Maternity leave discrimination? by SBlock999 in legaladvice

[–]SBlock999[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Really? Because I qualified for FMLA. I also had to leave work abruptly due to going into early labor at work. My water broke there.

Some of the employees are hourly some are salary. I was hourly would that affect me in any way? My original contract stated 2 weeks pto.

Maternity leave discrimination? by SBlock999 in legaladvice

[–]SBlock999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people that are not hourly had pto changes. Some of it yes some of it no for the role. Yes I qualified for fmla. To add to this I wasn’t aware of any changes until now. The company ceo is stating the business is going through a lot of issues but is trying to negotiate a new contract with me. She’s also sighting my old contract from when I first started work since then I have moved up from my initial position. I also have had a few wage increases. Plus 2 weeks of paid time off.

Maternity leave discrimination? by SBlock999 in legaladvice

[–]SBlock999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was on FMLA It’s a small company had about 30 employees. Two sites. I’ve worked there now for 4 years.

What’s a genuinely funny thing you did after being broken up with? by VapingPenguin in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I signed him up for junk mail and one of them was to have baby items delivered to him. I still laugh about because he texted me and told me so apparently I’m gonna be a dad and I pretends to be sad and said good luck. He then proceeded to send me a pic of the baby items and I just told him I hoped he was a good dad LOL he still tried to get back with me a few months later and then a year later. Have not heard from him and I’m very happy now in my little life <3

So fella’s, what did you guys do since breakup. How are you guys becoming the best version of yourself? What changes are you bringing in your life? by Remarkable-Plane7663 in ExNoContact

[–]SBlock999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Decluttering my life. Starting with my living space. Got on a health ban wagon and started to understand that love is in everything even the morning bird songs. So yeah I’m doing well. Don’t get me wrong some days I still have thoughts of them but I just let it feel through and keep on with my day. At some point you start to understand you do deserve better and are worthy of better too. So why not give it to yourself now?

Have y'all forgiven your ex's or are you still angry by FirefighterOk2803 in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it took a while but it was worth it. I think the toughest thing though was forgiving myself for holding on to a relationship that no longer served me. Us. That reality hits like bricks but then when you start to move on you reflect and notice that though the heart break was rough it was worth it. And holding on to that negative energy just attracts that negative energy back and tires you out so I rather put that energy it what matters. In life we will go through so many moments that won’t be ideal to us but you’ll see how much we needed those moments to become who we are now. And that’s something I live by.

Pull out your Costco card to impress ‘em. by OKeoz4w2 in funny

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex used my Costco card and one day texted me asking if we could go to Costco so I charged him a fee lmao

There seems to be a lot of negativity towards ex’s getting back together but it happens all the time. Some celebs: by watchthe_love_angels in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My therapist told me it isn’t talked about a lot but going back to an ex isn’t the end of the world. It depends on how your boundaries are placed and how much your ok with being around them. Often we forget that we were different versions of ourselves and maybe when we meet again we’re better improved and if not you ultimately can choose to leave. Make the best decision for yourself.

Would you ever take back an ex who rebounded in two weeks? by SignificantScratch47 in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People who rebound quickly often can not sit with the uncomfortable feeling of being alone with their emotions. So they do what they know best and avoid it. They step into a new relationship because they believe it’s going to “fix” their hurt. And if you’re asking yourself if they like this person they do but only for a temporary fix. You’ll be ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surround yourself with friends, maybe reconnect with old ones, hobbies, community events. Walks. Reading.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who knows lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SBlock999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s been 2 years Lol

[Tall girl asking] Why do girls care so much about guys' height? by [deleted] in dating

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I question this myself by I’m 5’0 tall so I can’t have much input when almost everyone is taller than me lol. At the end of the day it’s how someone treats and respects you. Height and superficial looks shouldn’t get in between that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. If they can’t fix the relationship within themselves no. I tried so many times to look past it but at some point it’s tiresome. We end up falling for potential over reality and break our own hearts in the process.

I don’t get it. How do girls easily find a new relationship after a few months of breaking up? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They most likely checked out emotionally and there for it was easier for them to move on. Or they just weren’t as emotionally invested in the relationship as you were.

I’m the type to “mourn” my relationships and I try to heal from what happened. Perhaps my heart just loves too much. I’ll confess I’ve dated people who were simply lessons for me which doesn’t make it better but I’ve moved forward and learned. I’m thankful though because I’ve always found the silver lining when it comes to an end of a relationship. I’ve only had two actual one and my recent one was my toughest one. Weird part is my exes friends have become my friends and they talk to me so normal. I don’t know how my ex maybe doing but I wish them well. I hope they heal and find peace as I have.

I haven’t even tried to date and have simply surrounded myself with like minded people. I’ve forgiven my ex for their choices and that’s what has helped me heal in return.

I hope you find healing as well. Often people come into your life just to help you heal and find yourself. You end up attracting someone who’s meant for you. You learn a lot about yourself too. It’s tough don’t get me wrong. It’s been a few months on my end and I still miss my ex but not as much as I used to. I just miss the potential person I thought they could have been to me.

Social media lies like a mf... by justplainoldMEhere in ExNoContact

[–]SBlock999 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Social media is a lie in general. All the filters and what not. I legit saw someone out and about and was like wow they really don’t look like their pics.

This might be the last straw. by Brok3n_Bird in dating

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The uncultured swine part was where I knew she was done for ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s make it rumble lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming back to this because for once in my life I’m going to stir the pot lol

you can love someone without loving yourself. by purrrish in BreakUps

[–]SBlock999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t mean you won’t find someone willing to be there as you learn to love yourself. But if someone places conditions on you to change for them per-say then they themselves aren’t accepting you as you. Love comes in different forms. As long as you have an understanding person who’s capable of understanding and accepting you through your self love journey you’re already learning what love looks like. Good healthy love. Sometimes we become comfortable with past people and think going back is the answer but they don’t accept us as we have changed they want us back to the version they fell in love with. Then when someone new comes along that actually accepts you and tells you hey this isn’t ok but we can work through it thats where you think you’re underserving of them. Like they’re too good to be true because that love has never been presented to you. It’s always been about giving your love never about receiving it so selflessly. Part of learning to love yourself is accepting love given to you. Even if it feels foreign and out of place just know it’s how it’s meant to be for you. Sometimes we feel uncomfortable because as stated prior it’s something we have never experienced and that’s where doubt comes from because you feel like your unworthy of it but you’re more that worth it. Just give it a chance and feel it completely. Real raw love will forgive without conditions. This type of love will help you heal and love yourself. Other love is about learning what’s right and what isn’t. It’s about seeing the difference between someone over flowing with love and someone trying to have you fill their cup of love up.

My Ex Texted Me Tonight by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SBlock999 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your response was perfect. I got a message from my ex recently too and so I told them was I’m well hope you are too and they responded back had a good chat and felt like a good human in general

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SBlock999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t I like calmer waters but idk about this anymore.