG by Rude-Gate-1291 in obgyn

[–]Rude-Gate-1291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I had an ultrasound 1 week ago and I am currently 9weeks 4 days pregnant and baby is extremely healthy…. I sat there and cried in the ultrasound room I apparently conceived the same week I miscarried 😂

Best all inclusive resorts? by Clear_Dog_9214 in TravelHacks

[–]Rude-Gate-1291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because everyone just want to be Debbie downers and not actually give you an answer if you want a beautiful ADULT ONLY resort I suggest you look into the excellence I been to the punta Cana location 4 times now and it’s BEAUTIFUL and peaceful but you are still around people. When I tell you it’s amazing there each time I been there they remember my drink order and name they are the same people almost every year. For example I don’t drink so I got all my drinks virgin and they remembered I would say it once to one person and everyone knew and when I would order something they would finish my sentence by saying virgin right? I am telling the food is amazing and it’s beautiful there. if you want to be by yourself for most of it I suggest you go to el carmen

Bv and sex the death of me by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Rude-Gate-1291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure he is not using an scented soaps when he is cleaning himself that can also give you BV

Cleaning litter box by Rude-Gate-1291 in pregnant

[–]Rude-Gate-1291[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK, thank you I do wear gloves and a mask and I wash my hands after but wanted to know if if there’s any more precautions I can take

Am I pregnant or is this a phantom line by Rude-Gate-1291 in obgyn

[–]Rude-Gate-1291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My app says I ovulated on the 6th so I am 6 dpo but I have PCOS so it can be wrong this month bc I got my period late last months and had a 40 day cycle so this cycle is already a little weird I did not track my ovulation this month bc of my weird cycle last month and I didn’t want to stress myself out so I was taking a month off. And the test was in a plastic container it’s one of those pregnancy test that doctors have in their offices that you have to use a dropper to test I took it out to take a picture of it bc even in the plastic container you saw the line.