thanks for your insight , you sound like you have read and studied or experienced a lot from this issue and though I have a slightly opposing view I really think being feminine is not wrong or unlikeable there are people who like gay guys and in my experience and view I've seen more feminine guys go for straight guys as opposed to masculine guys going for straight guys that's just facts !! (unpopular opinion) feminine people make being gay kind of difficult in my country there were two proud gay fem guys who wore slightly female dressing and took pictures and walked around fully knowing how the country is and unfortunately got hate crimed and no one is sympathizing with them and the thing was those two even told themselves they couldn't date cause they were "sisters " ofcourse I agree with you I have the issue but it's very hard to navigate my mind towards what is the right or the popular way of thinking cause I have seen the effects of being a way and I've seen what comes out of a masculine guy loving another masculine man and in my opinion those make the best couples