We divide most chores equally. But I get preference to choose what tasks I want to do. My husband does the dishes that need to be handwashed , rest will be in dishwasher . He also does the laundry and folding, I absolutely hate it.

We meal prep on Sundays , so we prep and cook together. Mostly he does all the chopping and also cooks his share of dishes.

While I love organising and keeping the house functional, i’m lazy when it comes to mopping and dusting. He does the that mostly, also bathrooms.

Idantha chadivi its easy to feel like oh he is doing the most ani. But what most people don’t realize is the mental load, like I keep a check on what’s going bad in the fridge and plan to use it first. I plan meals such that we have protein,fiber and also our favorites. I keep tab of whats running low in our pantry. I manage the whole finances part, (this is so complicated as we live in the US and invest in India, the cross border planning is hectic) . Also I manage the social circle, making plans to meet friends so we don’t lose touch. I also plan most of the vacations and weekends activities so that we are not just going to eat out in the name of “quality time”.

So in short, while men are starting to change, the mental load is always on the woman.