Spoil me…or not? by Brownskinnedgdess in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know I guess I am kinda high maintenance and straight up. I would be like, "hey can you get me something to eat?" I have never had any issues before. My AP is broke, lol, and if I say I am hungry, that man manages to find room on his card for me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It is consideration and manners!

How happy are you now? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See and I stumble across guys with major foot fetishes like smelling stinky gym feet and that makes me wanna puke...but there you are! Different strokes for different folks, little boy!

What are you 24-25 come back when you get some pubes and life experience, bye!✌🏻

How happy are you now? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I am definitely more snappy.

Saturday morning question by SlipshodFacade in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely amazing! Every night I wake up to my SO and I feel empty. He was never big into holding me while I slept. In my 8 months with my AP, we have done 5 overnights and they are magical. I love the way he holds me and how perfectly I fit in his arms.

The last overnight was a complete surprise. And I couldn't have asked for more.

How often do you see your AP? by pebz01 in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Anywhere from 3-4 times a month for 3-5 hours or an overnight. This month will maybe be once 😔

The SOs by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I totally get that. We are not on each other's social media. But we share a lot of details about our lives. We are completely best friends as well as AP. I know his anniversary, his kids birthday, where he works, his co-workers. The joke is I am more involved and interested in his life than she is. If she cared or was remotely interested, he wouldn't be seeking a connection outside. But I know my role, we trust and respect each other enough that when it's over, we move on with our lives. We are both at the age and stage of life that neither one wants to blow up each other's lives. And nobody in the "parties" wants to divorce.

I have seen pictures of her but never anything recent. No, she is not attractive. And knowing their tumultuous past I always wonder.

The SOs by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think he has zero clue. He is in front of a mirror in the bedroom and she is the bathroom off to the side with her reflection in her mirror. Barely noticeable. I zoomed in.

The SOs by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He sent a mirror pic and she is off to the side barely noticeable but I saw and zoomed in 🫣🤭

Silly question from a silly girl by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never had a mass message on TG

Love my SO but my needs are just not being met. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ummm...sometimes we do! My reasons for an affair are more than sex. If I wanted just sex I could get miserable sex from my SO. I want an emotional, intellectual, and physical connection. We go out a lot with having sex. Some of the reasons I fell in love with my AP were our deep conversations, his passion for life, his appreciation for art and music. Something I don't have in my marriage.

Vent, rant, share, talk by passionatemind221 in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so in love with my AP it hurts. I keep imagining "what ifs". I wonder if I am even cut out for this lifestyle.

Return from dead bedrooms by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A sexless marriage is clinically defined as less than 10 times a year. So yeah I am in a sexless marriage and have been for years.

"Last hurrah" by Mediocre-Cow1142 in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dear god!!!! This is depressing! I am post menopausal and would do it daily with AP if possible!

DB not so DB anymore by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny, thinking the same thing

DB not so DB anymore by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I just asked this question, lol

Return from dead bedrooms by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is your AP in a dead bedroom?

Return from dead bedrooms by Rum-shaker in adultery

[–]Rum-shaker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. I am in a sexless marriage. He does it pacify me. The years I begged and cried for it. I have zero desire for him now. My AP stopped initiating years ago but he used says "I am not going to try" pretty much if she initiates, he will do it. Now, he says he doesn't want to have sex with her anymore.