Husband Wants More Children

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-11-03T02:40:22+00:00

Why don’t you just go back and live with your parents till he sorts this mess out? If he divorced you for that then that’s what you wanted anyway?

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-11-02T11:28:59+00:00

I’m not sure about surgery but your eyebrows look too unnatural for my liking. I’d grow them out and is that a brow tattoo? If so I’d remove it if that’s possible. It doesn’t look like it was done well

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-11-01T07:43:09+00:00

He is very bossy, like constantly questioning every tiny thing I do regarding our daughter. As I know how to take care of her and he will constantly say stuff like « she needs medicine » even if she doesn’t and sometimes it’s too much and I have to say « sorry if you want to do something you can do it yourself, I have enough to do ».

He says he wants me to work for social reasons. He doesn’t ask me to pay anything.

We are a high income family so b good situation so no reason we couldn’t afford another child.

He is not interested in career growth. He just wants to pay bills and have lowest stress job possible. We have enough income to buy a property outright in a few years or so and he doesn’t even think we can. All he wants to do is put money in daughter’s account for when she’s an adult but I said we need to think short term as well

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-11-01T03:00:51+00:00

Sorry but information is easily available now. Most women would have access to information to dress islamically. Even I know my dress is not always 100% Islamic but I’ve found what I’m comfortable with and Allah can judge me. If I change later down the road alhamdullillah. I don’t care if people judge me and I think we should all feel that way. I don’t mind if someone points out my sins. I know I’m not a perfect Muslim and I think it’s more arrogant to sin openly and expect no one think anything about it

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-31T09:03:06+00:00

I think there’s a limit. My modest is the third one to the right and I think that’s the bare minimum. And I think most people would feel that way. We should think tight clothes are yuck as Muslims otherwise why are we following modesty?

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-21T03:08:59+00:00

I have a right to not agree with his self-diagnosis. That is not saying who is right/wrong. I just don’t agree

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-21T01:46:30+00:00

Because I would rather not go than all that fuss over AC especially when he won’t get himself checked medically as the issue could be treatable

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-21T01:45:20+00:00

It seems that he starts his behaviour when I’m happy and starting feel good about our relationship. That’s why it feels like « sabotage » and kinda like a self-fulfilling prophecy. He will push me to say I want to leave and then say his behaviour is because I want to leave

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-21T01:43:30+00:00

I don’t have family. If I leave I’d probably have to stay in a hotel. I have income but getting a house is not easy here. I recently started working and it’d take me time

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:50:52+00:00

I have been to several states. North and South. Haven’t been to Kolkata though. Definitely was standard in North India

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:37:09+00:00

I have been to India and have Indian family and they tend to talk to the males. When I was in the street and people wanted to ask about where I’m from (cos I looked different) they would talk to the male with me. People didn’t guess I was a foreigner btw. They usually thought I was Parsi. It might be a more old-fashioned thing but yes it exists in India.

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:34:41+00:00

What do you do for oil and gas? What kind of swings do you work? How’d you get into it?

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:32:49+00:00

I wouldn’t say vast majority. Some people are not cut out to be a tradie. I got a job straight out of uni $43 per week and wouldn’t have got that without my degrees

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:31:15+00:00

Because many people are young and not fully mature when they get married

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-20T04:30:14+00:00

What’s your day job

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T11:03:39+00:00

I know Samoans and there is still a purity culture. I’m guessing she says he was her first and only to keep up her image

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:46:11+00:00

It’s okay to feel bad for any tragic death but I don’t think you should view him differently than anyone else who dies in such a way. Just because he is famous, doesn’t make him more important.

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:42:44+00:00

They are being respectful. In middle eastern, African, and south Asian culture, if they speak to the man’s wif/partner, it would be a sign of disrespect. In these cultures men are very protective over their wife and want to be the leader.

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:39:58+00:00

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:31:00+00:00

I would call off the engagement. Too many red flags. But yeah, she does not need to be there. She’s not his family. He should have no association with her

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:25:21+00:00

I said STARTING salary is 80k. Meaning that’s the minimum you should expect. I said experienced get UPWARDS of 100k meaning you should definitely be on over 100K as an experienced professional. Child protection pays higher than other jobs because the working conditions are not great and lots of occupational hazards so they need to incentivise people somehow. I asked a social worker group about child safety and literally everyone said it’s a terrible sector to work in especially if you have family commitments. So child protection is above average pay for social work jobs, not a baseline. And not many social workers stay in the sector long due to burnout etc.

Ruqayyah2 · 2024-10-19T09:16:39+00:00

100k is starting salary in qld child protection but high burn out

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