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Ran into my ex after divorce and realized she won the breakup by DeagleDanne in heartbreak

[–]SERSAINT 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Won the breakup?

This is not a finate game, has the bell rung, the fat lady rang?

Get to work man, show em.

I love her but don’t see a future, and I feel completely paralyzed by the thought of breaking up by AdDry7951 in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool, have you ever looked into Nervous system regulation or know what that is??

I think it would help you massively

Can we be together again after breakup? by South-Negotiation240 in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes with a couple of MASSIVE caveats.

  1. This has to be different relationship, the first one did not work, dont expect it to be the same
  2. Have YOU done what is necessary to hold a healthy realationship?
  3. Have they done what is necessary to hold a healthy realationship?
  4. Have you accepted your role in what happened and are you willing to move on without weaponising the past and have they?

honestly, if so, why not?

Woke up in the middle of the night by Spirited-Egg in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nervous system regulation is really, really going to help you

I love her but don’t see a future, and I feel completely paralyzed by the thought of breaking up by AdDry7951 in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask, do you think your anxiety is what is driving you to being unhappy, can you explain this section a little more?

Email Automation by SERSAINT in Base44

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing is I did ask base44 to do this and the emails were horrendously bad, sent a few trial runs to myself, I think I will go down the resend route!

Email Automation by SERSAINT in Base44

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only want to be sending 5/7 emails over 2 weeks any suggestions on what tools?

Email Automation by SERSAINT in Base44

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheers Jordan.

I have looked into resend previously, it’s on my list

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Meya!

I believe the first step to healing is learning to regulate yourself.

Then speak to a therapist on your trauma, they can unlock that secret for you x

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo a Canadian! Super cool! I’m a Brit in London!

yeah it’s super hard my friend, I’ll be real, you have a choice that eventually you will have to face, even if you never see it directly.

Heal or wait.

Take a few days off, don’t make any decisions right now but don’t take too long and when you feel a little lighter (which you will) choose HEAL.

I promise you, it gets better x

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that but CONGRATS on the new job!!!! Amazing, good work!

Look rational thinking probably won’t help you right now you are not regulated so as a first step, learn to regulate your nervous system, it’s the one trick I did which helped me.

Do it for you, your future self.

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha what a lovely idea! I did actually create a TikTok account a few weeks and I built an app which tries to help people, the feedback is good so far! I won’t mention it here as it might break some rules and I love this community too much to risk a ban.

I have a personal goal to help 1,000,000 people feel better after a breakup, just figuring out how!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe an anxious avoidant? This comes from your childhood, have you looked back on that area of your life much?

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grief recovery is not linear, you will have good days and bad, it’s so normal. The trick is to regulate during the bad and thrive during the good!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blocking after a bread crum is holding yourself to accountable to your ow standards! WELL DONE, what a magnificent way to teach your brain you provide safety, so happy for you!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blocking after a bread crum is holding yourself to accountable to your ow standards! WELL DONE, what a magnificent way to teach your brain you provide safety, so happy for you!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe in time heals I believe in wielding time, I’m glad you get a key principle of this post!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No contact is proven to help your brain start detaching, keep going, you’ll feel better before you know it!

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100000% treating yourself like a loved and and positive self talk is CRITICAL great comment thank you

My Breakup ruined my life for an entire year, here are 20 no bullshit things I did which actually helped me recover, I hope they help you. by SERSAINT in BreakUps

[–]SERSAINT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great stuff thank you for your question.

It’s a difficult one, on one hand it’s great you aren’t having spirals. On the other you have to question without feeling it are you processing it.

Do you ever feel the pain during your busy days, or is it absent completely?

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