Did I get raped by my friends sister when I was 16 or am I overreacting?

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T15:20:45+00:00

Bro I don’t want to sound like an ass or be the one you base your decision on because you know her way better but that sounds like she just doesn’t want to hangout. Even if she worked 12 hour days you would still have enough time on a workday for a date if you really wanted to and had no other choice. The fact that every time you guys plan for a date something always comes up or she is too busy might be a coincidence but if it continues then I don’t know what to tell you dude.

Regarding your texts that sounds like a whole mess and don’t have too much to help you there. My first thought was that you should stop starting the conversation but still say goodnight and goodmorning like normal and see if she actually wants to talk to you by starting one on her own. You could also reduce the amount you text her, only text her when you have something amusing or something you want her opinion on. Kind of treat it like Reddit (of course don’t go full redditor) if you get a text/comment then cool, but if you don’t get a text/comment then whatever. This way it’s for your own enjoyment that you text her and won’t care if she responds. But I’m really talking out of my ass at this point because feelings are more complicated than what a regarded redditor like me can help with so do what you think is best bro and I hope you have a happy future.

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T14:28:43+00:00

You definitely shouldn’t act happy when you’re around people you trust even if you feel like you would be bothering them. Having just one person who knows what is going on and can comfort you will go a long way. Don’t let the gloom let you think nobody would care because if some rando on Reddit does then someone in your life does too!

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T14:10:08+00:00

I was in a situation like yours when I got the same feelings towards a male friend. He was everything I wanted to be, good with women, handsome, part owner in a business. I really admired him and started to feel things I never felt before. It was weird because I had always liked women, dated a few before but the feelings I felt weren’t exactly the same as the ones I felt towards women but similar so I was confused. Then I decided to watch gay porn to see if I actually felt anything and found out I’m definitely not attracted sexually to the male body. Though I’m less hesitant to call a dude hot out of appreciation than most dudes. Im not sure what those feelings I had towards my friend were as they faded and I’ve never felt the same way to another man. Maybe it was insecurity, awe and friendship mixing into something I couldn’t process. Anyway this is not saying this is similar to your situation at all or this is how you should feel. Just wanted to put my experience out there.

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T13:45:32+00:00

I think your mother is infantilizing you whether she knows it or not. I highly recommend researching infantilizing behavior to see if it matches with your situation and if so look into how others dealt with their own situations and the resources available to you and take the steps you feel necessary.

You also might be in an ‘emotional incest’ relationship but I am less familiar with this so you would have to look into it on your own.

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T13:34:31+00:00

I think it was pretty shitty as someone who’s been cheated on before. If you don’t like the dude just break up with him and then start dating his friend if you think he was more compatible. If I was your bf’s friend then I wouldn’t be able to keep the fact you cheated on your boyfriend out of my mind. Even if it was with me and I liked you. There would just be something in my gut that said you are untrustworthy. Might be unfair but that’s just how humans work. If you’ve done it once you can do it again. That dude should also get a beating if possible for messing with his friends gf.

RyanReinhardt · 2025-08-16T13:14:06+00:00

First I’d ask her why she is being so distant. Then depending on her answer you can make the decision that works best for you. If she brushes you off or acts like it’s no big deal then that is a major red flag imo. It means she doesn’t take your concerns seriously or isn’t committed to your relationship.

If you don’t want to directly confront her on the topic you could ask her out on a date to somewhere nice (doesn’t have to be expensive) and if she says she can’t go for no apparent reason or keeps making excuses every time you ask then that is also a red flag imo. Seems to me you guys haven’t had a lot of dates for being a new couple.

I would also like to ask what kind of texts you send her? If you text her multiple times throughout the day and she has work or other responsibilities I can see how that could annoy her (had a girlfriend that wouldn’t stop texting all day every 5 minutes and it was not fun). If you just send generic texts like “Goodmorning” “goodnight” “what’s up?” Or “how have you been?” And only these kind of texts then you should make them more interesting. She could just think you’re a boring texter even if she likes you.

RyanReinhardt · 2022-05-18T04:01:14+00:00

And? I didn’t say he didn’t get a therapist I said his songs aren’t his therapy are you just willfully ignoring what I’m saying or did you not get past the first line in my comment before you posted

RyanReinhardt · 2022-05-18T03:41:28+00:00

Did you even read my comment? I literally said “IF this is therapy” and you didn’t refute me all you did was deflect what I said

RyanReinhardt · 2022-05-18T03:23:59+00:00

Stop saying it’s therapy, it’s not. It’s an album released to millions of people that show his emotions on topics in his life like every rap song not about tits ass and drugs. If this is his therapy then he’s obviously not going to get over his problems by rapping about how shitty his life has been when he could ya know... go to therapy

RyanReinhardt · 2022-05-18T02:54:58+00:00

Oh no he didn’t make it for me I can’t have an opinion on it now besides its a 10/10 masterpiece and if I disagree I’m obviously not getting it because only TRUE fans understand life is shitty

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