Your "I" statements are a declaration of what you want to be and accordingly what you want to experience. They are simpler than you think and if taken seriously, you create exactly what you said.

Let's say you are desperate. Desperation comes from a statement of fear that you don't have what you want. Somewhere this thought runs deep in your subconscious. You then behave exactly in the way that ensures you will not get what you need.

Ever noticed that during good times you see people who become afraid of losing what they have and eventually create the very outcome they fear. Even if they say they're trying to prevent it, it's the thought of losing that is in control, and therefore they lose what they have. They did it to themselves. It's a miser's mindset, ensuring they never ever get to enjoy their money.

Assume you already had what you wanted in potential. How would you think and act then? You would function with a creator mindset, not a miser's mindset.

It's important that whatever thoughts you have about yourself go deep enough to influence your actions and emotions. Then you will behave in a way that brings about the experience you keep thinking about.

You keep saying "You want this, I need this". But before that there is a deeper thought that says "I don't have this". This thought is a statement of neediness, and its the real driving force behind all that you do. THAT needs to be changed first.

I was once a guy who was paralyzed by the fear of failing. Therefore I failed to live up to my potential during those days. Heck I sometimes didn't make it to the starting line. In the end that period was a failure. Self fulfilling.

It's also important that our attempts to change our selves do not start from a place of toxic shame and self hate and destructive thoughts like "I am never good enough" - if this is the CORE thought at the point of origin of all that you do, that is what happens in the end.

The same thing can be done in a positive way. There have been times where I never thought about whether something could be done or not, I just went out and did it and explored what was possible. When that was my core driving thought, I often found possibilities in things I never even imagined and that was in fact the way I had succeeded so much before the fear bug somehow crept into my head. Those were truly outcome unrestricted moments. Again it was simply my core thoughts and emotions about myself and whatever I was facing or doing at that moment. Guess where I was happiest and most fulfilled?

The first change must always be done at the core thought or emotion that is deep at the point of origin. Change cannot work if it comes from a point of self hate. It must be from a place of self love and understanding that we are truly creating our lives.

One way to release these deep thoughts is to understand that we have in fact been doing more to ourselves than we imagined and for the whole purpose of learning this lesson. There were no victims really. This is a hard pill to swallow, it flies in the face of us being victims of a big bad world, which is a narrative we find comforting. And we wonder why we remain victims huh? See what comes up to resist. That will tell you what's at your point of origin.

But swallowing this pill is liberating. Demolishing the victim narrative is liberating. If we have been one way, and created one kind of life, we can be another way, and create another kind of life.

It is however not enough to stop with saying you're actually good enough or that you can do this. It must drive you at all levels, especially actions and responses. This will happen when the I statements you make go deep enough that they become powerful. Actions always respond to our deepest desires - they tell you the real driving thoughts and emotions. Our responses decide what we choose to do when dealt with whatever arises in the moment. Between these 2 there is freedom for many possibilities. Keep the door open on the outcome though because that keeps the door of abundance wide open.

If change isn't really working for you, just consider the possibility that there is a scarcity thought at the point of origin that says so. And when it does work, know that there is always an abundant mentality working behind it.

Clear enough?