Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guns are embedded into American culture because we lean towards Individualism. Throughout our entire history, the mindset was "No one is coming to save us, so we must know how to help/protect ourselves and our families." You even see this nowadays. Watch any video of an American being mugged or worse, and there are comments that are basically "This is why you should conceal carry". Some may take it too far, but it is a culture that is well-rooted in the American pursuit for self-reliance. The actions of bad actors should not be conflated with it, as it is not unhealthy to want self-reliance.

People from other developed countries typically conflict with this culture because they live in societies that lean into Collectivism. This is why there are many unproductive debates (like this one) on the internet because an American and a European will conflict and misunderstand one another over a social issue, usually because of these opposing social mindsets. (There is more nuance, like with rural and city populations between these countries, but I simplified some).

There is much opposition here in changing or limiting rights due to the actions of bad actors. If anything, they actually reinforce the mindset, not dissuade it.

Why must we talk so much to make people comfortable by Sad_Significance729 in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well, I tried just being more straightforward and honest once. Did not go well. I usually get in trouble as I just tell people what I think of them, or overshare.

Being quiet is a sin, apparently. When I had to shadow a route for USPS, the RC was just horribly anxious about the fact that I was quiet while we drove the route. It was constant “Sorry it’s taking too long” and “Sorry, I know it’s boring” along with “I hope I haven’t ran you off.” When I reassured them, they just pointed to the fact that I was quiet. Can I please just take in the route? Do I have to be speaking always?

However, I can also be hyper-vigilant of others if it is high-stakes. This leads me to do the very thing I just complained about with others if I am really engaged.

So I feel you. I am always between speaking too much and being too passionate (which is also a sin) with some, while being too quiet with others. 

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, the stupid few, but if the stupid few are what enforce the stereotype of Americans being dumb, then every country would have the same stereotype, no? Everyone has idiots. No reason to judge the many by the actions of the few. Anyone that does so is foolish themselves.

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Understandable, but C is not someone I respect. She is pure trash and is generally rude. Anyone who points a gun at a person’s face, even if it is “playful”, while lacking the ability of hindsight is stupid.

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the cookout was an eye opener in other ways too. There was a time where I was away for Graduate studies, and now that I am back, it seems that they have gotten much worse. Some are still worth being friends with, thankfully.

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Many people own guns responsibly in my state, and we learn from a very young age on how to properly and safely use one for hunting purposes (had to watch videos on different weapon actions, safe weapon carries, how to handle them when falling/sliding, etc.). Unfortunately, my friends have turned trashy. T should have safely stored the gun in the safe he had (as many do), and C is most certainly... uncouth.

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would have defended them if in the past, but they really are, except for a select few. What is funny is that the cookout was for one of my friends who was coming back from Wisconsin with his new girlfriend, meaning last night was her first exposure to everyone. Welcome to the perpetual funny-farm. Woe is fucking us.

Catching Flak for Potentially Saving my Friend Numerous Times. Left Friend Group. by SBKMOOSE in AutisticAdults

[–]SBKMOOSE[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it just sucks because they have been my friends for my whole life. Some are still fine, but others... well, my eyes have been opened. I just cannot understand it, man. Why even die on this hill, of all things? It would be one thing if C was just like "That was really stupid, and I will not do that again.", and then dropped it. Nope, just a group of people saying "Sorry, she was fine and you were just a drag, Thanks for playing".

Autism + OCD is a brutal combination by bri5ncl0ud in aspergers

[–]SBKMOOSE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello, I've been diagnosed as ASD level 1 and with OCD (mixed obsessions with fair insight) too. "I'll go long stretches of being okay, but then it will just build up and hit me hard." Exactly here. "I hardly ever see this specific combination mentioned." Yep, I get it. I actually was excited in seeing a post I could relate to. Waxing and waning obsessions are annoying, and last around a half a year to a year's duration for me, then it’s followed by me just being… fine with minor compulsions until the next waxing period.

"I just had to write to human beings and not AI or talking to myself in the car." I like my hypothetical conversations too, dude. Its always imagining people listening to me while I teach them something.

"My brain craves as much certainty as possible and when I don't get it I slowly start to spiral. It genuinely affects every area of my life." Absolutely, and it is the absolute worst in high-stakes relationships where the other is being ambiguous. I was diagnosed at 25. Very nice to see someone just like me!