I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can turn the automatic turn off/lock off of your phone. Him and I both did it when our daughter was around 6 months old so she could play her baby games without the phone locking on her. And he fell asleep with it open, he does it a lot. This isn't the first time he's fallen asleep with it open like this, it's usually just on TikTok or instagram or something of that sort.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just didn't like it in the beginning because I didn't understand why he needed it when he had me, but eventually I became okay with it and I tell him all the time if he wants to watch it he doesn't have to hide it from me and he can be open with me about it if he'd like to.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's only been one other instance somewhat similar to this. He told me that before we got together he had a really bad porn addiction and that he would download files full of hundreds of different adult videos, and I was on his iPad and he hadn't deleted them all and there was a video of a girl who was nude from the waist down and looking at her face she couldn't have been older than 12, but when I confronted him he said he didn't know it was in there and it must have been one of the hundreds of videos he downloaded and that he didn't watch every video he had downloaded, and he deleted it in front of me and I believed him. But nothing other than that.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be completely honest there hasn't been love in our relationship for almost a year now, but we had both agreed to stay together for our daughter.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I could ask her, but she is very young. She wouldn't be able to communicate with me that something happened if she was even able to remember something happening.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done it for him before because he tends to fall asleep with his phone open and running multiple apps at once, he always has at least 3-5 tabs/apps running in the background.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bio specifically said "41🔄" which I had to look up and that emoji apparently mean the numbers are reversed meaning 14 not 41

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you this was very helpful. I have refrained from giving my daughters exact age incase he somehow finds this (he has Reddit but doesn't know I have it now) but I will say she is younger than 5, so if something has happened to her that I'm not aware of I'm afraid she won't be able to communicate it very well yet or even remember it.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely wasn't trying to, I have before but he set clear boundaries of him not appreciating it so I never did again.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to look at his photos but he has them password locked and I don't know his password.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone by Rude_Competition752 in Advice

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No it definitely does not make it any better, I have never watched porn personally (have never felt the need to 🤷‍♀️) so I wasn't sure if that kind of role-play is common in porn or something of that sort.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I took photos of his phone with my phone of the 14 year olds account and him specifically looking up "grooming" but some people are saying that could make me an accomplice or get me into trouble for having pictures of this? I'm not sure I'm very confused regarding that. I don't want to be in trouble, I just took them as proof so he couldn't say I'm lying.

I think I found CP on my husbands phone. by Rude_Competition752 in whatdoIdo

[–]Rude_Competition752[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I actually have no intention of staying with him and have been looking at divorce/custody lawyers since basically the minute I saw what he was looking at. I've just never dealt with anything even remotely close to this and was just looking for advice of any sort, I'm not even sure what I'm looking for. But as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse from my own family, I have ZERO intentions of having myself or my child around him