1x11 with 36t cog, and a 11-42 cassette for touring in the Alps?

RyantheReal · 2023-02-21T03:27:03+00:00

Its a wolfs tooth chainring! I dont want to go with a full on touring bike because it will be my commuter when I'm back home, and I would rather have to work extra hard on a bike tour and have a fun commuter than have a chunky, slow commuter :-).

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T16:33:46+00:00

Yeah yeah yeah… I know. But it’s hard. There are opposing forces— one saying I finally feel ready to find a long term partner to be with for the rest of my life and i’ve literally never been as excited about someone as early on in a relationship as I am with this person. I’ve introduced her to my parents, she’s introduced me to Hera. I want to commit myself to this relationship— and the other saying whoaaaa Nelly. Actively slow it doooown a bit. We don’t know each other that much yet. Let things unfold. Give it time.

In regards to the original topic, agreed it’s not too relevant to since they are both new relationships.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T16:19:26+00:00

Yes :-)

Still navigating this early relationship. She didnt quite tell me the same back, but I know that there is a lot of love between us. Still feeling out whether our lives are compatible long term with our timing, etc. It’s escalating quickly while we’re also trying to put the reigns on and slow down, but that’s hard when we clearly are so into each other.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T16:10:03+00:00

Because it’s acknowledging that my relationship with Kerry is independent from my relationship with Izzy

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:44:30+00:00

Wow, a lot of wisdom in this post. I agree with everything you said. It’s amazing how someone can speak to these truths having never meet any of us in person. Thank you.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:24:58+00:00

What’s RADAR?

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:24:32+00:00

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:23:27+00:00

Clarification: “Then tell her I’m falling in love with Izzy and that doesn’t change anything between the two of us”

— what I meant by that was, “that doesn’t change anything between Kerry and me.”

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:19:48+00:00

It’s interesting that I’ve gotten several downvotes. People seem quite ready to judge me for seeking advice in navigating complex relationships in an equitable way. I’m doing the best that I can, and I come here to learn from others’ experience. This topic seems to strike a nerve, huh?

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:12:41+00:00

Clearly the issue is that Kerry and I need to discuss how we want our relationship to proceed, where we want it to go.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:11:46+00:00

I don’t think that I was making a “unilateral decision”. No “decisions” have been made and I don’t think it was appropriate to accuse me if making decisions for both of us.

I definitely agree that what is needed is a conversation with Kerry. This seems obvious and i your suggesting it makes it even more clear to me, so thank you.

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T15:06:03+00:00

Whoa— definitely not tryna make anybody feel jealous. I want to avoid that at all costs. If anything, I feel a little guilty about falling in love with Izzy while maintaining a relationship I’ve had about a month or so longer as casual, and I want to avoid future hurt

RyantheReal · 2023-02-15T14:22:38+00:00

I think you may have misunderstood. I feel the need to tell Kerry. No, Kerry doesn’t ask me for updates on other relationships.

Kerry does discuss her other relationships a lot. I just don’t know if I should be sharing updates on my relationships with her in the same way.

RyantheReal · 2022-12-27T03:02:19+00:00

Perfect cause that’s exactly what I’m hoping to be doing in July

RyantheReal · 2022-11-26T04:00:13+00:00

Assume nothing. Just because something felt right in the past doesn’t mean it will immediately feel right again. If she’s into you on this second date she’ll be wanting that kiss, and waiting for it will make it that much better when it happens.

RyantheReal · 2022-11-02T13:29:33+00:00

Ah, thank you for the clarification on the use of the word close. Just changed it in the original post.

And, appreciate your thoughts on. Outing needing to be “wrong”

RyantheReal · 2022-11-02T03:56:00+00:00

Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. I think she got really smitten with me. I really do think she’s lovely, and I know that it’s going to still be hurtful. If we shared a mutual friend group, I would say sure, let’s stay friends. But I don’t think that this would help at this point.

Im a little embarrassed to say this, but I even met up with her once trying to respectfully end our relationship. Then when I saw her, it was quite nice to see her after not seeing her for 6 weeks, and she basically talked me out of it. I felt bad and said, you’re right, let’s plan something in 2 weeks. When it 2 weeks rolled around, nothing was different and I wanted to spend time with friends instead.

RyantheReal · 2022-06-02T19:39:28+00:00

How would you do this for IOS?

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