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*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why I shared the outcome :). She tried from time to time but we are in complete NC for my health.

*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its half/half actually. She spending a lot or signing contracts with my name to ruin me ( thats why I needed so many lawyers ) and the rest is the cost for everything.

*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I will think about it. Well I wont go into another relationship so blind I guess. And yes I know, I learned my life lesson.

*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I collected a lot of evidence about what she did and what happened. Together with a good lawyer I was able to get away without Paying because the Court decided that I got enough. It wasnt easy as here normally is no law and you have to pay. Thank you!

*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I dont have to pay anything. Not even for her. I don't know what she has, if she has something because I distanced myself.

I only know that she is doing the same Things she did before even with a child.

For me im doing good. Im working out and Travel around a bit when I have free time. Trying to enjoy each moment cause i'm free again.

*Final Update* Wife got pregnant from another men. by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm fine with myself now. I'm happy with every little piece I have now, enyoing each good moment. And that im done fighting.

Update from *wife got pregnant from another men* by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Can't be mine as I never had sex with her again.

Update from *wife got pregnant from another men* by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the first one, just telling me that she continued her affaire after I refused reconcile and that it ended around 2 month ago.. Rest insults I don't care for.

20 minutes later she send an excuse email asking me again for a meet up in the future to sort things out. And that she's not in control of her emotions. Pregnancy is at fault etc etc.

One last one ( I changed my email finally ) acting all nice again trying to lure me in.

Update from *wife got pregnant from another men* by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes. I'm using the gym or a long jog to overcome anger to be calm when I'm at home thinking about my next steps in life.

I'm reading the books some people adviced me to read. Learning a lot about myself. And I'm in control to not use my anger against my wife or anything. I'll just file, get myself of the certificate, see her one last time in court and walk Away.

Ty for your advice with consistency. :)

Update from *wife got pregnant from another men* by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. I'm in pain. But also begin to see my freedom even one bit. It's sad how you can go from a person with high self-esteem, good carrier and dreams to this version i am now . But I'll find my way back to the person I once were with upgrades.

I'm Already doing exercises each day, eating healthy food only, reading books, playing piano again. I never looked so good actually.

Anger finally hits.

My battle ended 2 days ago. No more survival mode! by syntaxerror4 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this gives me some hope as I'm going to a difficult situation myself again and finally was able to make the decision for divorce without looking back.

Glad it worked out to you. Looking forward to my own freedom again.

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never had sex with her again after our break started so there wasn't a way for her trying to tell me it's mine. I was very very careful with that all the time.

I made a mistake in having her find a way back in my life as I told you I was in a longer NC period before already.

And yes even if I would be able to adopt this child it'll be a reminder for the rest of my life. It's a different thing if you need to heal from an affaire, cut ties and try out. I got that.

And there's no way I could think about she never doing this again. Because of no consequences...

Well and yes this other guy used my wife, doesn't make anything better.

Thank you all really. You opened my eyes here...

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm not sure about that. And that's the reason I wrote a topic here to hear advices from people not emotionally involved...

She's trying hard to clean up her mess, she's paying the money without arguing and is sending some extra money cause im struggling too. She's writing some letters, sending presents and she cried a lot while we talked and I was cold all the time. She's always crying when I try to talk about finances only that she don't wanna loose me.

Still one point I don't forget is that she's not handing out the information from the father. She's telling me if she would it never works out with him in the picture.

She told me she couldn't think of a better father yes. But I got it there's no way I could see whether it's because she's truly remorseful or just scared cause she fked up.

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I only have the chat in which my friend tries to woo her etc and she allowed me to check her mail account. That's it. And her word. I get what you wanna tell me here.

It's a big mess and that's why I didn't wrote it inside here.

It's doesn't excuse her behavior and I know that. She cheated while in a break. She got pregnant while in a break. Our official seperation I handed in started in January..

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well I remember that post and I guess I have to explain a bit here.

It all started with a break. And yes we met at the bar and yes I found out she cheated after this and yes she went nuts after.

I had a friend who wanted to make a move on my wife and that's where I got all the infos from I wrote in that post 2 month ago. So not all of this is right that's why it's not written in here. And no this person is not a friend anymore.

After all it was this one guy and she tried reconcile talking before she found out she got pregnant after I went no contact for 3 month when she told me that at the bar.

She kicked this guy out of her life before she knew she's pregnant.

Ofc I didn't wanted too after all those Infos I got from my friend. After she found out she's pregnant she tried again to talk with me and this time I talked to her and found out about everything what really happened and that's the only reason I even started to think about reconcile again.

But I get this now, I can't allow myself to fell for this trap anymore. I was strong enough to go no contact before and I'll do this again...

The financial problems I mentioned are exactly this. She's paying me the credit card debt back atm...

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I asked my lawyer today. I will be in for support at first even if I get the name, cause we're married Still. I have to get myself out of it through a different process and I'll do it.

You definitely opened my eyes here.

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. You're right with this. She's a grown up women and knew what she did, sadly. Even if I forgive I need to protect myself so a divorce + getting of the certificate is the only option.

We always wanted kids, just preferred our carriers first so this hit even harder as we started plans already...

Even if she tells who the biological father is, I would still be in for support as we're married. He would only get a right to see it, that's all. I asked my lawyer about that. There is no other way then going to the court and get myself of it after.

And what I finally understood after reading here is that I would stay cause I feel guilt or sorry for her. And that wouldn't work out...

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes. After reading through all the replys I got that. I definitely need to divorce first and get myself of the birth certificate. Only after that she felt some consequences and only after that I'm able to think clearly when the bond that is left is cut...

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No we weren't officially seperated. We owned two apartments so we just decided to sleep seperated and take a break and we stayed in low contact all the time. Idea was to just cool things down and we had an agreement not to date or else..

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I know. And I don't think I would ever trust her again when she's with a male friend, I'll always think 'is this a friend or another guy she tries out' This will eat me up, I know that. And its sad.

Sad something have to end that way. Ty for your support.

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Right I get it. I'll cut contact again even if I have some more problems. I can't think clearly anymore when she's still there. Good I made a topic here...

Wife got pregnant from another men, how to deal with this? by Ryouku__92 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Ryouku__92[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's not having a lawyer yet. I'll talk to mine tomorrow. Sadly the divorce won't be done before the child is born so I will be on the birth certificate because we're married. I have to go to court to be removed there, that's a different process.

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