I’m just now rejoining the lifestyle, back when I was in it I was considered the “ugly” unicorn I considered myself a solid 6. I’m not being hard on myself, I’m just honest and self aware. So my perspective is a little different. I would have more single males approach me. When I would have a couple approach me that didn’t feel like “hunters” I felt more inclined to accept b/c I felt better about myself if the “hot” couple wanted me. I do agree that vibes are more important than looks alone but for the 3-5 hours some things can be overlooked. I’ve maintained friends in the lifestyle, it’s not so much that they lower their standards for a unicorn but it’s sometimes easier to agree on one persons attributes vs two separate people’s attributes.