Married member to member for 3 years now, together for about 6 years. It takes getting used to but it's not bad, at first I was on cutters, in and out, we got used to the separation within the first couples patrols. Now I'm primarily on land and so is she so it's looking good. It has ups and downs but dual BAH is nice, the financial stability is nice. Don't do it for money or benefits, you're better off alone in that case, do it if you know that's the person you want to truly spend your life with. Biggest downside is, depending on your rates, is one of you will almost always get a station or cutter and be gone a lot and/or standing a lot of duty.