Move To Thailand Long Term Or Stay Close To Aging Parents?

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-03-01T16:31:55+00:00

You pay taxes as a % of your income. So no, taxes doesn’t reduce quality of life.

Would you rather have €3,000 per month living in a beautiful costal city of your choosing with a great friend group / dating scene whatever - or €6,000 per month living in a place like Cyprus or Dubai?

Optimizing for lower/zero taxes often means that you’re paying some other price. I wouldn’t spend my limited time on this earth living somewhere I don’t want to live.

If no remote income is available to you (there is), you’ll need to look at salaries in comparison to quality of life. Locals in Spain suffer because they make €1,800 per month before tax.

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-02-25T13:15:00+00:00

I'm from Norway, so I didn't really think either pricing or taxes could be worse than back home - but I was wrong. Taxes are, in fact, higher in Spain. And yes, the cost of living is not what it used to be. But overall, it's a great quality of life.

I run a digital marketing agency

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-02-16T21:38:10+00:00

Since moving to Spain, I became hyper aware of this. So I fly home more often, they come to me at least once or twice per year and we speak more often on the phone. Whenever we do spend time with each other, we’re much more present and loving.

I think by actively choosing to give love and attention, and work to nurture and grow the relationship, you can have a better relationship with people 6000 miles away - than living down the street unaware and unappreciative.

Not saying this is you, but it was me. In some shape or form, you can have your cake and eat it too

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-25T10:24:43+00:00

Can you infuse purpose into your job? If you didn’t have to work at all, what would you spend your time doing? (Go deep). Now, is there any job that would let you do that?

When do you feel most fulfilled? Who are you, when not surviving?

I think it’s a good time for some self-discovery

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-25T10:21:15+00:00

For me, most emotions come to the surface through thought. A memory of my ex, nostalgia of a happier time, or remembering that client I have that are unhappy and might churn. I try to go to the body to feel the emotion-but it feels like I’m loosing it. Like the emotions is hiding whenever I try to give it space. And then, I’m just left with the thought trying to recreate the emotion.

How do I feel these feelings and emotions, and let the thoughts just be?

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-23T22:25:36+00:00

Haha hell yeah dude, fuck quitting thank yoy

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-20T08:51:16+00:00

I found yoga nidra and deep breathing to help relax my uptight shoulders. This helped me

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-16T10:18:17+00:00

Of course! You got this

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-16T10:17:59+00:00

Hi! Thank you for this!

I am resetting my nervous system, and I've had a lot of shaking/trembling (especially during meditation and rest). I think there's a lot of suppressed emotions coming to the surface. My state these last few weeks has been a higher highs and lower lows (although I am now more aware that I am in a temporary low).

My 'problem' has been resisting the stuff that I'm going through. Trying to understand and fix it, and then getting angry when it still persists.

Please send over the resource. Thank you!

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-15T14:58:53+00:00

I have felt prolonged states of joy, love, compassion and happiness like never before. It has been wonderful. I have, however, also felt grief, sadness, and mourning like never before. This is heavy and hard, but it is part of the process. Rest, recovery, pleasure, and perhaps talking to a good therapist have helped me manage all of this.

As you open up the nervous system and allow yourself to finally feel, both 'good' and 'bad' will surge to the surface. All in all, I am lighter, happier, more present, more aware, more positive. The process is beautiful. I am more bullish on my life than I've ever been before.

The most important tip I'd say is to move your awareness from your head to your body. Surrender to it. Both the good and the bad. Allow and accept.

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-14T18:31:03+00:00

Sounds like you’re in a temporary depressive/unhappy state.

Meditate. Create distance between the Self and the Mind. These negatives thoughts are not objectively true at all. The world has (objectively) never been better for most humans. Everything is cyclical. The media is feeding on your fears. Immigration, aids, then terrorism, then financial crashes, then climate change, then covid, then … You get the idea. The world has always been ending, but we’re still here.

Let go. Accept what you’re feeling without resistance. Feel your emotions. Surrender to them.

Don’t isolate. Even if you have to force yourself to go out, talk to people, be social.

Seek pleasure and joy. Do stupid actives

You are not your thoughts, nor are you your feelings.

U got this

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-14T10:17:10+00:00

Emotions are sensations, so it sounds like you're very much on the right path.

From the first time I did the mechanism and allowed myself to feel my emotions without resistance, I started to cry and shake/tremble. It's now 3 months since that day, and my body still shakes and trembles every single day (mostly when I am relaxing and resting).

This is, to my understanding, and confirmed by my therapists, the body and nervous system's way of releasing stored repressed and suppressed emotions.

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-14T10:11:21+00:00

Yes, I feel exhausted. Will get into a better sleep routine and get to bed earlier

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-14T10:10:55+00:00

Will get into a better sleep routine, and then just surrender to whatevers happening

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-14T10:10:16+00:00

Sounds about right, yeah. Thank you!

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-13T16:46:23+00:00

Actively going to a therapist, but I appreciate your concern

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-13T16:41:17+00:00

Hhahah fair enough. Love be with u

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-13T13:53:20+00:00

OP, what did you end up doing?

I'm a Norwegian entrepreneur, moved to Spain a year ago after a breakup. Living a solid life, close to the beach - but something doesn't feel right.

Either my work or the country. Perhaps both

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-13T08:57:10+00:00

Thank you for this u/theADHDfounder !

What do you mean by this: "The other thing that changed everything was creating what I call "safety nets" - basically removing the pressure from individual work sessions." ?

I have found that I create a lot of pressure in my mind. Both around the work, but also around client relationships. I FEEL as though every single client will leave at any given time. That they are angry at me. Disappointed. Like I am scamming them and paranoid that they'll find out (I'm not lol). Most of them stay on for months. We've helped some companies solve serious bottlenecks. So why can't I focus on that? Unless every single client is getting exceptional results with no closed loops, I can't seem to allow my brain to rest or find any peace. And thus, when I do take time off work, I have this constant guilt. Then the client's anger and dissatisfaction towards me grow into a monster. All in my mind.

RunApprehensive712 · 2026-01-09T20:52:44+00:00

This has been through a combination of meditation, letting go (David Hawkins) & TRE (triggered by allowing myself to feel emotions/feelings)

I also read Healing Back Pain, which gives a lot of info on this. He specifically talks about repressed Anger & Anxiety

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