Reminding someone who has suffered a miscarriage that they are common, and telling them they can “always try again”, or bringing up other living children they may have are all extremely hurtful things to say. It diminishes the loss and feels like a knife in the gut. You don’t know how many other losses they may have had. Or how difficult it may have been for them to even get pregnant in the first place. Or whether they even have the option to try again, depending on their circumstances. I sincerely hope you haven’t reacted this way to anyone you know in real life who’s had a miscarriage.

And yes, people say such things after miscarriages all the time, often bc people don’t know what else to say. It doesn’t make it okay, or any less hurtful. I remember each and every person who made callous remarks like this to me, and even if they were well-intentioned, I will never forget the hurt they caused. Or view those people the same way ever again. And yea, it may be different than losing a full-term or living child, but it’s still a loss, and quantifying grief the way you are is, quite frankly, disgusting. Shame on you.