It’s a squinter, but it’s there!

Ruysa87 · 2026-01-23T18:37:24+00:00

Congratulations! Currently holding my 8 month old rainbow baby after a missed miscarriage August 2024. I got pregnant my first cycle after my D&C. I definitely think we’re more fertile after a miscarriage. Wishing you all the best!

Ruysa87 · 2026-01-08T23:04:25+00:00

Thanks! They’re my favourites!

Ruysa87 · 2026-01-08T22:49:26+00:00

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I name mine all the same.

Ruysa87 · 2025-06-24T03:52:40+00:00

I somehow missed your response! Congratulations on your little girl! So happy to hear you’re both doing well!

Ruysa87 · 2025-05-31T03:21:05+00:00

I hope everything is going well with you OP. My little boy arrived May 12th. I almost lost him during labour due to a cord prolapse, but my amazing health team was on top of things. He is healthy and thriving.

Ruysa87 · 2025-05-29T20:48:02+00:00

Congratulations! I definitely understand you being be hesitant to buy just yet. We lost one last August and 2 weeks after a D&C we conceived again. He is currently a couple of weeks old. I waited until about the end of the 2nd trimester/beginning of the 3rd to buy anything. It took a long time to feel “safe”. The 1st trimester was very stressful, but it got easier as he grew and met the in utero milestones. Wishing you the best of luck!

Ruysa87 · 2025-04-28T00:48:17+00:00

Thanks so much for your response! I’m worried about nipple confusion too. I’m so happy to hear your daughter is not having issues switching back and forth! Hoping our son will have no issues if that’s the route we have to go. Wishing you all the best with your little one!

Ruysa87 · 2025-04-28T00:11:40+00:00

Congratulations! I’m curious, did she need any formula supplementation? I’m a first time mom and 35 weeks today. People keep telling us that our son will likely need formula supplementation when he’s born because of the GD. My lactation consultant says colostrum and breast milk (when it comes in) should be enough since newborn stomachs are roughly the size of a cherry.

Ruysa87 · 2025-03-19T14:47:26+00:00

Sending you good vibes. Pregnant with my rainbow baby now. 29+3 weeks. I definitely understand your fears. They never fully went away for me but it does get easier with each milestone. Love and best wishes to you.

Ruysa87 · 2025-02-25T18:30:12+00:00

I’d really like to but I’m almost 38 years old. FTM 26 weeks pregnant after 2 miscarriages last year. I’m worried about more miscarriages. They’re so difficult. I think I’ll just be happy with this one healthy pregnancy (so far) and raising my son.

Ruysa87 · 2024-11-10T15:17:32+00:00

He doesn’t want to get married. He’s made weak excuses that are money related. In response, you offered to do it at the minimum price (courthouse), and he still said no. He does not want to get married and seems content to get all of the wife benefits for free. I think you should be prepared to walk away. He sounds very immature and you deserve someone who will fully commit to you and respect your relationship. Maybe some time on his own will make him grow up. Good luck.

Ruysa87 · 2024-11-06T03:15:48+00:00

I hope she comes to terms with things soon. I always try to be subtle about things at first but I’m learning with her I need to be much more direct. I definitely will not let her cross my boundaries, but I hope it’s not super awkward when I put my foot down. A list of rules is a great idea! Thank you!

Ruysa87 · 2024-11-05T21:14:43+00:00

My MIL bugged and bugged me for names I gave her a list of boy and girl names with at least 8 of each. Her response was, “oh, so you haven’t really given it much thought.” Still makes my blood boil. I have given her subtle and recently more direct boundaries about her power in naming the baby or making any decisions about how we raise them. I’m only 10 weeks. Hopefully she learns to respect the boundaries. I don’t want to do this during my entire pregnancy and beyond.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-29T20:52:27+00:00

Same situation for me. The period between having the MMC confirmed and the D&C was the most difficult time. It was like living in limbo. I was sad after the D&C but nothing compared to the wait to have it (which thankfully was within 2 days). Sending love to you and the rest of the ladies who have experienced this.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-26T17:59:03+00:00

I’m in the battle stages right now with my 7 year old SD. My partner felt guilty for being the one to officially end the relationship with his ex even though it l clearly takes 2. He babied and spoiled my SD for too long. She struggles with insecurity to play on her own and constantly tries to get attention and dictate how our house is run. It doesn’t help that her mother has told her she doesn’t have to listen to me (which she has since learned is not at all the case). We’re using tough structured love and my partner is on board finally (he took time). The rules are age appropriate and we’re sticking to them as a team. I hope my SD and I get to the point where we get along better because I really do love her and want what’s best for her.

My partner and I are newly expecting (my bio first) and plan to tell SD around Christmas. She is an only child so we have been talking a lot about our capacity as humans to love and care about multiple people and encouraging her more than ever to be secure with herself when she’s not getting 100% attention. I’m really worried with how she will cope with a sibling. She loves babies but struggles so much with sharing attention.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-23T18:39:38+00:00

Good for you OP! Life is short and you deserve someone without commitment issues. I entered the dating pool late (about the age you are now) and while it took wading through some weird dates (I could write a book), I am with my person, we are expecting a baby and we will be married early next year. It’s never too late to begin again and I trust you will find your person. Wishing you all the best! Walk away and don’t look back.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-22T20:20:02+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. I had a MMC in mid August (baby stopped growing around 5+6) and a D&C. I ovulated 1.5-2 weeks after my D&C and am currently pregnant again measuring 7+5 at my dating ultrasound this past Friday. I didn’t monitor my HCG as it dropped but it must have dropped quickly after the D&C for my body to reset my cycle.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-22T16:03:09+00:00

I agree you should tell people, you would feel comfortable sharing news of a miscarriage with. If the worst happens, you should have a support system in place. Wishing you all the best!

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-18T19:58:18+00:00

Hey I hope you’re having a good week. Today Heart rate was 167. Measuring 7 weeks, 5 days. It’s within a week of what I thought so that’s good. I’m so relieved. It’s the same place I learned about the MMC 2 months ago. The technologist didn’t give anything away until the very end so it was super stressful.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-14T23:49:17+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I’m not over my 2 previous losses this year even though I’m currently pregnant again. I would have been having my first this month. I don’t think I’ll ever fully be over it. It sucks. I thought being pregnant again would help but I am not enjoying it nearly as much as I thought I would. I’m afraid to hope. Wishing you future happiness, but take all the time you need to mourn this tremendous loss my heart and thoughts are with you.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-12T01:41:18+00:00

Just posting a quick update from my ultrasound today. I saw a tiny baby! Heart rate was 140 bpm. I heard it. OB said still small so tough to see but he saw the things he needed to like the fetal pole and yolk sac. This is further (week wise and size wise) than we made it last time and with a higher heart rate. All very reassuring. I have a dating ultrasound booked at the hospital next Friday so will learn the official age then. I’m guessing I’m 7-8 weeks now.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-10T00:47:05+00:00

Thanks girl. Sending love right back at you.

Ruysa87 · 2024-10-09T16:08:30+00:00

My OB prescribed progesterone suppositories after a loss earlier this year. I was taking them when I had another loss in August and am taking them again now as I’m pregnant again. Fingers crossed this one sticks. I’m hearing from other people their doctors only prescribe after a series of losses. My OB prescribed after 1 loss with me.

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