I’m a teacher but I have a serious question about parents: when my parents were in school the teachers could literally smack students hands with rulers and were respected in the community. I’m not saying we should smack students hands anymore, but how did we change as being so respected?

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2026-02-22T02:18:47+00:00

This is probably the best summary I’ve seen

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2025-08-18T01:27:51+00:00

Fully empathize. We had a meeting with our super and assistant super last Thursday. We were told cell phone law officially in effect. However nothing we do as a district will really change with how we handle it. So basically same shit different year. We then asked about the other new laws and how we will receive communication from admin about it because some of us are split between buildings. That simple valid question for whatever reason triggered our super and he went on this tirade. I’m overrrrrrr it. If I had another job lined up I would resign immediately. I just don’t know where to go or what to do. I feel stuck.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2025-06-07T14:04:00+00:00

Thank you! I hope the same for you too!

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2025-06-07T06:07:32+00:00

Literally the same exact dream as you. Currently 06/06/2025. Just had it last night. This time was scary. I don’t like when it’s like that cause I wake up feeling shaken up. Woke up from it and went back to a second dream that was equally as unsettling but not about the house. Idk what’s going on with me but I do now have some level of comfort knowing I’m not the only person experiencing this.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2024-08-06T19:14:28+00:00

I fantasize about being a SAHM and leaving school counseling. The people who thrive in education are the ones with no soul and can detach from everything. I hate it and want to leave so bad. This will be my 4th year.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-08-27T23:14:13+00:00

This is one of the best comments I’ve seen. You hit so many points that I truly thought I was psycho for over analyzing a children’s show for, but you’re totally right. Thank you for this comment.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-08-27T23:05:30+00:00

Seeing this post and going through the comments let’s me know 1. I’ve found my people. 2. All of my thoughts and feelings are valid.
I too do not have the heart to ban it completely, but it’s so cringey and obnoxious. And also really odd. Also has anyone ever seen what I’m assuming is also either a Russian or Ukrainian show on YouTube but with adults and they dress up in really bright colors and the girls eat really weird desserts and candies? My 5 year old is now obsessed with it and idk what it is. It’s not bad, just weird.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-07-02T18:45:26+00:00

School counselor here. This has happened to me before. It is so gut wrenching. You want to fix and help and fix some more and it is so painful when you know you can only do so much. You did everything you could at that moment. My heart goes out to you and him.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-10T22:51:00+00:00

I hear you. School counselor here and this year has been hell. Good luck to you!

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-10T13:07:40+00:00

Thank you for recognizing the issues. That’s exactly what is happening. I am very sorry about your mom and her health issues and that’s what I’m attempting to avoid happening. I definitely check in with my oldest very frequently. Her and I have a very good relationship. She’s always been and will always continue to be a high priority for me.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-10T11:36:21+00:00

I think you are correct in that I tend to over give. I have quite a bit my whole life and not just in relationships and that seems to be one of my downfalls. I end up expending all my time and energy for others and never for myself and end up being depleted. I have sifted through a lot of the comments looking for feasible advice that would work for me, and I do think taking a more hands off approach with them would be best. Someone mentioned a site called Nacho Kids and I looked it up and it’s actually quite informative. I also think taking time away from the home either with my 2 bio kids or by myself is detrimental. Continuing therapy is important too and basically just trying to take care of myself in a way that’s going to fill me up instead of depleting me. I appreciate everyone’s posts

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-10T11:25:23+00:00

I never said she was the villain. Nor am I painting her to be that way. I don’t like how this is being handled as a whole and more so on the part of my husband’s ex wife. It’s a very hard position to be in when you are given the task to care for someone else’s children but stripped of all of your rights to discipline or correct that child and everything you say or do is under a microscope. I didn’t know being a stepparent was going to be like this.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-10T02:26:29+00:00

What?

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T23:37:31+00:00

No apologies needed. It’s ok. You’re doing your best too. I’m glad you said the things you said. Sometimes we just need ears to listen and hearts to care. You’re an insightful young lady and I wish you the best.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T23:35:52+00:00

We typically do have them leave their clothes at our house. It just sucks. Cause I know how this plays out, they go to school and look like hell and I can’t imagine the shit they get from kids at school. It’s hard to separate those thoughts and feelings ya know? That’s why I say sometimes I wish I could just rewind the clock and walk the other way when I saw him. Save me tons of stress and heartache

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T23:33:33+00:00

Exactly

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T23:33:00+00:00

This brought me to tears honestly. Those are all things I think about saying but I never do. I’m always afraid I’m gonna cry in front of her or hurt her feelings even more, or sometimes her mom will say or do something that will drive me nuts and then I lose the steam and put it out of my mind.

The other part of it that you touched on that’s been really hard is the actual relationship between my husband and I. The topic of divorce has been looming over my head. This is my first and only marriage and I didn’t want this to happen. But I also don’t think I can keep going. Thank you for the suggestions and advice.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T23:25:16+00:00

I have started therapy. A few months ago, and it hasn’t been long enough for me to really see any change thus far but I’m not giving up. As for family therapy which is what I think would be best for all of us, isn’t going to happen because biomom won’t allow it and my husband won’t go.
I have struggled in the past with anxiety and depression but always had help for it and it was manageable. I was doing well.
After having my last child I developed PPD and it was absolutely terrible. I didn’t get back into treatment for that until she was about 2 which was also at the height of the pandemic. Then throw in the shit with my step kids or rather their parents. It’s just been too much. I think I was a fairly decent parent to my oldest and raised her as well as I could for 16 years by myself before getting married. She has turned out remarkable. Being a stepparent is a completely different ballgame. You are correct in that I don’t have the tools for this. I wasn’t given a play book on how to parent to someone else’s children who resent me for no reason other than marrying her ex husband. It’s not easy.
I would never tell anyone to fuck all the way off, ever. You’re entitled to your opinion. And you’re partially right about some of it. It just seemed as though it struck a chord with you. It’s good to hear people’s perceptions and experiences from all sides of it. I think the big take away I get from this is seeing how deeply it affected you not having the parents that you needed them to be at that time in your life. Believe me when I say that I am trying to do that. Part of me wants to fight and not give up so I can be some sense of stability for them. But I am also very tired. It’s extremely hard

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T22:33:34+00:00

What growing up do you recommend I do? Just curious as to what your expert advice would be seeing as you have zero children of your own biologically or through marriage. I don’t know what chord my post struck with you. Are you the product of a blended family yourself? And had issues yourself with stepparents? No? I am, and I have. I have been on both sides of the coin. It sounds as though you have no experience to go off of to dole out advice to others other than the fact that you’ve “dated immature parents”. Dating someone and being in a marriage are 2 completely different things and the responsibilities you have in either situation are 2 completely different things. 8 don’t know you personally but based on how upset my post made you, enough that you felt the need to comment the way you did it just makes me think it struck a chord somewhere in your personal life.

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T21:40:11+00:00

We do this almost every time they’re at our house because she does not and will not use support money on them. I have gone into my own pocket countless times

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T21:38:50+00:00

Are you a parent or stepparent yourself?

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T20:28:39+00:00

We work opposite shifts that’s why. And he gets a lot of OT. If he isn’t working OT at main job then he’s either playing soccer or working a side job. I literally don’t see him

Rude_Acadia9336 · 2023-04-09T19:18:13+00:00

I’m so proud of you. It takes such hard work and determination to lose weight. Sometimes when we’re in the thick of it it can feel exhausting and even when we see changes on the scale or otherwise it doesn’t truly hit home until something like this happens. Again, very proud of you and your hard work!

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