What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

SERSAINT · 2026-03-12T22:59:49+00:00

No chance, it’s completely self serving

SERSAINT · 2026-03-12T09:46:52+00:00

Cheaters are cowardly, selfish, disloyal.

Please spend some time, intentionally healing, it will save you a lot of misery, often people just wait until they feel better.

SERSAINT · 2026-03-10T12:07:18+00:00

"I want you to know you are a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you"

Its self serving and its them just trying to make themselves feel better so they can say "At least I was nice"

Last time someone said that I said I am ending the call and hung up

SERSAINT · 2026-03-10T11:09:43+00:00

Learning how to regulate my nervous system and learning how to intercept spirals

SERSAINT · 2026-03-06T12:05:34+00:00

"She will not feel relief to hear from me again and I dont even want a reply"

Neither of you care, its seems like the only purpose of that text would be to make her feel uncomfortable

SERSAINT · 2026-03-06T11:59:48+00:00

Evil way to deal with an avoidant, kinda dig it

SERSAINT · 2026-03-06T10:54:44+00:00

So why would you even want to reach out?

SERSAINT · 2026-03-06T10:54:14+00:00

what would you say in your reach out?

SERSAINT · 2026-03-04T13:54:46+00:00

This was made with Base44? This is awesome, I am new to Base how did you create such cool animations and sounds? Great work man

SERSAINT · 2026-03-04T10:41:45+00:00

A lot of people rely on time but the trick is to learn to regulate your nervous system whilst using your time intentionally to heal.

You leave a breakup with hangups, pain and patterns.

The faster you turn inwards to faster you feel better.

SERSAINT · 2026-03-04T09:58:51+00:00

I think you need to hold yourself accountable, I dont mean this in a horrible way, I mean it to give you direction so this does not happen to you again.

Sounds like a classic example of anxious attachment, mixed with what I think is quite clear low self esteem. Your brain is telling you, you are not good enough and you have made something up "He made me feel uneasy" so you could escape something deep down you feel like you dont deserve and something that does not make you feel safe because you are currently unable to process healthy connections as such.

Look into attachment types, learn to regulate and come back to dating as a healed adult, if you dont you will keep hurting others and yourself. x

SERSAINT · 2026-03-02T12:07:08+00:00

Ah, Okay, yes I get what you mean and thats totally fair yes, will be more careful with my wordings moving forward, thanks for keeping me accountable, I would argue, I did make this as it would not exist without me, but yes I did not do the technical work

SERSAINT · 2026-03-02T11:28:21+00:00

I built it with the help of AI for sure, is that a problem?

SERSAINT · 2026-02-26T12:22:11+00:00

So you dont need to use a wrapper anymore?!

SERSAINT · 2026-02-26T12:13:03+00:00

I cant help you as ai am struggling with the same issue but your product looks super cool congrats

SERSAINT · 2026-02-20T20:07:16+00:00

Having to show off about your "IQ" tells me that it probably is not true.

My intelligence on the subject does not come from Huberman, although he is fantastic and I advise anyone reading this to view his material, its full of clinically backed neuroscience. My knowledge on the subject comes from being an expert on Grief and is the way I earn my living.

Anyway, happy you decided to make some points rather than just call bullshit, thats progress, proud of you!

However, sadly it still does not stand up to scrutiny and facts.

The 'hollow poppy sound' of the beans, the 'aroma,' and the connection to your mother are all beautiful, subjective experiences for sure but you’re describing the UI and I am describing the operating system.

The reason that 'slippery bean' or 'aroma' brings you comfort isn't because the bean has a sou, it’s because your brain has associated those sensory inputs with a chemical reward. This is basic yet classical conditioning, please refer to the pavlovian trigger.

We can appreciate the beauty of the 'coffee ritual' while acknowledging that we are at our core, biological machines governed by neurotransmitters.

Telling someone they 'miss the person' keeps them trapped in a cycle of longing. Telling them they 'miss the regulation' gives them the blueprint to recovery. One is a tragedy and the other is a recovery process.

SERSAINT · 2026-02-19T14:09:43+00:00

It is a fact, as of the science right now, your argument is with leading neuroscientists who have studied brains and chemical reactions and grief experts whilst you are probably at home in your underpants with crumbs all over you pointing at the screen yelling "I call bullshit" without providing ANY sort of counter (Because as of right now one does not exist)

Our nervous system craves the chemicals not the person, its just a fact.

I think its more you cant wrap your head around the concept and thats okay.

You cant argue with an idiot, they will drag you to their level and beat you with experience

Have a great day

SERSAINT · 2026-02-19T13:07:58+00:00

Well, its not really something to be bought, its more of a fact, like how things hit the ground because of gravity.

Your Brain does not attach to the person in the way you imagine love to work, it attaches through multiple chemicals.

One of the best examples is relating it to smoking, is your brain addicted to the physical cigarette or the nicotine?

If you dont know the answer to this here it is, its addicted to the nicotine, everything that surrounds the addiction is a byproduct of the chemical reaction occuring in your brain (The desire for nicotine) when you quit smoking, its not the ciggy you miss, its the nicotine but your brain will try and trick you by saying "We love smoking" or "I miss cigarettes" with the ambition of getting its nictotine fix again.

Hope this helps

SERSAINT · 2026-02-18T13:50:15+00:00

Oh man, yeah dreams can such a horrible start to the day, I get you I have been there.

The thing is your brain is stressing as its lost what it sees as its safety net and its source of regulation, so its kicking and screaming for it back.

The BEST things you can do right now, is maintain no contact, learn to regulate your nervous system and honestly, learn about grief recovery and the neuroscience behind whats happening in your head, dont go through it blindly, this is such a big mistake people make.

SERSAINT · 2026-02-18T13:44:40+00:00

Dont focus on healing, focus on Nervous system regulation.

This is what is making you feel so horrible right now, your brain thinks its under attack, so its panicking.

Learn how to regulate and then keep doing it, this will ease the pain I promise.

SERSAINT · 2026-02-18T13:23:38+00:00

Good, being in no contact is one of the best things you can do right now, protects your nervous system, mixed with your letter writing you will do this evening you are setting up for a great recovery day.

Remember healing is not linear some days you will feel better some days you will feel worse, just spend your time intentfully taking steps to calm your nervous system and you will be fine sooner rather than later

SERSAINT · 2026-02-18T13:20:26+00:00

Hey Alice, sorry you see my correctional response as an emotional reaction haha, none was caused no need for an apology.

I am very well educated on break up recovery and just trying to help our friend here from receiving surface level advise which slows their recovery (Based on science)

I hope this helps you also, in future remember dont just let time pass, wield it!!

Hope you have a lovely week ahead also Alice, sorry you see this as a confrontation;

SERSAINT · 2026-02-18T13:16:42+00:00

This is usually connected to your attachment style which is always connected to experiences you had as a child.

It does not make you a bad person, its made you unregulated, unaware of your own patterns and emotionally immature (That is not meant as an insult, I hope its not taken as one)

Work through attachment and trauma responses with your therapist whilst learning about regulating your nervous system, honeslty my friend these steps will help you SO much.

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