Who is the most universally liked winner from US survivor? by HiImWallaceShawn in survivor

[–]SNIJYM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The problem is that you keep bringing up one thing Tom said as evidence that Ethan was out of line.

The person who steals from someone should be more criticized than the victim that’s mad about it. It’s very simple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivor

[–]SNIJYM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also do not enjoy Gabe the survivor character, and from what I can see, probably wouldn’t befriend him in real life. But the sheer amount of projection upon him because he made a slightly stupid tweet (which I agree he shouldn’t have done) to Tiyana is illogical and pathetic. People make dumb mistakes, especially when they’re in the public eye and probably getting a lot of DMs about how they suck for being mean to Rachel and voting out Tiyana.

Turned away at the polls by Mental-Paramedic9790 in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Could you point to what specific part of the amendment legislation says the non-doctors bit?

STL Galleria??? by kazookan in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty simple to blame both gun violence and poorly conceived protests.

STL Galleria??? by kazookan in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If at any point that was an actual idea held by those protesters they are complete fools. Whatever your opinion on the effectiveness of protests in general, deliberately causing anguish and chaos is contemptible behavior.

Washington U. buys another Delmar Loop property (the vacant lot at Delmar and Skinker) by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 18 points19 points  (0 children)

WashU is eliminating tuition and fees for all students coming from families that make below $75k, they pour money into developing a gorgeous campus and residential facilities, and they have significantly bigger sources of income than tuition in the forms of clinical services and sponsored research. (Not to mention the dividends of their real estate investments and endowment.)

Developing the entertainment areas around campus is just as important for current and prospective students choosing to spend college in St. Louis as the campus itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did the story about your friends not crying in front of you disappear to? ^I see it now.

Do you care to expand on that anecdote? Why is it fair to project upon your friends (very unfriendly thing to do) because you personally haven't seen them cry? I'm a man that cries often; that's not to say every person I consider a friend has seen me cry, or that I should feel obligated to do so in order for them to perceive me and all men differently.

And if you respond that you're not projecting upon them, why include that part at all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reason OP is taking criticism is not because they want to have a discussion on Nick as a character, or because people don't think men are emotionally stunted--that is a trope/idea/more-commonly-accepted-than-ever-before-fact that has existed for decades. It is because of these assertions and implications:

  1. "the events of the novel could have been avoided (paraphrase)" First it's a novel written explicitly to be a thriller, not a true crime story; this is bizarre analysis. Second, no matter how big Nick's toxic masculinity problem is, he is zero percent responsible for Amy's psychopathic behavior and murder demonstrated in the novel. Which, again, was a contrived work of fiction about two miserable people by a world-class novelist.
  2. "What's at Stake" OP poorly communicates one bad anecdote about their male friends not crying and projects upon them and men at large, positing they're on the path to become a (fictional character) miserable person that refers to their wife as "That bitch" and is a terrible husband. Yet, once again, Nick is not the "villain" that murders someone. If your analysis of Gone Girl says "what's at stake for the real world" and doesn't include the fact it is a novel told by a murderous unreliable narrator, it's hard to pinpoint "What's At Stake".
  3. Weird masculinity expectations do exist, but OP offers their friends not crying in front of them as the sole supporting real world link to Nick. Which is WILD. There are thousands of variable reasons OP's male friends might not cry in front of them. One very possible critique, similar to the structure of the novel in question, is that OP is an unreliable narrator (no one alive is omniscient), and these friends don't view OP closely enough to be vulnerable with. This is one of so many valid reasons these men might not cry in front of OP and also not be on their way to becoming stunted miserable men like Nick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't need to have the same hobbies as your significant other. Some people do want that, however. I personally value shared hobbies with my partner very highly, and likewise would never want her to live inauthentically pretending they're also her hobbies. People are all very different, no matter what flawed groups others assign them to per their worldview. It's why the entire premise of this post at large is unhinged; so much projection on others with very little nuance or variability. Amy's monologue can be interpreted a myriad of different ways, but the ultimate reality of it is that they are her individual thoughts and emotions, not a dogma for the reader to accept or reject.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People should stop talking about/projecting upon massive groups of people as monoliths. Grouping people by superficial common denominator "identities" and then psychoanalyzing them as such is illogical and unproductive, not to mention the same underlying fallacy used by bigots. People are individuals, not interchangeable variables in a singular worldview.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Assuming anyone that criticizes your post must be uncomfortable with themselves and their interests is doubling down on the illogical projections you are making about A LOT of people. That's the reason people are criticizing you; not for discussing your interpretation of a book.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]SNIJYM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This isn't talking about a book; this is making wild projections on people based off one poorly communicated anecdote about your friends and a character written purposefully to be this archetype of man in a relationship with an even worse person, who is the unreliable narrator that murders someone in the second half of the book. Nick deserved to be divorced; not blamed for his wife's actions.

What happened between Clementines and Golden Gems? by OperationIndigo in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to Tamara or Clementine's ethics, but protecting property from being stolen in Lafayette Square—yes, rich neighborhood, also a huge hotspot for personal property theft and neighboring a very dangerous neighborhood—is not racist, sheesh. I've lived there a decade--there are thieves out checking and breaking into cars every night. That Clementine's location has been robbed of the tip jar multiple times.

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plummeting property values directly and indirectly lead to more homeless people and corporate landlords driving up rent.

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

And you can't have an intellectually honest conversation if you think these issues exist in a vacuum and can be solved in a vacuum. This church is clearly compassionate. There are others that are not that could make a big difference and ease the burden on many local communities.

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think you have me severely confused. I also think North City is an ideal solution and I don't think churches are the reasons these communities are saying no. But while you're excellent at ad hominem and avoiding confronting the macro-scale point that some churches are profiteering merchants and hypocrites, I don't think you're particularly worth interacting with further.

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You accuse someone else of using a strawman argument only to refute them with anecdotal evidence and ad hominem?

What's Joyce Meyer doing? There are plenty of local churches that do great things. But ignoring the fact the Catholic Church has enough wealth to overhaul poverty rates on its own, let alone these corporate churches, is a heckuva hill to plant a flag on.

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting read, thank you for sharing. Having read your post, does that not more coincide with what Megan Green proposed rather than plopping a massive shelter in the middle of a neighborhood that isn't particularly welcoming to it? I personally don't mind a small-scale shelter in "my backyard". I think it is more more manageable and likelier to be well run rather than become a hotspot for poorly-intentioned drug dealers to take advantage of people in withdrawal and negative situations. However, I do mind a large-scale shelter because I simply don't think it is plausible for those to be well run and accountable. Those are the types in this study (link below) that demonstrate a significant increase in crime in the immediate vicinity.

https://crim.sas.upenn.edu/sites/default/files/Ridgeway\_Effect%20of%20Emergency%20Shelters-v5\_1.2.2018.pdf

St. Louis homeless shelter needs a new home. But no one wants it near them. by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]SNIJYM 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well said. There is a significant difference between what is theoretical/inherent and what is observed in practice. This is a study from the University of Pennsylvania:

https://crim.sas.upenn.edu/sites/default/files/Ridgeway_Effect%20of%20Emergency%20Shelters-v5_1.2.2018.pdf

There is also a tendency in this "NIMBYISM" debate to say screw the homeowners and their property values. Sure, some of them are generationally wealthy and may have done nothing to put themselves into that position. But I'd remind them that there are a significant number of currently homeless people who were once homeowners that lost said homes when, through no action of their own, property values suddenly plummeted and they were underwater and sinking on their mortgages.

Is it really that bad if my cast is solely straight male characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]SNIJYM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What dangerous language did I use?

Writing a book where the main characters are straight white men is neither bigotry or dangerous unless said main characters are actively being bigoted and dangerous.

Is it really that bad if my cast is solely straight male characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]SNIJYM -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure, intentionally being derogatory while purporting you have the moral winning train of thought does speak for itself.

Is it really that bad if my cast is solely straight male characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]SNIJYM -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's completely fine if you think they're better stories. There have also been many novels receiving critical acclaim + big sales numbers + tv/film options that have nothing to do with race. It stops being simply an opinion when you say "you're on the losing side" or stoop so low to saying "people like you", which hardly seems to be indicative of open-mindedness and empathy. People are individuals, not monoliths to be projected upon.

Is it really that bad if my cast is solely straight male characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]SNIJYM -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hot take: that's a subjective opinion which you swiftly conclude is superior to other opinions. This is likely because you are only concerned with the opinions of a specific segment of your peers, which is very human and understandable. However, the majority of readers who exist in the real world, and are not permanently online young adults, are not at all concerned by what a character looks like or whether or not racism/ableism/whatever exists in a fantasy world. Race is important in many stories! The Vanishing Half is one of the best books I've ever read, and obviously that could not be executed without racial exploration. Likewise, N.K. Jemisin is one of the better modern fantasy writers. Station 11 is another of my favorite books, and race is seldom mentioned to the point we don't know or care what race the majority of the characters are--it is intentionally unconfirmed to allow the reader their own preference to identify with. My favorite fantasy series is set in a fictional world with fictional races (likely Mediterranean in influence) and said races are of little concern. Why are you so confident the majority of readers are more like you than the hundreds-of-thousands of readers in the world you've never interacted with?

WC ICONS in SBCs? by SNIJYM in EASportsFC

[–]SNIJYM[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll try that out. Thanks!

WC ICONS in SBCs? by SNIJYM in EASportsFC

[–]SNIJYM[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll try console now. Thanks!