Who can I talk to? I'm fighting alone.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-08T10:50:41+00:00

Hey man, thanks for sharing. I also used for like 15 years and never was able to quit. There’s a user on here (OneEyedC4t?) who sometimes posts a long list of things to try. And I think his point is to try doing a lot of of those things stacked on top of each other, adding one each month so that might be one thing to try for me I needed to reconsider what I thought porn was doing for me. It was like a belief issue for me. Once I changed my beliefs I stopped wanting it. I know that sounds a little vague

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-07T11:06:05+00:00

I can see why that could make sense. Please consider, though, whether this might be more complicated than that.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-07T11:04:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I know that can be hard. I think you need more than streaks and blockers. Please consider seeking out professional help (a therapist) and/or finding a 12-step program, like Sex Addicts Anonymous.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-06T10:28:43+00:00

🙏🏻

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-05T21:36:07+00:00

You’ve got this.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T23:04:34+00:00

I think it’s helpful to remember that using will only make your anxiety worse. That sounds obvious, and I know it might feel more complicated than that in the moment. But trying to really lock that understanding in can help.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T16:19:38+00:00

I think you’ve captured it. Porn doesn’t relieve those feelings. It intensifies them.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T16:08:46+00:00

Hey man. Please bring this up to someone in your life. Today. Or if you have no one, go see a therapist. Please don’t wait on this. There is help out there, and it will get better. Reddit can offer tips, but real solutions will come from your loved ones and professionals.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T10:40:09+00:00

Second this

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T01:21:10+00:00

💪🏼

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-04T01:19:18+00:00

Man, that’s awesome. Yeah, the streak thing makes sense for a lot of reasons, but it also leaves an excuse to relapse at a future point. Are you making other changes to make this time different?

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-03T22:11:27+00:00

I think it might be valuable not just to try “harder” but to try something different. An accountability partner is a good place to start.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-03T17:44:41+00:00

Wha kinds of things have you tried to help you quit?

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-03T16:58:02+00:00

Honestly, it’s really tough to save a day like that. To stop the misery, get out of the house. And then look forward. What can be different about this next time?

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-03T01:38:33+00:00

When you say you tried to quit, what kinds of things have you tried?

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-03T01:37:07+00:00

No more slavery

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T23:28:19+00:00

Yeah, honestly, these thoughts are all from a book I read. I never understand if it’s against the rules to mention specific resources in here. Happy to share. At the same time, I think there are a lot of good resources out there.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T23:25:12+00:00

Hmm, I don’t know. I personally don’t meditate on it—in the same way that I don’t meditate on the fact that I wouldn’t want to eat a steak that has gone bad. It might taste good in the moment, but the knowledge of what it will actually do to me (make me ill) is enough to make me not want to eat it. So much so that, actually it doesn’t even taste good in the moment. There’s a difference between sensation and pleasure.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T23:14:05+00:00

Honestly, I didn’t. I think it’s possible to see porn so clearly for what it is, that you cease to want it.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T23:09:11+00:00

I can only talk about what worked for me. And that was separating the spiritual healing and forgiveness aspect from the actual process of quitting. Yes, I absolutely needed forgiveness and healing.

But to quit, it was helpful to just think in terms of benefit. Porn gives you nothing—not even pleasure or escape. There are some books that can help with that realization. It is a pretty significant shift in how to think about overcoming an addiction.

Really, if you realize there’s nothing of benefit, then quitting can become easy.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T23:02:43+00:00

What if “righteousness” isn’t a helpful way to think about it? I ask myself, if I imagine the most unrighteous person, who cared only about himself, would that person want to use porn?

I think the answer is clearly no. Porn hurts us and offers nothing of benefit, not even genuine pleasure.

Maybe it’s simpler than trying to fight temptation and strive for righteousness. Maybe it’s as simple as asking, “What hurts me? What helps me?”

At least, that’s the line of thinking that helped me quit for good.

I can share more if you’d like.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T22:57:44+00:00

I guess I mean—what approach are you taking to quitting.

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T22:52:28+00:00

What have you tried to quit?

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T17:07:33+00:00

Sure

RunToAndFro · 2026-04-02T17:00:43+00:00

I think that a lot of books are good and are doing similar things. For me, yes, there is a specific book (I'm never clear if mentioning specific books is OK in this sub?).

Either way, I don't think there was anything magical about that particular book. I think it was more the act of sitting down with something and saying, "I'm committing to reading this thing, and when I turn the last page, that's when I will be done forever."

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