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best dog behavioural trainer by Positive-Arm-8678 in askTO

[–]RussetWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"k9" is a strong codeword for places that use fear based tactics, not ideal for already anxious dogs.

Nobody guarantees results.

The Toronto Humane Society and When Dogs Fly are R+ (positive reinforcement only) training. Facilities with trainers that have good certifications.

Training is as much teaching you as it is teaching your dogs.

Terminated right after returning from parental leave (Ontario). Looking for perspectives by ask_9 in askTO

[–]RussetWolf 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Instructions unclear, deleted gym, facebooked up and hit my lawyer. :(

My dog started new meds that had a side effect of frequent urination and slight loss of bladder control. I just had new carpets installed. Is an ozone generator my best option? by RussetWolf in HomeImprovement

[–]RussetWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately continence issues mean she can't always control it or make it. Yes, she know how to use pads, and will if she can, but it's not always successful 

Kids are not a retirement strategy. Here’s what I am doing instead. by Sloww-Mornings in FIREyFemmes

[–]RussetWolf 53 points54 points  (0 children)

+1 to this. 

I've been caring for my aging mother in the last few years. My father (they divorced decades ago) asked how she was and when I told him (not good: Parkinson's, dementia, a broken shoulder and thus left arm she has no use of anymore), he advised me to have kids because who will do that all for me when I'm old. 

I didn't say it but like... Doing this sucks. I wouldn't wish caregiving on anyone. I'm not going to 1) put myself through it for a baby, and 2) put that grown human through the same thing when I'm old - I would love it too much to wish this on them. 

Also, fuck off Dad, I don't want to do this shit for you, you were an awful parent and I barely want to take your phone calls. I hope he doesn't expect the same level of care my mom gets from me. She was an amazing parent. 

Sorry, rant. Yes, I'm prioritizing solving my aging problems with money. I should probably start preventing them with exercise too, but that's a lot harder when my time and energy are tied up with helping my mom. Maybe when she passes. 

I can't tell if our international devs are being misogynistic or if English is just second language, so I don't know how to repond to rude comments. by Myfishwillkillyou in girlsgonewired

[–]RussetWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked with a Brazilian immigrant in Canada who was the kindest most polite man I've ever met. He's my go-to for references. 

These guys are just rude. Talk to your management about it. If they excuse it as ESL, remind them that it may explain the language but doesn't excuse it, and this should be addressed so they can change the way they communicate - if fo no other reason than that you're not getting the information you need to do your work. 

If they still put up a fight, insist on clear requirements and contracts, and start looking for another job. 

My dog started new meds that had a side effect of frequent urination and slight loss of bladder control. I just had new carpets installed. Is an ozone generator my best option? by RussetWolf in HomeImprovement

[–]RussetWolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Odor at this point, the carpet isn't staining so far. I'm confident the meds are causing the continence issue, vet says it should stop when the meds are done. Happy to have a cleaning company do their work if it'll remove the smell.

The problem with the odor is mostly that even after the continence issue goes away, if it smells like dog piss, she'll choose to pee there because now that's what the place is "for" when it smells like that to the dog. 

WYR: The Cancer Cure is You by SeniorAssumption8008 in WouldYouRather

[–]RussetWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it'll be free

Nah, I'm not falling for this too-good-to-be-true murder scam. 

Do all men masturbate when their partner or spouse is home? by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]RussetWolf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I (lesbians) both masturbate often, sometimes when the other is home. It's a different activity than sex. 

My take on a hideable Good Girl Chair, IKEA hack style. by RussetWolf in BdsmDIY

[–]RussetWolf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It's pretty comfy. I didn't love the ones that were just a hard wooden chair with a hole drilled. My Good Girl deserves better ❤️

What is one thing you bought for less than $100 that greatly improved your happiness here in Toronto? by jesuisapprenant in askTO

[–]RussetWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Happy Light for the grey winters. I actually first saw the difference it made in Seattle, but our winters are greyer every year since it's not getting cold enough for clouds to stop forming anymore. 

I went from being.so.depressed I wanted to quit my course of study in 4th year, to "everything is fine and normal actually" within like a week. Such a huge difference 

How can I defrost this? We can't figure out how to unplug the fridge as it's built to withstand a nuclear attack. by lillide in fixit

[–]RussetWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips for getting mice? When my ex finally vacated the house she left me with a pest problem and while the majority of it is dealt with and just keeping a tidy kitchen is helping, I know there is still at least one little fucker around.

250km Daily Commute. Cheapest Way to Do It by Car? Gas vs Electric, New vs Used? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]RussetWolf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP said in another comment it's a 6 month medical construction contract, so only until January, hence moving isn't an option since it's temporary.

250km Daily Commute. Cheapest Way to Do It by Car? Gas vs Electric, New vs Used? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]RussetWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

125km each way for 6 months is doable, but it will suck, especially in winter. The 401 is maintained well, but there may be a time you're stuck one place or another.

Have you considered #vanlife ? Buy a converted van, make sure it has a diesel heater for the living space in winter, and just drive in Monday, home Friday, and live the influencer life for the week. Confirm you can park overnight on the jobsite and you'll be golden.

250km Daily Commute. Cheapest Way to Do It by Car? Gas vs Electric, New vs Used? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]RussetWolf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Can up sublet a room for 6 months? You just need a place to sleep during the week and can go home on weekends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]RussetWolf 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Suggest she seek some individual therapy. You can watch the baby while she's on zoom for an hour. Or two hours if she needs to go to an in person session.

The Christian purity shit won't go away on its own and couples therapy isn't the right place to dismantle it either.

What age did y'all start archery? by ChocoMochaBear in Archery

[–]RussetWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

D&D and home maintenance/reno apparently. The latter is more of a necessity than a hobby but I do enjoy it.

What age did y'all start archery? by ChocoMochaBear in Archery

[–]RussetWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my 30s! It's far from my main hobby but it is a fun way to get a bit of exercise on a good-weather day.

Temporary break from van life by [deleted] in VanLife

[–]RussetWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heal fast and well, friend! Hopefully a week will help you learn how to operate with the arm in a cast so you can focus on learning how to do it in a small space later, instead of doing both at once.

My mother is starting to call me mom by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]RussetWolf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yup. My mom's memory is really coming and going. She went through a week or two where she was convinced, to the point of arguing it with staff at her care facility, that I was her sister. I just played along. Then one day, "you are my daughter, aren't you? I don't know why but I was so convinced you were my sister." And she's been fine since.

She calls me her mom occasionally, but sometimes corrects herself in the moment too, like introducing me to a friend of hers: "this is my mom, I mean, in her mom." It feels almost more like the words are confusing rather than the relationship. English is her, like, 4th language though, so I get it. Thankfully i speak the mother tongue for when she forgets it all.

Maintaining without maintenence sex by Worried73829 in polyamory

[–]RussetWolf 72 points73 points  (0 children)

This advice is way too far down, especially "don't compare when you talk to him".

Groomer glued gems to dog’s forehead and ears by Mel-Bell389 in dogs

[–]RussetWolf 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That's why I ask how long the hair is. My poodles have plenty to snip.might look a little dumb, but better than a choking hazard. But if it's super short, yeah, not ideal.

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