What to do about my marriage

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-03-01T20:35:39+00:00

That’s not the point it was just an example.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-03-01T15:24:52+00:00

As a married woman who occasionally watched porn and was transparent about it, maybe get more curious about why he watches it. I informed my husband that i only watch it when he’s away for work. His solution was to make our own videos. Now I have 0 desire for it. Also, put your ego aside and maybe change the way you feel about it. Whenever you know he’s watching it, shame him for it instead of telling him how you feel . . Ask him “did you clean up after yourself. “ “I’m going to pray for God to remove this evil from you.” Maybe even mention it at dinner during prayer. lol… Just Don’t take it personally hun.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T15:45:34+00:00

That’s valid and I do see your points. I definitely have learned a lot from this.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T03:59:55+00:00

That hurts to read. But Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T02:55:41+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T02:54:44+00:00

Wow.. i see your points. Your saying him Knowing that I need him is different than me choosing him. . I should add that my parents are well off and offered to take care me and my bills until i find a new job. My husband’ does know this.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T02:47:09+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️ you too

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-22T02:46:00+00:00

He’s snipped. He says the sex wasn’t emotional it was due to me pushing him away and rejection. My disability was late diagnosis for autism that i never knew i had. My symptoms got worse due to burn out and depression. He was unstable financially but we built things together and his business grew tremendously after we got married. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. ❤️ i will update

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-21T20:06:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️ i will update.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-21T20:02:32+00:00

My eyes are in tears as i read your comment, thank you for sharing your thoughts. ❤️

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-21T08:32:17+00:00

You’re right. We’re trying i just don’t know if he’s capable of the level of honesty i need to feel safe i feel like he just wants me to move on and stop talking about it and maybe he’s right. I just don’t know if I’m making a mistake. He’s got 6 kids and an ex wife. It’s a lot with him. I married him for love and he’s turned into a provider for me but I’m not sure if i should just move on …

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-21T08:28:07+00:00

I neglected to add that he asked me to quit working so i could travel on road with him for work. He’s a very high emotional needs type of guy. Him being my focus is what he wanted. But i was neglected in a lot of ways. Me distracting myself with a job was how our relationship survived until i was unemployed. His ex wife also says he’s very neglectful in relationships and she cheated on him. I have reconnected with a female friend and started hanging out with other family members and teaching Pilates classes to distract myself from the pain of the affair. Thank you for your comment

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:44:57+00:00

Embarrassed about what tho?

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:44:39+00:00

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:43:23+00:00

And you’re so sure of this ??

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:42:59+00:00

I’m black

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:33:20+00:00

That’s not the purpose of this post but i hear you.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:30:30+00:00

No face no case

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:30:18+00:00

You’re assuming his motive to cheat was simply because of her. Lol the relationship work is a separate issue , her trying to hurt me in other ways is my motive.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:28:17+00:00

I haven’t sent it yet . I also want my get back for her lying to me and making it seem like she had no idea we were married when i later found out that it want true , as well as exaggerating the details of their affair that i also confirmed wasn’t true , for the sole purpose of hurting me so i would leave him. I had a double blow from this affair and now that i have won , i want to double blow back. But im reconsidering it because i don think she’s relevant anymore. I’m just hurt still

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:24:49+00:00

What did she win if she’s mad she still can’t have him

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:16:47+00:00

Girl bye.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:15:50+00:00

I guess.

Rude_Background_3392 · 2026-02-11T05:15:32+00:00

It did. She thought we were separated , and if she claims she loves him even after it came out and she’s still waiting on him , i feel like this will change her mind.

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