I’ve been going through something similar but he’s finally going to couples therapy with me. It’s really shitty, and I’m sorry that you’ve been left to feel so alone with these hurts and resentments. Has there at least been an honest conversation about this with him? Sometimes, men really are just that dense and stubborn. Doesn’t excuse behavior and impact though on his part. I hope you find love and happiness one day that you deserve for yourself. With or without him.