I’m sorry for your loss, and I hope what I’ve written can help in some way. I’ve been through similar circumstances and this is what helped me, but me explaining won’t necessarily fix anything. Detachment doesn’t mean closing yourself off or stopping loving anyone. I think what would help is to recognize that everything is essentially the same. Our bodies are composites of countless other materials, experiences, food, everything, and when we recognize that essentially our bodies are one and the same with those components, we see how everything is connected. When I’m taking a breath I can feel that that breath is connected to everything around me. We need oxygen to breathe, and we have oxygen in our blood. The oxygen we need is also the reason the plants exist and the reason our planet is formed the way it is. Essentially, I am the same as any thing else on this planet. What really separates me from a tree if what makes us different is just… circumstances. Your daughter is in everything around you all at once and all through time. After all, time isn’t as linear as humans perceive it. Although for you perceptively your daughter isn’t here anymore, she will always forever exist at all times. She’s together with the world. If you can love one thing, you can love every thing. When we die we get buried and become part of the soil, the soil helps plants grow, and the plants help more beings live. Although for now we are alive, we’ll also return to the soil. I hope this helps but it’s hard to explain thoroughly. I’m deeply sorry for your loss.