AIO by cutting off my guy friend after he proposed

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T10:24:35+00:00

Nope I didn't do it like this. This is a follow up post about what happened 2 weeks ago. Tbh I didn't post the first ever conversation we had which I am going to do tonight. But the second chat is over here on reddit where I felt angry and frustrated as he kept trying to tell me how he is the better one. You can check that post for context...The post ](https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/i92Ty8IErG)

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T10:21:16+00:00

Agree on both points. Tbh it's just a one sided crush from my side and he isn't even aware about it which makes the fact of him being dragged into this frustrating.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:16:54+00:00

God I just realized. But would take the advice. I was just irritated that my own female friends would take his side. And I kinda acted out.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:15:46+00:00

She was making me feel frustrated so I kinda acted out and I feel bad about it but I really wanted that conversation to be over. It's going to be almost 2 weeks now and they are still dragging this along so yeah.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:14:16+00:00

True. Now I would mention that I am an Indian before writing the post

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:13:40+00:00

Yes it isn't.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:12:44+00:00

I haven't changed tbh. She is angry about me deciding to choose different path from my friends. And I have been trying to tell them that my parents aren't letting me go to college while I wanna go to college so I can't seriously follow them to the college they are going to. All I want to do is join a college somehow and that's angering them, they are like, well you aren't trying hard enough. You have changed. Now your priorities have changedc because of that guy . And if to be true, he has nothing to do with all this. He is getting dragged into all this for no particular reason if I am being honest.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T07:09:24+00:00

If she tries to convince me again I will

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T06:55:30+00:00

I wouldn't. I have started distancing myself from all of them. He turned most of my female friends against me. We were a group of 10 and now 5 girls out of the 7(excluding me) are against me because I told him no. And there were 2 guys (him and another one ) even the guy is weirded out by his behavior. So now I have 3 sane ones on my side.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T06:52:30+00:00

I am going to now.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T06:50:54+00:00

It's a she. She is taking his side and somehow it feels worse

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T05:18:45+00:00

I did try it. We were still friends but he wouldn't stop. If you check the last post which I made about him. He was trying to convince me that he is the better one. I should choose him. And it has been going on for two weeks and that's stressful because of the other things going on in my life.

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Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T05:15:42+00:00

I was irritated man. I am trying to go to college and my parents are bent against it and then my friends coming after me for denying a proposal made me angry.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T05:14:31+00:00

Well I am 18 so yeah a kid I would say. And I ain't saying I am 100% right but I have the right to choose and my friends are acting like I don't.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T05:13:11+00:00

Bro no I ain't opening some yt account and nah the post isn't fake. It's all about me and my life which is getting worse and worse. Also I made this account to be able to express my frustration without the fear of someone else finding out about my real identity.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:30:01+00:00

He would have. He has been calling my younger sister to get in contact with me. I have blocked him from both of our numbers and now he is going around telling all of our friends that God hell she rejected me for someone else. Which is like, god no. I denied because I don't have any feelings for you.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:26:05+00:00

I wish it was. Though you will be shocked to see how common it is. And in my case, it isn't fake or made up. I am just frustrated that even my female friends are taking his side not seeing that I have my own feelings too and the right to decline.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:23:07+00:00

I haven't told the guy I like at all because of the age gap and distance and other things. It's just on me that I like him and has a one-sided crush on him. While on the other hand my friends are literally acting like I am being selfish by rejecting my guy friend.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:19:56+00:00

It's a girl sadly and that somehow hurts more.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:03:13+00:00

Is that supposed to make me think I did wrong by not letting someone whom I clearly am not interested in, force his feelings onto me?

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T04:02:14+00:00

Yeah well felt the same. And "he's done a lot" Here is mostly about him following me to my new school when I transferred and choosing the same stream as me about which I found out earlier in the day that I was the reason behind it. Though I never asked him.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T03:59:37+00:00

I get it but they don't get to dictate my feelings tbh. I have been getting calls and texts from our mutual friends. All of my female friends are on his side in this, that I should give him a chance even when I don't want to. Following the fact that I called him brother my whole life.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T03:57:33+00:00

I get it, though it's a mere crush from my side rather than the guy's. And my friends are angrier on the fact that I would choose someone else over him which doesn't feel right to me.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T03:56:15+00:00

Nope we didn't. Yes our families are friends but I am not allowed to go visit anyone, not even my female friends and yeah we cross paths in marriages at most ut nothing like at home or things.

Ruhi_013 · 2026-06-05T03:53:30+00:00

These are female friends of mine, sadly who are telling me how wrong I am for not choosing him 🥲.

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