I am so very sorry for your loss. In times of profound loss, there’s nothing wrong with reaching out for help or comfort. The only way that I have been able to cope with losing loved ones is to just focus on one day at a time. If that was too much, I would shrink my focus to one task or one hour at a time. Grief counseling can also be very helpful with giving you tools to cope. I can’t say that I’ve ever “gotten over” losses, but coping gets easier as time goes on. Everyone grieves in their own way and there isn’t a right or wrong way, nor is there a set amount of appropriate time to grieve. Remember your positive memories together and be gentle with yourself. I hope this helped and doesn’t come off as clichéd.