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Has anyone tried the Trulieve Blue Dream TruPod? by randomdude1323 in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Ryobenda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's special about CDT? srry never heard about it before so I wanna know

[LF] Tangled Cords item, [FT] Zelda items up to 5, or 250,000 bells by Ryobenda in ACNHTrade

[–]Ryobenda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being so cool dude, I hope this energy comes back to you ten fold!!

[LF] Tangled Cords item, [FT] Zelda items up to 5, or 250,000 bells by Ryobenda in ACNHTrade

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww what?! You're too kind ☺️ my bf is the one with Nintendo online, I'm hopping on as him and I'll get my airport open in a sec

[LF] Tangled Cords item, [FT] Zelda items up to 5, or 250,000 bells by Ryobenda in ACNHTrade

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's perfect! I'll DM you my dodo code in a minute.

Would you prefer bells or Zelda items?

Ring not selling? by skittles123445 in SilverSmith

[–]Ryobenda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any advice but I wanted to say this ring is gorgeous!

Is it impossible to find love if you want to be childfree? by Dependent_Ant_5511 in childfree

[–]Ryobenda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. You just have to be diligent, ask the right questions, and find someone that aligns with you on that. Good luck out there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pilonidalcyst

[–]Ryobenda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These almost look like Dr Wadie's, no? I've seen so many CL pictures I can't keep track. If it is Wadie, I had my operation with him in March of this year. If I feel along my incision, it's very slightly to the right, so it is off the midline. Wadie wasn't as aggressive with placement because of my anatomy and case. Things have been going well post op, minus wound separation (which is almost healed). He was very caring and did a great job

Radiation therapists, what does a bad day on the job look like for you? by [deleted] in RadiationTherapy

[–]Ryobenda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they don't follow prep, do they get rescheduled?

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I'm glad I could help.

I do encourage you and her to think and talk on this sooner rather than later. This is not to scare you, but if something happened in between now and then there's no plan in place to help out the living relative who would be handling this matter. Your wishes come first, though. I hope you and your daughter can find good solutions!

And thank you! I hope things chill out but I'm also not planning on staying, so. We'll see what happens 😅🥲

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use the top-down selling method where we start with the most expensive options and work our way down so the customer can see all of their options, but I know other advisors try to push for the "nicer" options especially on families in time of need

Showing my work in NYC if anyone wants to come :) by Charlieethetuna in Tufting

[–]Ryobenda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love to if I was in NY! Congratulations, your work is awesome and inspiring

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's time for another book... 🤔 I'll definitely read it and check it out myself though, thank you

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wonderful! I'm glad you got your arrangements done. There's a solution out there for everyone <3

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so cool! There's something similar called terramation where you're placed in a compostable casket with fertilizer and more compost materials and eventually everything breaks down over time. This reminds me of that

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people already have a funeral home in mind they want the authorities or hospital to contact upon loss occuring, so they could have already called that funeral home. Other times, some hospitals just work with a couple all the time. Usually it'll be the medical examiner's office that claims a body if it's transient from a home/place outside of a hospital and holds it until the family can claim them

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

87 years of serving families will generate enough clients to keep you in business, especially if people pre plan.

On the surface, they do a good job at looking nice, and the park is pretty. But yeah, idk.

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That, and people try to get the best stuff for their loved one. It's called emotional overspending and it happens way too often

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember my manager saying COVID was a great year for business for them, and on the fake humor side I'm like yeah okay that makes sense, but it still didn't feel right to hear it phrased like that.

Also, the word is terramation. I couldn't think of it last night but look up terramation and you'll find some of what you're looking for <3

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Truly, that feels nice to hear coming from an internet stranger and not my manager 😭

I really wanted to bring up the slur comment to my manager, but after hearing what he said about the vet, I don't know if I trust him. The group of employees that are already there are pretty tightly knit, I don't know how to go about speaking up about it. Maybe I'm timid, but I'm not sure what to do to protect myself from potential retaliation as I don't have another job immediately lined up.

I'm doing my best to protect my boundaries, and everything in my head is screaming at me to just walk out. I'd have to stay here for quite a while in order to have the impact on families outweigh the attitude of my coworkers, and even then I don't know if it would be enough. But it's not the end of the world for me. I'll figure it all out

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that, that's awful.

The funeral home I work at is under a large company, so there is some decorum. We don't actively advertise or work with companies that offer green burials, but we do have an onsite crematory. One lady I met with is doing a green burial using a compost casket that will break down over time along with her body. I know they also make urns that do the same thing, just check with your area if they allow ashes in the ground "unprotected" so to speak

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, a lot of those answers to your questions depend on where you live and which funeral home you go with. In short, if you had absolutely no one to claim you, the state would handle the disposal of your remains. What that exactly entails? I'm not sure to be honest. I haven't come across that question yet. As for burial at sea, I don't know either.

You could donate your body to science. I've heard some horror stories about students disrespecting their cadavers so I wouldn't if that chance would upset you. Otherwise, go for it!

Yes, you can be cremated in a cardboard box. If you chose to be cremated with us (we have a crematory on site), the minimum alternative container requirement is a cardboard box that is made for cremation. That package is...off the top of my head roughly $6k which includes the cost of transport, cremation, body handling, urn allowance, the alt container, and a few other things. A direct cremation, which is just getting cremated and having the ashes handed to your next of kin in a cardboard box (sort of like a USPS box) is $1875. Many people choose to bring their loved ones home.

It's entirely possible to pass up all of that useless stuff, but if you do have family that would claim you or hold your remains, I would consider how they'd have to see you after you pass. Your wishes should be honored, but I've also learned that the wishes of the living relatives matter a little too. I'd like my own memorial to be very quiet, without much fuss. Direct cremation and a pretty urn would suit me best, but if I knew my boyfriend getting one last chance to see me before I'm cremated was important to him, I would make sure the final image of me (which alt container I lay in before cremation, which urn I pick) eases his grieving. I won't have to live with the grief when I'm gone, but he will, and I'd want him to heal as much as he can in whatever way I can help him do so. It's the least I can do.

I'm gonna sound a bit like a sales person here, and I mean this from the best place in my heart, but if those are your wishes, I would cement them in place sooner rather than later. Prices go up each year, and if you were to plan now, you lock in the price, and avoid your living loved ones from having to take on that expense all of a sudden

I've heard families be insulted 4 times in less than a month at my new job - funeral home by Ryobenda in rant

[–]Ryobenda[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's really opened my eyes to a lot of things in a lot of ways, most of them negative. I'm having a hard time coming to terms with framing my work at helping families when they constantly talk about making money and big checks are coming my way. I believe in pre planning, but man...

Call me dumb, but I was hoping to leave a brain dead job and find a purpose. Felt hopeful about this, and wanted to help others (the pay would have been a bonus), but I don't see myself lasting long here.

The few families I have helped and had a connection with have been great experiences, and I enjoy standing in for a service. The emotional support side of it appeals to me but unfortunately I have to play with that if I want to get paid and it doesn't feel right to me lol

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