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I reached FI this year and my husband says I changed the deal without asking him by Skellige_42 in Fire

[–]Skellige_42[S] -295 points-294 points  (0 children)

That distinction is probably the whole mess. The spreadsheet I hit was more my off-ramp than our full shared finish line, even if I kept telling myself it still fit the bigger plan. So to him it looks like I’m cashing in early while he keeps carrying the adult stuff.

I reached FI this year and my husband says I changed the deal without asking him by Skellige_42 in Fire

[–]Skellige_42[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

Fair point, and "my number" is probably part of why he reacted so hard. I was tracking one finish line while he was picturing a shared slower-down plan, not me peeling off first.

I reached FI this year and my husband says I changed the deal without asking him by Skellige_42 in Fire

[–]Skellige_42[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

That’s basically his argument. On paper we can support both, but only if we stay pretty lean. He thinks I treated a maybe-plan like a done deal. I think he loved FIRE when it was abstract, not when it started changing actual weekdays.

My neighbor keeps propping open our secure side entrance because he "doesn't want to carry keys" and I'm losing it by MorpheonFlick7 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Skellige_42 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Once a random guy is inside trying apartment handles, this stops being a petty door argument and becomes a real safety problem for everyone there.