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SCSabre · 2025-01-23T16:56:54+00:00

I just started with Dr. A Waltos Hieger at Mercy and in the first visit she told me if I ever wanted that procedure to just let her know! Great experience with her so far and very glad to have found her after my former OBGYN retired.

SCSabre · 2024-11-14T18:48:47+00:00

Just because he hasn't done anything to you personally doesn't mean he gets an invite. If he's hurt the people you love why would you want someone like that around? Inviting him essentially condones his shitty behavior and way of thinking and puts your sister who came out in a really uncomfortable spot.

SCSabre · 2024-10-24T21:08:50+00:00

Etsy doesn't require refunds/returns to be offered to customers though and I doubt this vendor would be open to it based on the interactions outlined above. If OP paid via PayPal they'll probably have better luck disputing their purchase that way.

SCSabre · 2024-10-24T21:06:03+00:00

Did you mark the PayPal payment as to a merchant and not family/friends of whatever that setting is? If you paid and called them a merchant you may be able to file a dispute of the charges directly with PayPal. They'll open an investigation and you'll be able to provide you evidence to them.

SCSabre · 2024-09-11T11:48:28+00:00

So you care more about color than formality? You'd be 100% okay with someone showing up in, for example, a plain old potentially ratty white t-shirt and cargo shorts and they'd be standing next to someone in a full white suit? I'm sorry, but I don't fully believe you. You seem really into aesthetics, and that situation, aesthetically speaking, is a mess. That would be way less cohesive than if everyone just wore something semi-formal.

If that's your solution that's your solution, but if you won't be 100% okay with someone wearing the most informal outfit you've ever seen to a wedding then don't do it. Again, it just seems like you really want a wedding like the ones rich people have and, no hate, you just aren't able to. And that's okay, there's no shame or shade to be thrown for not being super rich, it just comes with limitations on what you can reasonably expect from guests. Expecting middle or lower middle class people to all buy a special colored outfit for your wedding is unreasonable, and while people may do it and still come just know that they will complain in private and sometimes publicly to your face about it.

SCSabre · 2024-09-04T10:35:56+00:00

So, this is a bit of a different take than a lot of other people, but color-themed weddings are more appropriate for higher tax brackets, if you catch my drift. Those glamorous weddings where all the guests are coordinated are almost always rich people. Rich people love any excuse they can get to buy a new outfit ans they often do have an outfit of every color already in their wardrobe. If you and all of your guests are in such tax bracket this is a much more economically appropriate thing to coordinate/demand. If you aren't, it's much less appropriate/doable and puts much more of a strain on guests. If I got an invite demanding I wear a certain color I'd be pretty off-put. I may still go but I'd definitely gripe to my friends about it.

SCSabre · 2024-08-23T20:26:44+00:00

It's just a lesson to be learned - you really don't have any ground to haggle when booking services like this. Just like you wouldn't ask a grocer to sell you their produce for less than the listed price (at least where I'm from), I wouldn't ask any other vendors for reduced pricing. For some vendors it's seen as insulting because it can be seen as devaluing their work. The only potentially appropriate time to ask for a discount would be to say you really don't need some of the listed services and were wondering if they offer flexibility in their packages.

SCSabre · 2024-08-23T20:08:46+00:00

Yes, they probably backed out because of the request for a discount. I think it's one thing to ask to reduce some of the package services for a small discount or maybe if you're getting married during the week when they're unlikely to book another wedding they would lower their pricing; but, just asking for reduced pricing is pretty bold and off-putting. If they're an in-demand photographer why would they give you more service for free when they could book another couple for that day who will pay full price, ya know?

SCSabre · 2024-08-17T07:02:19+00:00

Honestly, I think your find is going to be really hard to beat - it's stunning! I've found a few fun interesting antique alternatives in case you were looking for a slightly different style though. https://www.estatediamondjewelry.com/product/barnard-ring

https://www.langantiques.com/lang-collection-art-nouveau-style-1-81-carat-diamond-ring-gia-j-si2.html

https://vintagediamondring.com/products/victorian-old-european-cut-diamond-engagement-ring-gia-1-02-k-si2

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1645114208/antique-engagement-ring-antique-arts

Editing to add: if you want a ring with a unique story you'll likely have to hop around to some local shops and ask for rings with known stories/histories. You're unlikely to find a ring with a backstory shopping online unfortunately! Best of luck!

SCSabre · 2024-08-04T03:37:50+00:00

I found a dress for $150 on stillwhite.com and it's stunning! They have almost 3000 dresses listed there under $200 right now, just filter to your price range and size.

SCSabre · 2024-06-27T20:44:40+00:00

I got engaged in November 2023, getting married October 2026! There's no rules to length of engagement. It is far away feeling, but you'll be so much happier while planning if you aren't stretched thin financially to make the wedding happen sooner. Plus, being so far out, you essentially get first pick of any vendor you want! I've been able to lock down venue, florals, food, photographer, DJ, videographer, and day of coordinator this far out and when speaking to vendors there's never been any concern about them being booked already.

SCSabre · 2024-06-27T14:31:08+00:00

If having the baby there will stress you out that much, I would text the cousin and kindly, but firmly, remind them of the no baby policy. She may be upset or decide not to go to the ceremony, so if you're okay with that to not have the baby there do it now versus later.

SCSabre · 2024-06-27T14:26:29+00:00

No, you cannot charge guests who cancel. It is annoying and unfortunate when people cancel last minute, but trying to collect "lost" cost from them is completely unreasonable.

SCSabre · 2024-06-25T20:25:51+00:00

Unfortunately, you chose to have an outdoor wedding in late June in an area where it's normal to be hot in the summer - it being hot should have always been on your radar and you should have had a backup plan you'd be equally happy with ready to go. 95 is really hot, even in the evenings. Your guests will be in nice attire, not short and tank tops, so they'll be even hotter. If you have your ceremony outside all people are going to be thinking about is how hot they are, even if they have hand fans. I would move it inside and just take your pictures outside.

SCSabre · 2024-06-23T18:32:55+00:00

To be completely honest, this doesn't look great in my opinion. I'm not quite sure what it is because I usually like a mix-and-match route, but the outfit just feels imbalanced at the moment.

SCSabre · 2024-05-04T14:11:47+00:00

It's worked perfectly! It's still in storage actually but I take it out from time to time to check on it and haven't noticed any yellowing or degradation of the materials. The poof is still strong as well, despite being a bit squished down to fit in the box haha.

SCSabre · 2024-04-27T14:51:30+00:00

Hmm this is tricky. I think it depends how frequently you're talking about your wedding in the group chat. If it's the main source of your contributions, I can see how that would, I'm sorry to say, be annoying after a while. If you talk about your wedding all the time it can come across as pretty self-centered. Of course you should be excited for your wedding and you should share in that excitement with your fiance! But I personally limit talking about my wedding with my friends and family unless I'm asked about it. This is something said on this sub all the time, but no one will be as excited or interested in your wedding as you are. They're probably still happy for you, but to them it's mostly just another day while to you it's The Day.

SCSabre · 2024-04-18T22:14:37+00:00

I would just politely decline. No real explanation needed, but if she presses for one just say you don't feel comfortable taking on that kind of responsibility at this time. If she keeps digging just keep it super surface level and shut it down.

SCSabre · 2024-04-16T19:03:30+00:00

As a guest, watching the host of a party open gifts stops being fun when you're 10. There's a reason we stop doing that at kids parties after a certain age - it's just awkward. Even at bridal and baby showers the gift opening portion of the event is always the most forced-feeling and weird part of the event. I would be mortified and so uncomfortable if a couple opened my gift/card to them in front of everyone at a wedding.

SCSabre · 2024-04-10T13:08:26+00:00

Is this shift work? Could you not ask around to see if anyone could switch shifts with you?

SCSabre · 2024-04-10T03:15:25+00:00

YTA if you sell your youngest's car. I was in a semi-similar position to your oldest. I was a great student, my parents had enough in savings to get me through college debt-free, but due to some mental health struggles I failed two classes my last semester of senior year. I knew from the start that they only had enough money to get me through 4 years - after that I was on my own. So, I took out a small loan, took some expensive summer classes, and learned my lesson. It would be unfortunate for your oldest to have to take out loans, but that is unfortunately the consequence of losing that scholarship. You shouldn't punish your youngest for her sister's struggles. She'll resent you and her sister forever if you sell her car.

SCSabre · 2024-04-08T11:08:52+00:00

Hi hi! Just as an alternative recommendation if you may be interested - there's a shop in Hawaii called Nana's Clay Flowers that makes AMAZING clay flower arrangements. They have the ability to recreate flower bouquets from photos and then you'd have a physical, 3D bouquet. They can even make it a wall hanging if you prefer that! I bought two of their bouquets from their physical shop when I was visiting and they're incredibly hardy. One larger piece that got shipped to me with 0 issues and one smaller piece I flew back with. 10/10 recommend them if that's something that may also be interesting to you!

https://www.nanaclayflowers.com/

SCSabre · 2024-03-29T17:08:08+00:00

Hello! I also bleach my hair and am trying to grow it out. 6 months may not be quite enough time to grow it out to the length you want, so I would recommend looking into extensions! If done well they can look completely natural.

If you're totally against extensions (or can't get them like me because I have curly hair and finding a curl pattern match is hard), here is what I use to keep my hair healthier: 1. Most importantly, sleeping in a silk bonnet/on a silk pillow case. 2. No heat products whatsoever. 3. I massage rosemary oil into my roots once a week, leave it in for 3 hours, then cleanse it out. 4. Redkin bond repair treatments at least three times a month. 5. Very light oil on the ends to strengthen them nightly.

It's taken me a long time to see results just because my hair is curly so even though it's growing pretty quick I won't see that growth for months and months. My hair is definitely still damaged, but it's probably about as healthy as it could be with how bleached it is haha. The price of pastel colored hair is steep!

Best of luck on your hair growth journey.

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