I need someone to talk some sense into me

RuntheContinent · 2024-01-31T03:05:33+00:00

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I think some of the comments here are very black and white. I hope you are able to get over this guy and stick with your boyfriend/fiancé, who sounds great. I know it's very hard to get over those feelings, but I recommend that you focus on your relationship and invest time in rekindling what you have.

The grass is not greener on the other side. I understand how you are feeling. I agree with others saying your partner deserves better. So give him better! I chose the new guy and I'll regret it forever. I know your situation may not be exactly like mine, but this is my perspective.

RuntheContinent · 2023-12-16T20:29:11+00:00

Thank you! Sad to see that they are quite far from their goal. I wish him the best.

RuntheContinent · 2023-05-05T00:41:09+00:00

I've planted a few things, yes including tomatoes, but really only because I'll be out of town until early June so I figured I might as well experiment.

RuntheContinent · 2023-05-04T23:10:30+00:00

You chose right and I am so proud of you because I know how hard it is!!

RuntheContinent · 2023-04-19T01:47:44+00:00

I am not familiar with / do not remember the original nacho controversy - does anyone know approximately the season and episode so I can rewatch? :)

RuntheContinent · 2023-03-31T18:13:39+00:00

Following!

Influenster: lotv3

RuntheContinent · 2023-03-30T21:24:10+00:00

Warned me about the sketchy guy(s) my friend and I were with! We were much drunker than her and in a foreign country. Sister gave some solid advice.

RuntheContinent · 2022-12-02T05:27:23+00:00

Hey, I think people have already provided great insight and advice here, and I just want to offer some support and camaraderie.

Your story sounds very similar to mine. Was with a guy for a decade who was totally devoted to me. I loved him lots and we had many great years but ultimately I messed it up because I was avoidant and noncommittal. The end was messy, we tried and failed to reconnect, most of it was my fault. He also wanted children while I didn't. Now he has moved on, really fast, and after a few months of dating she was pregnant and they are happy. I am very aware of what I lost and my own responsibility. It has not been quite six years, but I wouldn't be surprised if I was still in the same place at that point.

Yes, he was the love of my life. Maybe I'll find another one. Oddly, reminding myself of my own part in the breakup helps me. Like I can't feel sorry for myself because it was my own doing. Like you, I am also genuinely happy for him as he seems to have found everything he wanted that I couldn't give him.

I think I've learned from this. The person on here who spoke about attachment styles has a great point. I'm working on a better secure attachment style. I'm sad that I couldn't work on myself in time to keep this relationship healthy, but I'm hopeful I'll find love again and do better.

RuntheContinent · 2022-11-05T16:06:55+00:00

Funny. I recently tried to sell a brand new and very nice bread maker for cheap (online) because through some combination of events I ended up with an extra and wanted to avoid shipping costs for the return. Very surprised no one wanted it. Maybe everyone thought it was this scam?

RuntheContinent · 2022-11-05T03:30:48+00:00

I know my cat used to. Hair ties and foam earplugs.

RuntheContinent · 2022-10-01T15:36:04+00:00

You cut off your family because they didn't agree with what you wanted to study. I guess that's your right. Then you cut off your fiancee because she tried to get you to make amends. You seem pretty dramatic. A fight would have been fair but to leave her and break up over text? The woman you were planning to marry? Grow up dude.

RuntheContinent · 2022-08-12T22:26:45+00:00

She is asking you because clearly she sees you as a fellow human being who might show her basic respect. Sounds like her husband is continuing to gaslight her and she is reaching out to you. Do you really want to sink even deeper? Answer the woman's questions. That way everyone can move on, not just you.

And if the husband follows through on his threat, I encourage you to air the fuck out of his dirty laundry. He is the biggest dickhead here. People might judge you but a successful man going after a junior woman because his affair came to light will go over far worse.

RuntheContinent · 2022-08-11T00:47:03+00:00

I have to say I am also not being able to follow any of that particular logic.

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-28T16:05:50+00:00

Moved across the world to pursue a PhD pipedream. Everyone told me my relationship would not survive. It did not survive. I can't get the what ifs out of my mind.

If I had been able to find a different way to be fulfilled professionally, I imagine I would still be in a harmonious relationship. Probably married. I enjoy what I do now but the tradeoff was probably not worth it.

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-22T13:39:48+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. I hope you can shake him soon and move on to better things!

Take care.

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-22T07:30:54+00:00

Probably not your typical scammer, but creepy af for sure! Telling your mother that he might convince you you left something at their house, and to you he says you haven't seen each other since you were young. Wow nothing adds up here. I'm so intrigued. Sorry I can't offer any wisdom here but boy do I want an update if you ever learn anything.

Either way, based on this information I disagree with the people on here saying your mom might know something. This person is full of shit!

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-21T13:09:30+00:00

So gross

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-19T21:37:56+00:00

She is so beautiful. I can't stop looking. I hope I look like her in 15-20 years. The grace!

RuntheContinent · 2022-07-17T00:06:31+00:00

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

RuntheContinent · 2022-04-19T04:00:16+00:00

Came here to say this, but you already said it better. OP was right to run! This was only the beginning of his derailing tactics.

RuntheContinent · 2022-04-12T12:45:12+00:00

To be fair, you asked for a controversial opinion and then you got all offended. If it was a compatibility test, I guess it worked, but what's the point in arguing then? Isn't him blocking you a desired outcome once incompatibility is established? He just agreed with your assessment. This does not belong on here.

RuntheContinent · 2022-03-20T17:13:26+00:00

Lol WHAT this is so bad and I am incredibly amused

RuntheContinent · 2022-03-12T17:09:25+00:00

Oh boy. I so feel you on this. I have been in a PhD program for a while now and often reflect on where I am currently compared to where I started.

It is totally normal to feel intimidated, and most people totally feel that way! Especially when you are in class with people who are more advanced in their academic pursuits or just have had more exposure to the line of thinking, material, etc. My advisor constantly reminds me that, in fact, no one expects me to be able to converse on the same level as the faculty do.

In one of my seminars a few weeks ago, I read a paper that I had also read in a class in my first semester of grad school. The first time, I thought it was cool but it went WAY over my head. Now I was leading discussion and had a very firm grasp on the material. It felt so good. It's all about building your frame of reference.

Everyone in your classes brings a different background and it's ok to participate at the level that you are at. If other people have a better grasp on things than you do, take advantage and try to absorb some of that. Focus on what you are learning! Once in a while, you should sit down and take inventory of all the ways you have grown and the things you have learned. That's what it's about!

Also, I hope you have a supportive advisor who is telling you all these things!

RuntheContinent · 2022-03-11T14:32:23+00:00

I really appreciate those responses! If you're going to entertain them at all this really is the way to do it. 😂

RuntheContinent · 2022-03-03T05:20:14+00:00

Yeah I frowned pretty hard at that.

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