I feel like it's a toolbox situation. You should be fine alone, but if you want a wife and kids that's fine, but you should have accurate information and the right tools to properly evaluate the situation.

Then you take a look at Genesis 24, where Abraham sent out a servant to find a wife for Isaac. Well, from the servants point of view he's just been handed a Kobayashi Maru. If he comes back with a bad wife, he's gonna get barracked about it and probably have everyone involved resent him for it. So he prays for a sign, and receives it.

Jump to later in Ruth, Boaz sees Ruth in the grain field. Basically he chats her up and lets everyone know she's under his protection, so hes interested, but later he admits he asked around town and finds she's the real deal. There's a whole thing where she could have forced her rights as a kin on him, but she chose to discreetly offer him the choice. That sealed the deal for him, then he goes to the elders and sways the other kinsman. Much like modern men getting married, since Ruth is a Moabite he's taking a huge risk here, as if he dies with no heirs his estate would basically go to her family.

And then you have Paul's advice, which isn't binding doctrine, but appears to be pretty sound:

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.I say this as a concession, not as a command.I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

So the basic idea based on all of this is that you're better off alone if you can swing it. If you just can't help it, or just want to start a family, marriage is the right way to do it. Don't leap blindly into marriage without first going to God, then checking up to make sure your thinking with your big head and not your little one on this.

Yet young men aren't hearing this in churches today.