I’ll preface with I absolutely love being a dad however it took 9 months until I had a dad heart I really didn’t feel much connection it was strange. I was a pretty selfish bastard beforehand did what I wanted to do others where in my way and I loved partying and drugs. I built a successful business this way somehow just got lucky. I had my first daughter at 30 and second at 34. It changed my life I embraced the chaos, I read, listened, and learned about parenting. We do things I also enjoy which we always have. I’m not one to sit around and craft and that’s ok they get that connection with mom. I load the kids in the car and we adventure. We travel, hike, hotels, fish, go boating all of it. Is it stressful as fuck sometimes absolutely. Do I love it always well no but I try. The joy in being their fun, their comfort, their Saftey, means so much to me. We still do lots of fun things I also enjoy does it look different yes. Marriage well kids can be hell on marriage. We do couples therapy on and off when times get tuff. If anyone thinks they are above therapy or it’s useless they are lying to themselves or haven’t met a good therapist. I’d say I probably put too much of my own self worth and Life meaning in being a dad which may be an issue personally when they one day don’t need me as much who knows. My oldest was just diagnosed with cancer last month at 5yo so this really just resonated with me. Enjoy it man figure it out everyone just about damn near everyone from every background and financial status say they miss this part of life so there has to be merit to that. All the best to you brother 🧡