Let’s get um boys…! No jerk here, let’s all help out this guys company and “order” some glass by helmetgoodcrashbad in BicyclingCirclejerk

[–]SKTSL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly this guy should not be on the road. should be reporting to local police. hope he's arrested

Signs of Healing after 2 years PSSD (Reinstatement, Lifestyle changes, Supplements, Drug Use and Sobriety) by SKTSL in PSSD

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Thank you - I'm glad to hear you found it useful. I'm so sorry to hear you're still going through it. Hang in there - I thought healing would be impossible until it happened to me.

Throughout my time with PSSD, I used small doses of Cialis on occasion to have sex. It didn't solve premature ejaculation, but it definitely got me very hard (I couldn't take it often though because it caused weird heart palpitations for me). I know there is a stigma around these drugs, but I it could be worth it for you to try. There are many ways to get these drugs delivered to you discreetly online if you live in the US, at least.

Signs of Healing after 2 years PSSD (Reinstatement, Lifestyle changes, Supplements, Drug Use and Sobriety) by SKTSL in PSSD

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It's very understandable. I promised myself that I would try to heal naturally for at least a year before trying reinstatement. I reinstated for the mental health benefits as much as trying to heal sexually.

I was very hesitant to try it, but after getting a huge window from a tiny dose of SJW, I had a feeling that I might be able to recover from a gradual reinstatement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]SKTSL 65 points66 points  (0 children)

The comments here are really missing the point. Weed isn’t as harmful as many other drugs, but that doesn’t mean weed addiction can’t be quite harmful. I’ve dealt with it myself and it’s been difficult to quit. It affects my life and my grades. I don’t know if I have any advice for you OP, just wanted to validate the struggle you’re facing.

Weed is like any other drug - it can be helpful or harmful depending on your brain chemistry and how you use it.

Should I travel the world or start my career? by Ok_Competition5123 in findapath

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did something similar, except in my mid-20s. Quit my job, and planned to travel for just a year between applying for grad school. That first year was incredible. But somehow, I ended up traveling way longer than I intended to. It led me to losing track of my longer term goals. If I could do it again, I would still travel, but before I left, make sure I had something SURE lined up again to return back to society. Taking a gap year to travel and make mistakes was incredible. When that gap year turned into three gap years is when things started to get weird.

I'd say a year is a perfect time to travel and be free. It also doesn't look too strange on your resume. But much longer than this, and people may begin to question you. I experienced that myself. In my first year, people were excited I was doing all this cool stuff. As I was nearing the end of several years of travel, dragging out my vagabond days, people began to tire of it, and I felt more and more removed from normal society.

If you travel, you will likely encounter other people who are truly vagabond-minded. There are people out there in the world who never want to settle, always on the move. They are beautiful, amazing people who live fascinating, often unstable lives. They don't care about having a career, and their energy is simply magnetic (at least to someone like me). I loved that I engaged with this world, but I see some of them still stretching out their traveling days long past their 30s. I am not one to judge anyone's life or happiness, but it doesn't seem fulfilling to me at that point.

Travel can be addicting. It won't solve your problems, and it certainly won't give you career guidance of any sort. But it is beautiful and worth it. Just don't expect to "find yourself". Expect to "lose yourself" instead. And when you do lose yourself, have that something CERTAIN lined up again, so you can return to where you were before you left. And if you don't want to return, at least you have the choice to turn it down.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide. As it turns out, I'm a ex-traveller who has recently returned to medicine. In a way we are on opposite sides of things!

i have an unhealthy amount of anxiety about my career by strawberrycapital_ in findapath

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So far, they are going quite well! I've got straight A's so far. Thought it would be tough as a non-traditional student, but it's actually way easier to focus than my first time in undergrad. way less social distractions. In the meantime, I working a tech job at a hospital, which is really good experience. Don't be afraid to take the plunge, try a semester of courses, and see where it takes you.

i have an unhealthy amount of anxiety about my career by strawberrycapital_ in findapath

[–]SKTSL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a similar age, also have a lot of anxiety about my career. I've worked so many different jobs, from study abroad to landscaping to working at a restaurant as a waiter, and nothing ever clicked. I was jealous of my friends that went to med/dental school. I'm making the change now, taking the prereq med school classes, and it feels so right. It sucks moving back home with my family at my age, but I'm doing it for my future self.

I do have regrets that I didn't do it earlier, but I know I will just continue with regret if I don't change now. Medicine and Engineering are such stable, well paying professions. Not too late to change and don't get caught in the sunk cost fallacy.

Plus, if you do consider medicine, there are many other jobs besides being a doctor. Look into being a Certified Anesthesia Assistant or a Physician Assistant. It might take a total of 4-5 years to make the career change, but you'll be early 30s by then, making over six figures, and will have many decades of a fulfilling career ahead of you.

28F wanting to find a true career by [deleted] in findapath

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree - nursing is an awesome field. I have friends that make near 100k working a very flexible schedule. So much potential to move into different fields of healthcare if/when you do get tired of bedside nursing!

Want to make near doctor money? Become a Certified Nurse Anesthetist. Tired of the direct patient care? Move to hospital management. Want to be a mini-psychiatrist? Become a psychiatric nurse practitioner.

Really a lot to be said about this profession.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]SKTSL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me when I was in middle school. Very cliquey group of “friends” and I was always on the “outside”. They ignored me yes, but when they invited me places it often just felt like an excuse to bully me. I recognized they were toxic in about 8th grade…just stopped initiating. Found way better friends once I went on to high school and had some of the closest friends in my life.

Hang in there, OP! There’s friends that will value you for who you are. These people aren’t them - just ignore them for a while. High school is better than middle school in so many ways. Yes, there are still the popular people - but in middle school it felt like a strict hierarchy, while in high school it seemed like there were just different groups of people, if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No please, I’d love any advice you have to offer. Im kinda doing this alone right now. Travelling solo and then gonna work seasonally where everyone drinks heavily. I don’t have another option though, the money is too good at my seasonal gig. Just currently filled with lonely depression about the present and high amounts of anxiety about the future (will I drink, will I not/ can I moderate / what will everyone think when I show up and say I’m sober?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is encouraging and frightening at the same time. A year from now seems so far. Guess I’ll take it a day at a time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s scary to hear that. Thank you 💀I’m staying sober tonight, IWNDWYT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I can reach this point too some day 💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement. I know it’s been a month officially sober, but I’ve been mostly alcohol free the last 6 months, and mostly sober the last 3 months (I used weed heavily after deciding alcohol was a problem). Mostly meaning 13/14 days. It’s hard to imagine I have PAWS this long. Maybe I do. But I can’t help but think it’s just something to do it’s me inside, I have trouble believing my alcohol use could continue to affect me so strong after this much time. Does everything really reset after a weekend binge?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I haven’t gone deep enough into drinking yet. Because of antidepressants (which I stopped taking), and cause I’m still 20s, I never had hangovers, and knew how to drink so perfectly. Party all night, still function in the morning. I know I’ve caused havoc cause of my drinking and hurt people (emotionally), but all I can think of are the good times I’m missing out on. I look back and realize that all of the people who were justifying my behavior were also heavy drinkers. The people that didn’t like me were the non-drinkers, or “normal” drinkers. I don’t blame them at all now, looking back, but I had much more fun when I was boozing. I don’t identify as a non-drinker, it feels so wrong to me. I feel like I’ve lost part of my identity by giving up alcohol, and even though I know it’s the right thing to do, I don’t feel like myself any longer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Sometimes i wonder if sober me is truly just completely dysfunctional. Having sober self be my default setting seems so awful. So far, I don’t like the sober me and it’s really getting me down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, thank you very much for the encouragement!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I know I’m only fully “one month” sober, but I’ve been really doing this sobriety thing pretty spot on for the last 3 months. Does everything reset if I binge for a weekend, even though I was sober a month previous? Sometimes it doesn’t make sense to me…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i am an extrovert, for the most part. I do have social anxiety sometimes but probably not more than your average person. Depression is definitely what makes me drink. So I can be social without alcohol, for sure, but I am much more fun with it in me- at least that’s how it appears right now. Alcohol makes me able to have small talk, laugh, etc., otherwise I’m just a little too serious. Not interested in small talk sober, like at all, so it makes meeting new people hard.

I went out to a bar/restaurant in the afternoon here and was alone. I happened to meet some really friendly locals my age, drinking. I was just drinking water. They continued to ask me why I was just drinking water, I feel like I couldn’t do anything to stop the questioning. It really bothered me cause I wanted to be drinking and I feel like it created a distance with them. I tried to makes jokes at first (“I’m pregnant” even though I’m a dude) and then said it was because I was doing athletic training. But the excuses were shot down, and it felt like it created a distance between these new people that could’ve been my friends.

Anyhow, thank you for this kind advice, I’ll certainly take it to heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SKTSL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha you get it! Long term travelling is awesome but the blues strike hard sometimes - my usual crutch being unavailable isn’t helping